Originally Posted by Coolbeginnings
Thank you Sugar Cane everything you are saying makes total sense.

So glad Sugar Cane is helping you.

Originally Posted by Coolbeginnings
I think things with BF are going well. I need to stop focusing on the lease of the house or him going cold.

You could see the extension of the lease as an act of love. He wants to find a way to make this work and knows the time is needed.

Originally Posted by Coolbeginnings
He has stopped drinking.

Has he agreed to go to AA? He is not going to be able to shake the addiction unless he gets support. Anyone can stop for a while. Then a trigger comes along and it is back to the beginning again. Gently guide him to the next step.

3 adult children
Divorced - he was a serial adulterer
Now remarried, thank you MB
(formerly lied_to_again)