Originally Posted by Coolbeginnings
I don’t understand any of this. At all, there is no sense or logic. HE insisted the kids stay here without any overnights at his, but continued to keep his house in the week and then his family at weekends. He could have just moved on and had the children, but HE insisted keeping me in the loop too. With what purpose?!

An addict tries to have both his addiction and his family. It is your job to make it absolutely clear to him that the two are mutually exclusive.

Originally Posted by Coolbeginnings
I need to send him the Plan B letter, change the locks, get legal advice and move on.

The next communication he should receive is a very ugly letter from your solicitor. That might make him realise he cannot have both.

3 adult children
Divorced - he was a serial adulterer
Now remarried, thank you MB
(formerly lied_to_again)