And after the solicitor please look into online Al-Anon meetings. You’re still on the roller coaster and that what plan B will help you get off of. You can get a good sponsor you can call day or night to help you refocus on doing the next right thing and stop focusing on what is he doing and what does it mean. Your life and your kids lives are going to get and stay stable from your actions so that’s where to keep your focus.

Me 40, OD 18 and YD 13
Married 15 years, Divorced 10/2010