On this side of the ocean, non-essential care is being canceled. In some cases,it even includes chemotherapy. I wouldn't be surprised if it's just an excuse. If it affects the schedule, he can hire a sitter. Or he just make the appointment on days you have the children. Can your IM turn the firewall up 2 notches and not mention the skin cancer scheme? Only (if necessary) "BF would like to reschedule Jan 5th, is Jan 7th possible?"