So that’s what the Plan B does, keeps you from growing to hate him. If you go to an open AA meeting you will see these folks can hit their bottom and get help at any time or may take many years. Meanwhile if you have a strong Plan B you will have moved on to a better place. Dr. H typically recommends moms with certain age kids not to remarry anyway until the kids are older so if you fall into that age range, if it’s meant to be for you and BF he’ll get his help and get solid. And if not you’ll have plenty of time to get yourself solid and find a great partner when your kids are older.

Me 40, OD 18 and YD 13
Married 15 years, Divorced 10/2010