I'm sorry you have such a selfish husband. Why don't you safe yourself a lot of additional unfair treatment leave him?<P>If you stay with him, you'll have to cut the martyr routine to find any happiness. This "look what I've done for you" business isn't going to change anything. It hasn't worked all this time. Find ways to have fun with him or you'll just be a bitter martyr. You can find plenty of attention, sympathy, and empathy in this forum but you deserve better.<P>I would leave the bum.<BR>