Dear Angelface,<BR> I will just say this: When my h's affair started, several of our "friends" knew about it and for whatever reasons decided not to tell me. We/I am no longer friends with any of them. On the other hand, one of my other friends found out and told me, although by this time I had already learned about it on my own. We are still friends and talk often though we live a couple of hours away. There is nothing worse than being the last to know, especially when your friends didn't even bother to tell you.<BR>-cd