My best friend found out in November that her H had been having an affair for 6 months. He wanted nothing to do with reconcilliation, so they seperated and she has since been staying with her parents in a different state. He filed for a divorce a month ago. My friend and I talk on the phone almost daily and I've tried to be a good support to her. I should also mention that her H works with my husband and they were our best "couple friends", the 4 of us spent a lot of time together.
First a little more history and then I'll ask my question. My friend has suspected all along that her H's OW may be pregnant...due to his refusal to reconcile and the fact that he's moving so fast towards a divorce. Well, she was right!!! My H and I were at a social gathering a week ago and I met the OW for the first time and they announced that she was 3 months pregnant. Then her H had the nerve to ask us not to say anything to his STBXW!
One of the main problems in their marriage was the fact that my friend couldn't have children. They had been seeing a specialist for a year prior to his affair, with little hope of ever concieving. They wanted children desperately!
Now on to my question....Should I tell my friend about this??? She has been asking and asking if I have heard anything and I am feeling terribly guilty witholding this info from her. She doesn't even know that we met the OW! I remember when my H had his affair, all I wanted was the TRUTH! If I had known that my best friend knew and didn't tell me, I would have been devastated!!!
I'm also worried about how she will handle it emotionally. The affair ripped her heart out....she's only recently returned to work and started eating and sleeping well. She will take this news sooooo hard.
I'm just so torn, I don't know what to do. Her H will no doubt be mad at me if I tell her, but that's the least of my worries. I'm more concerned with how she will take it. Any advise on this will help....Thanks.
[This message has been edited by Angelface (edited February 08, 2001).]