Angel:

You have a mission. A daunting but necessary mission. You, for some reason, have been chosen to deliver the news to your friend or you would not have this news ahead of anyone else. You probably have been chosen for your compassion for her.

Do you know her therapist? Perhaps you could ask her who it is in casual conversation, call the therapist and explain the situation, then accompany her to the therapist and tell her there in his/her presence. This is going to be a terrible, terrible blow. But she MUST know and now.

I am one of the people on this forum who is in the same position as your friend. The OW had a child that I cannot have. It is the most devastating thing in the world to want a child with your husband, being the only one entitled in the world to do so, then find out he has impregnanted someone else and she is the one who will give birth to his child. The worst possible thing.

But, for some reason, I am one of the lucky ones. My husband chose me over that situation and refuses even the remotest contact and we are over two years into recovery and three months into a perfect recovery.

She needs you to tell her and I hope your husband understand the importance of you giving her this information. You must tell him you are going to do this and why. Bring him here to read this thread if you have to just so perhaps he can gain an understanding of the enormity of the situation.

Your friend, and you, are in my prayers.

Catnip =^^=