<small>[ January 07, 2003, 04:43 AM: Message edited by: Baby Blue ]</small>

All right I'll play...

My DW once told me:

"I don't know if I can ever trust you again after spying on me like that!"

Gib

<small>[ January 07, 2003, 04:43 AM: Message edited by: Baby Blue ]</small>

HI....I really like it when my H lectures the kids on honestly, and dont be doing something behind my back, cause i will find out. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Well anyway, you get the picture. Thats calling the kettle black for sure, eh.....A/C0810

Baby Blue -

I had to add to this because one of the things my H said that made me go HUH? was...I walk too slow! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Also, I have to agree with A/C. When my H tells our D to just tell the truth I have to bite my tongue. He actually asked me once why she thought it was okay to do something wrong if she didn't get caught. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Gee hon...I don't know!

Hey Twinkles! That's pretty funny, but I've discovered a little gem in those conversations the WS has with children. Early on, my thoughts were like yours -- "Geez, what a hypocrite! You talk the talk but..." sorta stuff. Now, I'm looking at it different. When my S says stuff like that, I think maybe, just maybe, just maybe... she's learning. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

And I gotta know... do you walk too slow? lol...

<small>[ January 07, 2003, 04:44 AM: Message edited by: Baby Blue ]</small>

Baby Blue ,

I'll add what my H had told me in his fog. He told me that he and OW had so much in common. Her favorite drinks were milk and redwine. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
and I never liked "Redwine" very much. (duh, I have always liked redwine)

He also told me that he felt that she was special because she never had any menstrual problems, nor did he ever notice that she even had her "period!".
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

He told me we didn't share our hobby anymore together, he always had to ride out alone. She shared this with him. (duh, we only had one horse at that time because 2 were too expensive, what was he thinking???)

I had asked my H how he could have had "sex" with her the first time they met alone??
(OW had met him when I was with my H. She phoned him the next day and they both knew where this was going to head to.)
I asked my H why he didn't use a condom and why he wasn't at least prepared. He said, OW was, she had a blanket in the car!!!!!! (hey come on )

My H doesn't believe that he has told me these things. He can't remember them.
duh........
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

take care
bb

The dumbest thing my FWS said was to our 17year old daughter after we caught her having sex. He asked her how she could be so sneaky? I wonder who she learned that from????? He wanted to know why her morals were so low? Didn't she have any respect for herself or her mother???? Give me a break, I almost fell of my chair. I had to work really hard not to say what I was thinking. Kids learn by what they see, and even though our kids don't know what their father did they are smart enough to understand that he did something that really hurt me. It was so weird hearing him tell her how wrong she was and how much she was hurting not only herself but hurting us by her actions, and how she should stop and think before she does something that could hurt other people. IF ONLY HE HAD TAKEN HIS OWN ADVISE.........

****Warning this is not MB material, I want to end my M.**** At the last coparenting mediator my WW was very angry (I push her button to prove a point for the mediator), she stood up and said ... "I am going to walk out of here if you don't". I said "Go ahead, be my guest and don't let the screen door kick your butt on the way out". She was stunned and said "You get out of here, I will stay". I just sit and replied "Why me ?, I am not leaving you are the one who wants it." She blew up and babbled "You see, he is soo imature and a jerk ... etc ..." and stormed out from the meeting. Hmmm, who was the imature one <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> .

<small>[ January 07, 2003, 04:44 AM: Message edited by: Baby Blue ]</small>

There have been so many that I have blocked out like a bad "B" movie but the one that I can remember just happened, but there have been better ones..here goes.. "YOU made me get sick because I had to keep up the deception to be with OW and that wore me out, because you are so intuitive that I could not remember what lies I told you and that weakened my immune system"
O.K. as I looked at him like a deer in headlights I might have blinked twice and if I remember correctly it was so silent after that moronic comment, I heard crickets in the background.
Oh and here's another one.....(this one is really out there)
"Neesha, you have boobs and she is flatchested and that is more what a woman should be like"
I said, "Gee, didn't I have boobs when we met"? And did you ever take biology"? "And since you want to have a baby with her, shouldn't she think about maybe getting some so the baby will know who the daddy is and the mommy"
Yes, I know I should not have said that, but geesh this was said to me in the first 5 hours after I caught them in a parking lot at which time I thought it was a man that WS was with and almost puked, I was relieved actually when I did make out (kinda) that it was a female. Hope you all enjoyed those little quotes. I sure did.

<small>[ January 07, 2003, 04:45 AM: Message edited by: Baby Blue ]</small>

Prior to D-Day, during an INTENSE relationship talk, my WW said "this would be so much easier if you beat me or if I was cheating on you." Hmmmm, let's see now. What do I recall about this period of time? Oh yeah. You WERE cheating on me!

About two days after D-Day OM called the house and I answered. I sat on that info for about a week before telling my wife. I said I couldn't lie to her or keep it from her. She thanked me for telling her and said, "No, it's not a good time for you to be dishonest right now."

When I first had the suspicion that something was going on, I asked her if, indeed, something was going on. She denied it ... of course. Later, on D-Day, she recalled that conversation and said, "That's the only time I lied to you." See my first example above.

Here's a similar post I did a while ago.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=60;t=000008

Wait ... there's more! On D-Day, she said she thought OM was going to be her next great love and a few minutes later she said she was afraid that no one would ever love her like I do. BTW, OM dumped her to make it try and make it work with his live-in gf.

Also, on D-Day, she sobbed as she said about OM and not breaking it off w/his gf, "I just don't know how someone can say he loves me and isn't doing whatever it takes to be with me." Ummm ... you see, someone IS doing that. Who is it again? Oh, yes ... that's right. IT'S ME!

<small>[ December 02, 2002, 11:40 AM: Message edited by: whippit ]</small>

On DDAY my husband sent email to OW -
Am staying home sick today - talk to you tomorrow
XOXOXOXOX

This, after I asked him if he loved her and he said NO!!!

<small>[ January 07, 2003, 04:46 AM: Message edited by: Baby Blue ]</small>

BB,
my H told me all kinds of things. When I don't get too deep into thinking about it, I have to chuckle. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Gosh, he was wierd and strange.
He told me that OW was once a chef secretary, but when we talked about it, he told me that she couldn't type, nor could she even turn on a computer, she didn't know how to. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

He told me that OW didn't throw out her H money!! She saved where she could!!!
When I asked him how she paid for her "very expensive" jewelery and clothing and the expensive presents she gave him? he told me that she saved every penny she earned. But the fact was, she didn't work!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

My H told me that OW didn't like cats so again, she had so much in common with him. The only thing was, OW had 13 CATS!!!!!!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> (this really got me chuckling)

OW told my H that it made her sick that she had to do things around the house, her H never did. She complained so much about her H, how lazy he was and, and and. My H felt sorry for her and told her that she was in a terrible situation and that her H was treating her like $hit!!!!
He actually told her that her H should be helping her and should be doing things in and around the house when he came home from work.
The fact was, OWH was working almost 12 hours to earn the money she was spending and she didn't have to work.
She had so much free time that things seemed to get boring for her. She had all the time in the world to be available and this wasn't her first affair. This really frightened my H once he came out of the fog. He then realized what he life would/could of became like because he too works long hours and when he comes home, everything is done. He doesn't/never had to deal with doing things in the house.
Just imagining my H and OW living together sorta makes me "chuckle". He would of freaked out!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

take care
bb

I don't know how much fun these are but my W also said to me, "I wish you would have hit me."

But the most recent one I think may top all of the things she's told me before. A couple of nights ago she told our friend that if I really love her then I would be happy that she's happy in her life right now (with the OM of course).

How about this one? Her OM is not her boyfriend nor lover, nor future husband, he simply is her "partner" because they "are both walking together hand in hand towards the light." What they don't know is that that light is a freight train coming at full speed towards them.

Another one. She's told me that he has done nothing to win her over, absolutely nothing to court her. This is in spite of the gifts he gives her, and how he listens and the e-mails and all the beautiful things he tells her, etc. She says he doesn't have to do anything because she loves him and this is the love of her life and she wants to give him everything she has and can.