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Indeed time for bed. Morning will come soon enough, and the routine of life will get me out of this pity party. Hugs to all and good night! Jen <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />
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Jen-
I've sort of been hiding from your thread lately bcause I feel like I hurt you with my big mouth.
I just wanted to thamk you for the post about H's B-day and what to do. Today I'm in that sitch.
It's hard because I want to acknowledge him but I insisted on NC.
I'm glad that you listened to those tapes. It seemed to help you get stronger...
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Hello again Kily, no need to hide! Indeed, if you're in plan B and have insisted on NC, I guess you have to suck it up and not contact him. It doesn't mean you're not a kind person, it means that you are wise enough and have enough self-respect to have set your boundaries. Hang in there!
Those tapes did help me realize that I'm not a fool, I'm just someone who fell into a pattern where my H used my emotions and my desire to be considered a kind person to his advantage.
However, as you may have noticed from last night's post, they may have made me feel a bit stronger, but I also still get sad.
I heard from a friend/colleague today that there are financial advantages to being the one to actually file for Dv. My friend got divorced about 3 years ago, and because she filed first she got 50% of her H's pension among other things she apparently wouldn't have gotten if she'd waited for him to file.
I worry so much about not wanting that on my conscience for the rest of my life (being the one to file for Dv), and wanting to be the martyr, it's rediculous. I should look out for myself and not be so worried about what my H will think of me after we divorce (if we do).
So I think I need to go see a lawyer again asap.
Anyone here from Canada, maybe even Alberta, who knows anything about the advantages of filing for Dv before your spouse?
I'll check over on D/D board too.
Jen
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Hey 2Long.
What? I'm on the wrong thread? Isn't this plan A anonymous?
Dang, I'm ready for the ol' folks home.
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TMCM - I thought you were already in the old folks home! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> The alzheimers isn't setting in is it? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> LOL. Glad you could stop by! Say hi to 2long for me.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">"The alzheimers isn't setting in is it?" </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Who are you sweetie? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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I'm ROTFLMAO! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />
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Hey Jen, you know what's great about having Altzheimers? You get to sleep with a different woman every night. WOO HOO!(Sorry, it must be the dirty old man in me) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <small>[ May 06, 2003, 04:02 PM: Message edited by: T00MuchCoffeeMan ]</small>
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Coffeeguy- </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Sorry, it must be the dirty old man in me </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I want to touch that one so badly...but the moderators would KICK me. I think you've had ONE 2 many 2ble espressos.
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TMCM goes to his doctor and says "Doc? I've been having trouble remembering things lately." And the doctor replies "How long has this been going on?" and TMCM replies "How long has WHAT been going on?" The thing I miss most about getting old is my mind (I can't remember which MBer I ripped that off. Must have been JL, he's the oldest guy I know!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ) -ol' 2long
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">"I think you've had ONE 2 many 2ble espressos."</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Darlin' 2ble expressos no longer have any effect on me, but if your talkin' 3le expressos, then my doggy ears go up (3les are cheaper than viagra too you know). <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> Since I hijacked this thread from Jen, maybe I should change my name to Al Quaeda. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <small>[ May 06, 2003, 06:26 PM: Message edited by: T00MuchCoffeeMan ]</small>
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