Hi Everyone,

I can't believe this weekend's happenings. I really can't say too much as I don't wish to break a trust with my exH, even here in this anonymous forum.

All I wish to say is that today my dream and deepest desire in life came true. My hopes and prayers have been answered. It's an ecstasy I've never known as I lost a treasure and now it's been found, and is coming back forever. It feels like someone has died, and has come back to life. (Something did die-- our marriage.) Words of forgiveness, words of love, passionate, tender expressions --G rated <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> --were exchanged.

Beyond that and most importantly, there's a future together and it will all be changing in the very near future--within a week in fact. It will all be very private, and will be shared by only us and our children. No one will know until after it happens, except for us.

It has been talk, talk, talk---learn learn learn. It is like coming home. The treasure we had for so many years is back.

Even today I learned more, and we'll continue to learn more, together.

I know I won't be coming here to MB much. I'm putting this behind us. We spoke of this today. It's a chapter that is part of us, but it's not who we are. It will still be dealt with , but we know it's all going to be fine and our future will be even stronger.

I will be spending time with him, near him, enjoying him and attending to our commitment as we once did, before things fell apart.

Life is good, isn't it? IT's a mixture of sweet, and bitter. Hard to focus on the sweet when things are awful, but time and patience--right everyone?

I'll never take him or our marriage or love for each other for granted again.

If you feel like giving up, don't. Wait until you're sure in your heart and soul that it's what you want to do.

The time he took ignoring me, rejecting me, (separation was over three years ago- DDay almost three years ago... my A ended July '02) while he explored other avenues in life was necessary for him. It's over now. He's back in my life, and that's where he wants to be. He's apologized for his behavior during all this time apart, but he didn't need to. I told him it was necessary for him, and for us. The time apart taught both of us A LOT!

He didn't say it, but perhaps he knows..that my continued expression of love for him and 'plan A' despite his rejection and ignoring me was evidence that I loved him...especially as this went on for quite a while.

He was in a 'fog' of his own. THere were outside influences pulling him away from me . I instinctively knew this, and my intuition was right. I could have confronted him on it, but then that wouldn't have given him the time he needed.

One joy today was in my DD helping me pick out what to wear for an upcoming important but simple occasion. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> I'm sure this occasion is the desire of almost all children whose parents are divorced and had a good marriage until the crisis at the end.

I could go on, but I will just say thanks to all here for your unending support and encouragement. I couldn't have done it at all without this BB and the people here.

YOu kept me going when I was really down. Thanks for that.

God bless all of you,
Hopeful_Person

PS I'd like to get a puppy and name it Hope! Maybe in time we will. ExH always loved a certain breed, and wanted one. Maybe it's time? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ January 05, 2004, 01:32 AM: Message edited by: hopeful_person ]</small>

HP, I feel so happy for you - I know your posts have helped me a lot! I sincerely hope all goes well with everything!!! You sound like you are on cloud nine and I hope it holds.

Congrats on everything. You were so brave to not give up, and are an inspiration to all of us!

Felina

PTL HP. PTL, \o/.

Will continue to pray for you.

Many more blessing for you and your family.

S&C <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Oh H_P, so very happy for you, it makes me want to cry <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> But then again, Pound Man always used to say I was so emotional I'd cry at the bus time table!!

I know you will need to move away from here to concentrate on the important and real things in your life, but please let us know from time to time you are OK, and you have helped so many others here too.

Wishing you every happiness from London.

Lisa

Ooops, double post

<small>[ January 05, 2004, 04:15 AM: Message edited by: Lisa in London ]</small>

I am so happy. I will be there too, in my heart.

You are a dear, sweet friend, and I'm glad that since it didn't happen for me, it did for you.

I respect your POJA decision and will miss you terribly.

Please keep my email address with you and keep in touch even if it's to say hello.

Much love to you my dear friend-

Hopeful,

I just wanted to join the chorus of congratulations here. You're a great person and this is fantastic news, so wonderful to hear.

Thanks for all you have done for me and others here over the years, and best of luck to you in your NEW relationship! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

ALS

H_P,

Congratulations to you, your H, and your children. I know that all are very happy. Your post has made a very happy person as well. I do hope that you do come back and let me know when I can remove the ex from the H. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

This board is really going to miss you, and your very very good advice. You have no idea what an attribute you have been here.

I feel confident that you and your H are going to have a relationship that all will envy, but WE will know that it was a hard earned relationship on both of your parts.

God Bless You and Your Family,

JL

JL-

i think it's a safe bet that you can remove the X within a week or two... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Forever,

I am so happy for you. I keep rereading your messages as a reminder that today's misery does not have to last and that things can get better even if we don't see how right now.

God bless you both.

This is really bad. really bad.
Either u address Mr.Nice as your lover,fiancee,soulmate,Hubby,Tubby, Sweet potato,honey .......(oldy you are in a second honeymoon, why are you calling him as X ?). This is time for some XXX . <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> and not X. (You know , his SF needs are not met for long long time. (some times i get dirty..... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> _

If you ever called him X, i will kick your [censored] out of MB <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

H_P i just just dont know how to express this joyous feelings. I just get the feelings as your kids do get.

Mr.NICE is the embodiment of LOVE. WOW .... Dont leave him not even an inch. Buy lotsa glue and paste yourself on him .Buy a bing rope and tie yourself with him.

MAM you owe your LIFE to him. Here comes the man , who is the definition of a HUSBAND.


Oldy, i sometimes get childish. Before MB, i was a child when it comes to a marruage. I am not yet married. I am single. I thought once you marry things will all work out. NOPE. I learned what is love here, about marriages, about ENS, about respect and about the true meaning of a husnabd and wife.... This is the most important site i have come across in the net in my life.

MAM i am very happy you are leaving this site in a good note.

ALL THE BEST TO YOUR CURRENT HUSBAND, YOUR HUBBY,YOUR HONEY, YOUR KIDS,DDS and atlast to YOU and your dog. ALL THE BEST TO YOUR UNITED FAMILY.

If i am happened to be a gal and in your town , i will chase Mr.NICE. SO be careful.......

love
dhanush

YAY! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Yes, life is both bitter and sweet, but we would not, or could not appricate the sweet without the bitter.

Well done H_P,

"How beautiful upon the mountains are the feet of those that bring good tidings, that publish peace....."

Thank you for sharing with us.

SS

YYYYYYYYAYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There aren't smiley faces big enough for this one, HP!! I am soooooo thrilled for you I cannot stop smiling myself!

And please, whatever you do, please please please get some solid coaching and put a good plan in place, because y'all are bound to have hard times, just like every other couple does, and what I really want is to hear about you in 30 years and that you're STILL going strong!!

Yay yay yay yay yay!!!!!!!!!!!!

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YIPPEE!!!

OMG! What wonderful news. Have watched your story develop for a long time. Congratulations and all the best for your future.

I vote with Just J for the coaching so you can put together a good solid plan for your relationship.

And...I hope you will occasionally, as your POJA permits, come here and uplift those that are down. Far too many successes leave and the needy ones here don't realize there are happy endings.

What fabulous news!

Aren'tcha glad you asked him to dinner?

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

All I can say is WOW!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I am so happy for you!!!

Your patience (you have so much more than me), perserverence and love has paid off.....I wish you and your family all the best in the future!!

Jen

<small>[ January 05, 2004, 06:06 PM: Message edited by: Jen Brown ]</small>

H_P,

WOW!! Life can turn on a dime. I am so happy for you. Your faith and love really have shown through. I hope that everything you and your STBH have been through will give you the grounds for a loving, caring relationship that neither of you ever thought possible. Somehow I believe this is what is in store for you. Best of luck and love to both of you and your children, HOORAY for them. I bet they are so happy. Stay on that cloud nine, the view is beautiful up here.

Lots of love,
Sharon

Dear H_P,

All the best to you and yours. I know we are part of your painful past but know we wish you well on your new journey. Please let your 'h' know your MB friends are happy to see your family happy. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Aloha,
L.

H_P,

I am sooo very happy for you and your family.

It gives me so much hope right now, when I have no options but to persue a D for financial reasons even though I would rather wait.
I feel it will never be too late reconcile...
and your situation proves that!
Best Wishes!

Hopeful Person,

What can I say? You sent chills down my spine, and that's not easy to do. Just checking up on people after a few weeks away from the board -- and what a lovely thing to see on my return!

Congratulations, and all my deep, heartfelt whatevers go out to you.