Ok, I know it's been some time since I've been here, but here's the scoop on the wedding I went to where my ex and his OW attended also.
For some background, I was posting here about how to go about attending this event. Go alone, take a friend, or bring a date. I wanted to make him jealous and regret who he chose <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> , and I wanted to make her feel threatened by my presence <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> , and do so with grace and style and class <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> . LOL
Many of you gave me great advice on how to accomplish this. I will tell you what I did and how it went. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
I chose to bring a girl friend with me. I dressed in a white halter style dress. It was semi form fitting, and had a short skirt--about mid thigh or a tad higher. I wore pink flip-flop shoes with a small spiked heel. I wore a silver ankle bracelet with pink stones in it. Over the dress, because it was a cool night, I wore a pink, crocheted poncho. I had pink chandelier earings, a pink and white choker necklace, and a pink dangly bracelet. And a pink clutch purse. My friend, being a little bit on the heavy side, wore a stappy halter style mini dress in blue paisley. She looked stunning.
We were the life of the party! We laughed and danced, and mingled with everyone. Old friends of mine and my ex's were coming up to me and hugging me telling me how beautiful I looked. There wasn't a man, or woman for that matter, at the wedding who didn't stare at us.
The OW, who is about 20 pounds heavier and at least 5 dress sizes larger than me, wore a mid calf length, green floral summer dress. She wore no makeup, except for the standard foundation she wears to fill in her acne scars. She did nothing special with her hair. She was trying, unsuccessfully, to be lively and upbeat...attempting to mingle with my friends as if they were now hers. But to her dismay, they gaffed her off, to instead rave about the "new" me.
My ex also was not feeling very comfortable. He knew exactly what he lost, and each and everytime she would try to put her arms around him, or hold his hand, he forcibly pushed her off of him. She stormed out several times in anger at his rejection. Of course, this did not go unnoticed by anyone. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
The bride's son came up to me, and said..."Boy, you are sure making him regret the day he lost you!"
My friend met someone that night. He told her that when we walked in (we were about 10 minutes late) every one of the groomsmen's eyes were on us. (just to remind you, this was an outside wedding held in the couple's yard) She asked him what was the first thing they noticed about us. (My friend is very large chested and always worries that that is the first thing the guys notice.) He told her that it was our smiles. He said we looked like we were having the time of our lives, that we were happy and content with who we were, and that he wanted to be a part of it. She also asked if my ex and the OW fought after we left, and he said, hell, they were fighting the whole night WHILE you were there, and everyone saw it.
It was a fabulous night! I did exactly what I wanted to do. I got out of it exactly what I wanted. And I cannot remember having as much fun as I did that night. And the funny thing is, I wasn't even trying to make them uncomfortable. I was purely having a good time, and that in and of itself was all it took to make them squirm. And I think the best part was that EVERYONE who knew me and my ex when we were married, first, rallied around me, and second took just as much pleasure in their discomfort as I did! LOL
My ex could not take his eyes off of me. Which OW and everyone else noted. He even at one point, came to the edge of the dance floor to watch me dance. OW did not take a liking to that at all. LOL
The only bad part of it all, is that the whole event stirred up feelings in me that I thought were dead. I don't know if it was the ambience of the night, the whole idea of being back in town, or what it was exactly, but I have not been able to stop thinking about my ex. (He is still trying to reconcile...even with the D final.) I'm not sure what to make of all that. But I guess that would a topic for another post....
Oh, and I guess I could tell you that he called me over into a corner at one point while OW was not around, and kissed me. We were kinda out of sight, but a few people noticed, and were very happy at what they saw. (all of our friends would love to see us reconciled) I'm not sure what to think....
Anyway, all in all it was a great time, and I'm glad I went, and the bride was beautiful and the groom very handsome, and it was a beautiful wedding!
