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So. . . Gray. . .

What are you gonna/did you do?

We promise not to give you a hard time, either way. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

You know we love you. *smile*

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Apology...yes. But not worth the time to worry over it, analyze it further or beat oneself up over it.

Suffice to say, hopefully her mother never finds out what a rude child she raised and leave it at that...SEP guys...this chica is SEP (somebody else's problem, thank my left big toe).

Gray is too fun and too hip to worry his purdy little head further.

Gray, put in some JC (that's Johnny Cash for you musical illiterates) and lets toast OUR mothers and our raisin' up!


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

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BTW, did anyone actually know what "antediluvian" was, in that post of GC's a few pages back?? I had to look it up, and I was wondering if I was the only dunce on board. GC, you kill me.

It was dem disrep'table Looosiana schools I was su'ject'd to, ya know.

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SLH, it's private and secret, the relevance of that word.

Kimmy, I'll actually do something nice for this girl. I'm gonna give her the benefit of the doubt. I got a little card. Inside, I wrote, "You devil, you didn't show on Tues. It was fun meeting you. Call if you want to try again. GC" and included my phone number. I'm sending it with a little bunch of flowers tomorrow. Nothing big. I don't care if she calls. Makes no difference to me. She gets some flowers, 'cause she made me feel good for a little while.

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And we were all worried. Sheesh.

Masterful.

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SLH, it's private and secret, the relevance of that word.

Kimmy, I'll actually do something nice for this girl. I'm gonna give her the benefit of the doubt. I got a little card. Inside, I wrote, "You devil, you didn't show on Tues. It was fun meeting you. Call if you want to try again. GC" and included my phone number. I'm sending it with a little bunch of flowers tomorrow. Nothing big. I don't care if she calls. Makes no difference to me. She gets some flowers, 'cause she made me feel good for a little while.

GC

I'm so impressed Gray.

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I sent you know who a letter too. I mailed it to one of his daughters house. I was in a pretty bad place when I wrote it but I don't think there was any DJ's in it. I just let him know how terribly hurt I am, if all of this has just been a scam.

I don't think he is so evil as to actually plot it, but I do think that he is going in the direction of independence from me while still trying to keep me appeased and hanging on in case he decides he does want a future with me.

He did tell me once that he didn't think I could be crushed, that I was too strong. I don't think he thinks I bleed inside.

Well when he gets my letter, he'll know how much pain I am in. I don't have any idea what he will do with that knowledge though. I don't know now if he will even care.

Probably time for a thread of my own, I don't think the pain is going to go away very easily this time.

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I have never hurt anybody this way. I'm so tired of these selfish chickenshit people. Off with their chickenshit heads!

GC

Yep.

The chickenshit gene is a malign one to be sure. And common.

But some chickenshit people get over it. And folks like you ( and me) have a whole lot better time sleeping and looking in mirrors than they do.

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. . . And folks like you ( and me) have a whole lot better time sleeping and looking in mirrors than they do.


Bob is so right. I couldn't have said it better myself.

She gets some flowers, 'cause she made me feel good for a little while.

And this is why you have such a following, Gray -- because you embrace even tentative joys you experience with a quiet but enduring grasp, and take what you can away from them. We could all learn something.

(Okay, admittedly, my H is the same way and I haven't learned yet; someone knock me on the head with a rock or something! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> But he still has ex girlfriends that would drop everything for him if I keeled over tomorrow, LOL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />)


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Yo, Gray. My cousin has a simple rule: If someone blows her off, then they are off the list. Simple, clear, and to the point. If they can't do courtesy at the most basic level, she's not interested in teaching 'em.

She has better second dates than most people I know. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


Sunny Day, Sweeping The Clouds Away...

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Oh, J. I got nothin' invested in that one there. I'd be awful surprised to hear from her.

On to the next thing. I'm on a steep learning curve, you could say. I'm sure there'll be some sunk costs.

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Say, SLH... check it out.

I've been listening to A Rush of Blood to the Head again. Despite my history with it, it does not hurt. Such good music. It blows my mind. It makes me want to fall in love. Or somethin'. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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Gray,

I'm . . . I'm . . . ecstatic! Excusez me; I know I sound flustered, I guess it's just an extraordinary case of kismet. . . but I was just thumbing through Shul's Lyrics' posting and stumbled across your post about CPs lyrics. Then I pop up on over here and you are making mention of the same thing I had seen earlier in the very post that I was reading, to me. Bizarre. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

It doesn't hurt? More than that, it feels good? Invigorating, enlivening, uplifting? Holy Smokes, GC, but you are well-anchored and solid! Not that you won't be inclined to the occasional disheartening day, but who isn't? You are, officially, on your way back.


You will fall in love. And "something"! I just know it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />


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BTW, since we're talking CP, what are your favorite cuts on the album? Does anyone else listen to Coldplay?

Esprit curieux. . .


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I like "Spies", on Parachute (I think)

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I only have AROBTTH because sparrow took the rest. I've forgotten most of Parachutes. I didn't have it for long... I remember "Yellow" and "Shiver".

My favorites are "In My Place", "The Scientist", and "Warning Sign". "In My Place" is a desert island song.

Definitely looking forward to X&Y.

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2long, you're not the old fart you'd have us believe -- not for a minute. Nice try though. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Spies is telling.

GC, I've always enjoyed Yellow; it's rather simple but I think its simplicity is what makes it so pleasing.

I've also loved the myriad ways The Scientist can be appreciated:

Come up to meet you
Tell you I'm sorry
You don't know how lovely you are;

I had to find you
Tell you I need you,
Tell you I set you apart. . .

. . .

. . .Nobody said it was easy,
It's such a shame for us to part;
Nobody said it was easy,
No one ever said it would be this hard. . .

Oh take me back to the start


I've always loved Green Eyes -- have it downloaded-- but it was always attributed to some other band; I had no idea it was by Coldplay until recently. Go figure.

X&Y should be good, judging from what the band has said they drew their inspirations from. Guess we'll find out in June. So far, here's the lyrics to the first cut. . .promising, wouldn't you say?

~ SLH


Speed of Sound by Coldplay

How long before I get in?
Before it starts, before I begin?
How long before you decide?
Before I know what it feels like?
Where To, where do I go?
If you never try, then you'll never know.
How long do I have to climb,
Up on the side of this mountain of mine?

Look up, I look up at night,
Planets are moving at the speed of light.
Climb up, up in the trees,
every chance that you get,
is a chance you seize.
How long am I gonna stand,
with my head stuck under the sand?
I'll start before I can stop,
before I see things the right way up.

All that noise, and all that sound,
All those places I got found.
And birds go flying at the speed of sound,
to show you how it all began.
Birds came flying from the underground,
if you could see it then you'd understand?

Ideas that you'll never find,
All the inventors could never design.
The buildings that you put up,
Japan and China all lit up.
The sign that I couldn't read,
or a light that I couldn't see,
some things you have to believe,
but others are puzzles, puzzling me.

All that noise, and all that sound,
All those places I got found.
And birds go flying at the speed of sound,
to show you how it all began.
Birds came flying from the underground,
if you could see it then you'd understand,
ah when you see it then you'll understand?

All those signs, I knew what they meant.
Some things you can invent.
Some get made, and some get sent,
Ooh?

Birds go flying at the speed of sound,
to show you how it all began.
Birds came flying from the underground,
if you could see it then you'd understand,
ah, when you see it then you'll understand?


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Weaves said:
I sent you know who a letter too.. .I was in a pretty bad place when I wrote it but I don't think there was any DJ's in it. I just let him know how terribly hurt I am, if all of this has just been a scam. . .I don't think he is so evil as to actually plot it, but I do think that he is going in the direction of independence from me while still trying to keep me appeased and hanging on in case he decides he does want a future with me. . . Well when he gets my letter, he'll know how much pain I am in. I don't have any idea what he will do with that knowledge though. I don't know now if he will even care. . . Probably time for a thread of my own, I don't think the pain is going to go away very easily this time.


Hey Weaves,

You haven't posted in a while and I've been kinda concerned about you. Has Pooter-Head gotten the letter by now? Have you heard anything from him? Did you decide to open a new thread and I just missed it? Let us know when you get a moment, just a heads up that you're okay. Okay?

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Hi SLH!

I love your sig line, don't know if I told you that yet.

He will not get the letter until tomorrow. I did make an appt with an atty, actually he is a friend of my families. He is going to write up some kind of doc for me stating I want half the appraised value, also that until the matter is settled my DD and I will use the property and that I will not be intimitated, or disrespected by him or any members of his family in an attempt to keep me out.

I don't know what else to do. And no he still hasn't called. I'm going to be okay. This time I really am going to get on with my life. Not just pretend to like I did last time. It will probably be the end of us, but I don't want him if he hasn't changed anyway.

Just went and bought some flowers for the window boxes, so better go plant them.

How are things with you SLH? I'll check back later for an update!

Everyone on this thread are such night owls. I'm amazed when I check in the morning and see all the nighttime activity.

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SLH, ain't it fun when coincidences like that happen?

Sometimes I'll play guitar and sing while the TV is on. Occasionally, a character on a sitcom will say a word or phrase with me, or the music of an ad matches what I'm playing exactly, just for a second. Good stuff.

Weaver, I'm so sorry if you were pulled in under a false impression. How disappointing. Whatever you do, make sure your asset is protected.

And you know... these puffy eyes prove my cred as a nightowl! I didn't get 'em from cryin'...

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Weave, I don't know if you listen to this kind of music, but it seemed to fit in your case. I'm going to post more later or tomorrow but I just wanted to throw this out there. Are we hung up on music and poetry, or what?

Love you, girlie.


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Stay Gone

Jimmy Wayne

[i]I found piece of mind
I'm feeling good again
I'm on the other side
Back among the living
Ain't a cloud in the sky
All my tears have been cried
And I can finally say

Baby, baby stay
Stay right where you are
I like it this way
It's good for my heart
I haven't felt like this
In God knows how long
I know everything's gonna be okay
If you just Stay Gone

I still love you and I will forever
We can't hide the truth
We know each other better
When we try to make it work
We both end up hurt
And it ain't supposed to be that way

So baby, baby stay
Stay right where you are
I like it this way
It's good for my heart
I haven't felt like this
In God knows how long
I know everything's gonna be okay
If you just Stay Gone

When you try to make it work
We both end up hurt
Love ain't supposed to be this way. . .

So baby, baby stay
Stay right where you are
I like it this way
It's good for my heart
I haven't felt like this
In, oh, God knows how long
I know everything's gonna be okay
If you just stay gone

I know everything's gonna be okay
. . . If you just stay gone[i]


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