Oh my gosh, you're 2 funny 2long. I know it wasn't either of you, these were pink roses and pink/white orchids. You guys would have probably sent carnations! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I love those pastel daisies though.

Csue,

That's what I told everyone at work, this isn't funny it's making me sick. But everyone at work seemed to think it was creepy too.

One guy actually said, well it's probably some married guy. And I said well wouldn't his wife notice the purchase coming out of some account? And this guy actually said "oh I doubt anyone would notice ten bucks". LOL This guy is single, and I never laughed so hard. He has obviously never bought anyone flowers. And he is known as a bit of a tightwad! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Wow, pink roses & white orchids...that wasn't cheap!

It was some idioit who is now too embarrassed to come forward, if it's like what happened in my story!

Pretty funny 2long!! You and SS cooked the whole thing up huh!

2long,
I went into the florest, but there was already a guy ahead of me and I figured two in one day would really freak her out. I could give a description though.

SS

I do carnations on regular week days, but special events I do orchids, roses, and mixes of things. Maybe this is a special event.

I wouldn't be scared - men think this way. Someone is trying to be nice.

SS

Oh lordy Csue.

Desert dwellers and space cadets really are a hilarious lot, aren't they though?

And yes, I know they weren't cheap. That freaks me out even more, because the types of guys I have always dated never have a dime to their name.

Oh well, let's talk about someone else's problems now.

2long, you go first okay? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Problems?
Someone sends you flowers and it's a problem?

So, what would a good day look like?
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
SS

And therein lies the trouble with guys! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> And in Csue's example the trouble with some girls.

I Csue's point though, trying to make a husband jealous when there are already serious issue's in the marraige seems ludicrous. I'm surprised it was a girl who ordered the flowers in that sitch, and then not even tell the wife? Too strange.

SS, it was the anonomous part and the "someone close by" part.

If it had been someone who likes me, why would he want to stress me out?

It makes me think it might be Dan, and then it puts me in a bad mental place again. And then it makes me miss Dan because it makes me feel insecure.

It's complicated SS.

Yeah, $10 for orchids and roses... in 1955!

Wow, anonymous flower-sending... seems pointless.

Weaver, of course you're right. A mountaintop, that sounds good. Will there be cairns and colored flags strung around? 'Cause I really go for that stuff.

GC

Guys have lots more problems than that, but I won't make a list, it would take too long.

It's good that there is such a thing as love, it provides incentive to work it out. One day I was ranting about our differences, and my W said "I thought you liked SOME of our differences.: I shut up, and haven't complained about that since.

I bet that girl realized what she had created, and opted out. I can't say I blame her after things got out of hand.

I suspect you will hear more from this person that sent the flowers.

SS

If it had been someone who likes me, why would he want to stress me out?

I don't think they realize it is stressing you out.

Just wait, and watch.

SS

SS, I would not ever send flowers anonymously. But I guess some silly dudes would.

Weaver, if you can... if it's okay... could you tell some more about losing your parents? I remember you saying once that it was a big, big, colossal, crippling loss.

GC

You had me laughing, 2Long!

Weaver, I agree with SS,

watch and wait!

It was Gray, for a good year and probably longer I would dream of them and then wake up in the morning and realize that the dream was merely that. It felt each and every morning that I was hit by a mack truck upon wakening and remembering that they were gone.

My aunt told me it would take one year, going through all the seasons without them before I could feel happiness again. It took more like two though. I spent many days after work driving into their driveway, not remembering that they were gone until I was in the driveway. Then I would cry all the way home.

They were my best friends, (as troubled as they were after Viet Nam), and losing them is the greatest loss of my life.

It still bothers me to see people about the age my parents would be now with their kids out on vacation or having dinner together.

My DD named every doll and stuffed animal in the house either Pat or Jim. She missed them too and she was 4 when they died but they took care of her those 4 years while I worked.

Gray when you lose someone as you have with sparrow, your life will never be as it was. You have experienced a loss of such magnitude that it will alter you for the rest of your life. But you will find happiness in other areas, and after awhile new attachments will form which will replace the loss.

For me with the loss of my parents it took time. And I don't exagerate the two years bit. But then I met Dan and my life was filled with joy again.

You will find love again Gray, and the pain will be completely gone. I promise.

This time for me, I am going to find happiness alone though. I must.

But you are younger than me, and you have experienced the betrayal of one woman. You can get past this and find love again. Better than you had before.

You simple must believe, and use your mind (positive thoughts and visualizations only) to your advantage.

It's about acceptance Gray, and forgiveness. It really is.

I sued the hospital where my mom was treated after her absessed tooth caused an infection in her heart. I was filled with hate, hate for doctors and nurses. They failed to do the simple procedure of intebating her when she couldn't catch her breath and eventually couldn't breathe. She spent a week in a coma before my brother made the decision to pull life support. It was the most horible thing you can ever imagine to pull life support from the person you loved most in the world. My dad killed himself a few months later. It took me a long time to forgive the emergency room which I feel killed her with their lack of emergency skills. Even the ET's which helped me with my dad told me I should have called them, they know how to intebate a patient.

Yuck, can't talk about this anymore.

((((Gray))))

Well, GC, I was reading up on what I missed on this thread, and had to log in to make a reply to this one.

You know, I'm a simple-minded guy, I used to buy flowers for my wife - because I thought she would enjoy having them. She thought that I was trying to buy something from her. I was always startled by that assumption. One time, she stuffed a dozen rozes in the trash - because she resented having to "pay" for them. When I give something to somebody, it's because I want to please them, not because I want something from them! So, anonymously sent flowers are just flowers. If a woman like flowers, why not like anonymously sent flowers?

So, Weave, just enjoy them and throw them out when they fade - and forget about it. They're just flowers.

Oh, we had our flower problems, yes we did...

The very first time I sent her flowers, it was an arrangment of 15 red roses - about $75, delivered, if I recall correctly. She hated it. She gave half of them away to somebody - said the arrangement looked like something to place at a monument on veterans day.

I'll explain the 15. Russians have this "thing" about flowers. I learned in Russian class (or somewhere), that you give even numbers of flowers for the dead and odd number of flowers to living people. So, being an engineer, I thought on this problem. A dozen is the standard count. If I added one, that would be 13 - and I was afraid that she would take it as a bad omen. If I removed one, it would be 11, but it would seem that I took something out - and that didn't seem right either. 9 or 7 seemed a bit on the light side, so I sent an arrangement of 15. Since she hated it, I never again gave red roses. Now, I think she might like some, but I marked red roses off my list for good long before we were married. Later, I found out that the even/odd thing only matters for small numbers. Boo-kay's of 3,5 or 7 blossoms are good for Russian ladies.

Eventually, I learned to just bring home simple $4 boo-kay's from Wal-mart - and just put them on the table without comment. That's what she would accept - 'cause they were just flowers. Once in a while I would bring roses, but they would always be multicolored - a bit less "romantic". In recent years, she generally accepted them gracefully.

-AD

Weaver, what a sad story. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> I have great disdain for most ER docs because of my DS so I can understand your anger. My H was angry for so long and even the "positive" outcome of our malpractice suit didn't help because the ER docs came out unscathed. The peds took the brunt of the blame even though in OUR hearts the ER docs failed my baby.

2l, did you see the pics I reposted for you of my house?

Where are my manners? Hi SS, AD, GC and SLH!

Hi FF,

I really didn't notice. Only people who have manners notice those missing from others - but if they really have manners, they don't say anything. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

(confusing enough?)

-AD

Ah Weaver,

A heartbreaking story.

-AD