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Chickensh*t! I'm going.


Gray,

Don't you dare bow your head in shame now. You go and you hold yourself high, you show them that they will not get to you. You laugh, you have fun...take a good friend with you so as not to have any awkward alone periods.

Gray, you face this fear now knowing that we will all be looking over you in spirit.

You are a big, wonderful man and now you get to prove it.

Shine Gray.

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Darn Weaver,
I was just about to say "HI."

You beat me this time.

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The Wookie and I are VERY well. I'm almost afraid to say it...but we are recovering.


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Oh you didn't know I was here. Who you trying to kid? LOL

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No,
I didn't know, but I just figured it was time to say hi, and ask about your trip.

The trip ???
Well??

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We had a really good time SS. We ended up going down state about three hours and booked a room at a place with a pool and hot tub. And we shopped and ate out, and watched a movie.

We had such a good time. I love that little girl! She is back at her Dad's now though, but we decided that we were going to make it a tradition and go once a year to a hotel just the two of us.

It was wonderful SS and I am so glad I decided to spend the money I didn't have because we needed that.

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I don't know... Okay, I'll assume no unwelcome eyes are gazing at my posts. I can hardly imagine they are.

The event is being held by one of my XWW's oldest friends. It's a going-away party for her 15-year-old son, who is going to spend a year overseas. The woman's son is fond of me. His mother has called me "DS's favorite grownup."

I want to get the kid some cool going-away gift (ideas welcome - he's going to Germany).

The woman is one of two people who unexpectedly reached out to me last year, who made an effort to be nice to me. It was a huge surprise. She has also seen my XWW a few times, and has met OM. A few times last year, she just dropped by my house to see how I was doing. She has no interest in me, except as a friend. That's guaranteed. She is not married, but has been with her SO for years. Just over a year ago they lost a baby. Last winter she invited me to her house for dinner, for no good reason except out of her own decency. The last time we spoke, she said she didn't really want to be friends with my XWW, but I haven't talked to her in a few months.

The thing about asking... it shows that I doubt this woman's level of understanding and sensitivity w/r/t my recent past, and I think she's earned my trust. But I'm not 100% sure. Last summer, when she was on vacation, she let the sparrow stay at her house for two weeks, and I'm sure OM was there the whole while.

If I don't ask, and I go, and they're there, there's no way I'll do anything to ruin the party. But I won't stay for long. If I ask, and the Others are invited, I'll stay away, but I'll still give the DS a present if I can think of something good in time.

Okay. Complicated, this.

GC

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PS SS, I looked your pictures....beautiful! You guys are lucky to live around such a beautiful area.

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15 years old
on way to europe

Does he have camera?

How much do you intend to spend?

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JJ, you didn't upset me, babe. Actually hashing it out makes it that much more transparent and less big-scary-what-if for me. I appreciate your concern.

Gray, are these people "that good of friends", ones who are truly aware of the details of your sitch? I didn't get that impression, but could be mistaken. I dunno guys, I see where Gray is coming from, and asking could be bloody uncomfortable (though perhaps it is what he should do). He's at the mercy of these friends and their understanding of what happened, which could very well have been skewed by the Sparrow if they are in contact with her also. Ouch.

That being said, however, I'd probably ask, too. If I felt any obligation to go, that is.


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Woops, posted right after you, Gray. Need to read what you said.


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>Should I be happy now? Or should I still wait?

You may commence with the

"Happy, happy, joy, joy,"

dance.

BTW: DS#3 (aged 5) started Kinder today. I'm a mush-heady mess.


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.

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Call, Gray. They like you....they will be sympathetic and kind.....


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.

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Kimmy, it's great to hear from you. I bet you were a puddle today, at least for a few moments.

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You may commence with the

"Happy, happy, joy, joy,"

dance.


Ok, but nobody watch, Dancing is not my strong suite.

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>at least for a few moments.


Try the last 12 hours. He's so little!


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SS - I peeked. You should be ashamed of yourself.

ROTFLMAO!


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

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Dancing is not my strong suite.

Neither is spelling! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Weaver ducks as SS throws a tomato <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

.....and then a peach

......and then the whole bottle of cream!

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No Weaver,
I can't spell, and don't care as much as I should.

Kimmy, I can't believe you would look.

Sigh,

Oh well.

SS


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