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I should mention - the priest who married us was the sparrow's great uncle, a monsignor. He died last year.

He also married the sparrow's mother and her late father.

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By the way...

FAR - thanks for dropping by last night. I wouldn't say I feel like a million, but yeah, there's a silver lining.

2long, SLH - no comment re the settlement and sparrow's failure to abide by it. I'm still cautious about unwelcome eyes here. It would be foolish to discuss my plans. Probably I shouldn't have even written about it.

Geez, nobody's around but the crickets. Here's a song I wrote:

Alone in her new place
With pictures she took
Just days ago

Pictures of islands
Turtles and friends
From before

She stands at her window
Feels how the wind
Still blows from the West

Too many daydreams
Invade her sleep
And steal her rest

She goes out lookin' for friends
But the company's got
Too many plans

The rest are in circles
With no room for girls
From faraway lands

She gets out of there and
Runs into the girl
From down the hall

They go back and chat then
The fun is cut short
When the ex calls

He says, "I can tell by your voice you've been lonely"
She says, "Man, that's astute -
"You must really know me"
"Don't be smart," he says, "I miss you too"
She says, "Where'd you get the idea
That what I miss is you?"

Nobody knows her for a thousand miles
And that suits her all right
At least for a little while
A friend would be nice and the weather here is bad
But this time that belongs to her
Feels like the first she's ever had


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That's neat, gc.

I edited, but SLH'll have 2 edit 2.

I shoulda thunk it.

-ol' 2long

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I like it GC. You are quite talented.


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I edited, but SLH'll have 2 edit 2.

I did.

(Did they retract the No Editing rule? Whe I tried to edit a few days ago, I had expired the time alotted (a few hours). But this post's been up longer. Weird.)

GC, damn, that was fine! Do you play it for performances, or is it personal? When did you write it? I get the impression that it's not a recent piece. . . just a whisper of something I can't quite put my finger on.

So when are you going to let us know how we can get ahold of some of your music?

Faithful, any news to report on the homefront? I can't find your thread again and am wondering if you're still posting on it or another.

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I think I'll just sit back and wait for Binder to come and comment on how talented, and sweet Graycloud is.

BTW Binder, you can tell us what is going on, even if it's hard for you.

Graycloud,
You do have talent, and it's good to see it come out. I suspect that this last year has been hard on your creative self.

SLH,
You have talent too -
Kindness,
Care,
Concern.
I know you have other talent that you don't mention here. Don't be shy. Tell us about yoursef, you are an interresting person.

Faithful,
Yes, give us an update !!!
We want to know how your H is doing with your feelings, but we want to know how you are coping too.

2long -
Missed you. Don't be a stranger.
Do you have an update for us?

Weaver,
I continue to read your comments to others as I pass by some threads. Your care, concern, and wise words thrill me as I read. Like I told SVB1 a while back, if you knew how much you are worth, you would rejoice, and probably never make a major mistake again. You are worth too much, I know it, and Paige knows it.

Kimmy,
It is so good to see you happy. Keep it up.


Quote for the gals today -

A man's got to do what a man's got to do. A woman must do what he can't.
-Rhonda Hansome-

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Of course I was fishing for all these compliments, so thank you.

SLH, you are correct. I wrote that song about a year before the nightmare began. It isn't recorded, but we play it at all our gigs. It's one of three songs where I sing the lead.

Our CD is done and officially released. I wish I could give them away, but I have to buy them from the band! We decided it's too hard to decide who gets one for free and who has to pay, so we only gave freebies to people who worked on the record. Our accountant (who is also our drummer) is tough!

As far as how to get one... the TOS probably forbid me from going there on this forum.

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Faithful, any news to report on the homefront? I can't find your thread again and am wondering if you're still posting on it or another
Thanks for asking SLH and SS. I am fine not much time to post the past couple days. Had a major crisis at work. We have a childhood friend of H staying with us and that has kept me on my toes at home. I hope he will be gone by tomorrow. The guy is an odd person and difficult to be around for any length of time. Not just me, driving my H crazy too. So no talk no time together not even going to be bed at the same time because his friend is there. I hope we will be able to get back to things soon. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />


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Just got back from weekend political event #1, Meet the Candidate and Give Her Money. Yikes. I went there knowing only (and just barely) the couple hosting the party.

A pretty girl was stationed at the front door with nametags and all that. I said hello, talked a bit. Went inside. Awk-ward! The candidate grabbed me and introduced herself immediately. She was very charming, and about my age. I tried to say hello to the host and hostess. The two of them, in the middle of another conversation, barely nodded at me. I was like a deer in the headlights. I knew nobody, but they all seemed to know each other.

Mercifully, the candidate started her speech after just a few minutes. After she was done, I went outside to call my dad (he's 73 today). No answer. Just me at a bench by the front door and the pretty girl behind the table. I fumbled with my cell phone a bit, then walked over and struck up a conversation with her, but felt like a freak. Hope I came off better than I thought. We talked about renovating our houses. She threw in a "we" or two, a nice, subtle, I-got-a-man message. I went back inside. I tried to talk to the girl who invited me to the event, who I'd never met. I don't even know what I said to her. The candidate came back, and I spoke with her for a minute. I asked her how the doorknocking is going, told her, "Maybe I can help you out," then FLED.

I can be charming, but not tonight. It felt like my first junior high dance. I had every reason to be confident and assured. These were nice people. I suppose sticking to familiar social settings for the last year has left me a bit out of practice.

This political stuff is cool though. A good way to meet people.

Last week I put my profile on two online dating sites. Didn't pay for full membership - I was only trying it on. I got some responses. Looked at some profiles. Bo-ring. Online dating is not for me. Bleh. Like signing up for a string of blind dates. I yanked my profiles and called that experiment done.

The single GC is having a bumpy takeoff.

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I would like to speak with someone from the Catholic church about this divorce. Should I just call up any old priest and ask him to have a chat?


GC, I'm curious -- why do you wish to do this? What do you hope it accomplishes?


Re Your bumpy takeoff: at least you tried, hon.

She's out there.



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GC,

I noticed your very wise saying a few pages ago... about sharing a slice of the human condition. I wish I could say something clever about it, but I'm too beat. You're a good guy. Luck is something you won't need.

As for me, "we" are filing tomorrow. Uncontested D goes in 30 days here. After that, I'll be leaving MB. I'm winding down already.

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Oh heck...infidelity sucks!!!


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GC, I'm curious -- why do you wish to do this? What do you hope it accomplishes?

The idea occurs to me because I was married in the Catholic church. I'd like to hear that perspective on marriage and divorce and infidelity. Not looking for any condemnation or permission or instruction. Just would like to hear that POV.

AD, I am sorry for this. What kind of relationship will you have with her after this? What will you do when she comes to you uncertain at the 11th hour? Or after the D, if you meet someone, and she reacts to that.

FF... and how.

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Me either. And work so soon... FF, any reason you can't sleep?

I'm just restless.

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If you see my latest thread..my H never stopped the A. Just switched to new A phones. JFO tonight. They are talking about 2500 minutes per month since April. Time for FF to move on. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />


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gonna try to sleep, GC. I hope you do too. Work calls in the am and so does DS. night...


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Faithful,

Are you serious? I just can't believe it. I don't want to read your thread now, but I have too. I am so sorry, I just can't believe it.

Gray,

Can you please post your link to buy the CD? I don't think it is a violation of TOS since it has nothing to do with relationships. If not can you email it to me so I can get one. Thanks

SS,

Thank you! And I love that quote too. How very true it is.

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How can I not be a stranger? I AM pretty strange, you know! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Not much 2 update, except 2 note that things are going well. Part of that is backing off my posting here, ac2ally. Put things back in2 perspective a bit.

We leave 2day for my sister's. The memorial service for my dad is 2morrow. My sister asked if I wanted 2 read one of the poems I got on my thread here at the service, but like JL, I don't think I'd make it through. Someone else is going 2 read them.

We're going 2 OOSP over Labor Day. Gonna scope out a site for my scopes while I'm there, 2. Weather looks patchy, with thunderboomers from time 2 time. I just hope the sucker holes are big enough 2 take pic2res through the clouds at night... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

-ol' 2long

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