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Anyways this same coworker is a fellow in his 30’s, has two beautiful sons and a gorgeous wife. He also has the benefit of her families’ wealth and lives in a huge shack in the burbs. I have the benefit of the agencies hand held computer that used to be assigned to him as I likely will be moving into that branch of the agency. (you know where this is going don’t you) He failed to delete the Emails in the deleted folder. Yup. He’s professing his love to another women in the agency and she to him. The pandemic continues.
Sounds like entitlement more than EN's in his case. Ughh.. Have you thought of sending the emails to his BS?


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FF.....you have no idea what sort of repercussions that would have for me......no idea. It would be obvious where it came from and I would be persona non grata in so many places where I work. I couldn’t get far enough away from that nuclear device. I must find a different approach

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I wonder if you could annonymously let her know without implicating yourself. I certainly understand you professional worries though. Sigh..such a bad world isn't it?

Sorry, I am not in a good place today.


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J, if my house is presentable, I'll have the party.

Right now there's no finish on the floors. Every drop of water leaves a mark. It's hard to live in a house where drops of water on the floor are forbidden.

And of course it's going to rain all week. Descending half tones: wah, wah, wah, waaaaaaaaaaah.

So I spent Friday, Saturday, and today sanding my floors. Late this afternoon I went for a ride around the lakes. A mile from home, I hit a gravel patch and blew a tire. I don't carry gear on little rides like this, so... the ride was cut short.

I've been this tired only a handful of times, ever. But I need to write about the Classic Rock Ghost. I don't know if I've brought him up before.

Just to set things up...

Here are some of the things you find low on the dial here in Mpls.:

89.3: public radio, popular music
89.9: R&B
90.3: listener-supported eclectic music and left-leaning news
91.1: NPR news & info
91.4: Christian hits
92.5: classic rock
93.7: active rock (e.g., Metallica)

I keep my wakeup alarm clock dialed to 91.1. It's an analog tuner, and the dial is on the side, toward the back.

I have not touched this dial in many months.

The clock sits on a never-used desk in my bedroom, probably ten feet from my bed.

A few months ago, the radio started to occasionally tune in 92.5 in the morning. I thought this was a little strange, especially because it was tuned in very clearly. And one day it would be on 92.5, another day it would be on 91.1. One of my friends said I've got a ghost who likes classic rock.

The NPR/classic rock tossup went on for a while. Then one morning the Christian hits station was dialed in. Odd, but less surprising, since 91.1 and 91.4 are so close together, right?

Okay, fast forward. Last night, at 2 A.M., I finally quit working on my floors and headed to bed.

I was very tired, but also needed to cut my sleep a little short so I could get up early and finish my sanding. I set the alarm and turned the volume up loud, then thought to myself, maybe I should put the active rock station on. But I didn't touch the dial. I decided at the beginning of all this that I was going to leave this dial alone. I might have said to myself, out loud, "I should set it to 93X."

This morning, 93X was blaring on the radio.

I got up, switched the alarm off, and did my thing.

Just checked the clock when I set the alarm.

"This is the BBC. It's 1600 GMT."

Back on 91.1 where it belongs.

I believe the ionosphere may have something to do with this, but this morning - 2.6 kHz away from where it's dialed? And tuned to a station I secretly considered as effective wakeup music? Wow. That's quite a coincidence.

It's the Classic Rock Ghost, who it seems also likes active rock, or is generous and believes I like it.

Or is (most likely) the ionosphere.

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No....I will likely let him and his affair partner know I know and direct him to here in an understanding non judgmental way (I’ll have to feign the non judgmental part). There is no way to remain anonymous if telling the BS....no way.

And don't apologize for not being in a "good place" that is usually not a "choice" we make.

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Binder, I'll tell her!

Sorry about that dumb story in the middle of everything. Didn't mean to interrupt.

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Hey....maybe you're on to something, a call from another country would be hard to trace back to me! BTW how do you end up apologizing for interrupting YOUR thread?

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Wow,

This was an interesting read this a.m., just perfect with a cup of java.

Gray, I loved the classic rock ghost story. Cool!

And Binder is sharing more than he has in a very long time. Doubly Cool!

J, reading about how you knew he had broken up with his girlfriend without being told, because of his energy and presense being back in your life reminds me of how very connected we really all our...and then add love into the mix. Powerful stuff you are writing about.

SLH, on Friday night I saw a beatiful moon. I kept wondering if was the "harvest moon" we always here about in songs, and the one which is so powerful for those who practice the ancient practices.

For me I am going to spend the next few months with God, and I have the best feeling that good things are just around the corner now.

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Weaver: Yup, it was the Harvest Moon. Here's an article about it.

http://www.space.com/spacewatch/050916_harvest_moon.html

Very cool.


Sunny Day, Sweeping The Clouds Away...

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SLH:

"Spent a long time with my boy (horse) this evening.

What is it about sitting on a silver horse in the light of a full moon that makes the world seem, if only for a moment, still and tranquil?"

I think Mike Oldfield cap2red it:

"On Horseback"

"I like beer, and I like cheese
I like the smell of a westerly breeze
But what I like more than all of these
Is to be on horseback.

Hey and away we go
Through the grass, across the snow
Big brown beastie, big brown face
I'd rather be with you than flying through space.


I like thunder, and I like rain
And open fires, and roaring flames.
But if the thunder's in my brain,
I'd like to be on horseback.

Some like the city, some the noise
Some make chaos, and others, toys.
But if I was to have the choice,
I'd rather be on horseback.

Hey and away we go
Through the grass, across the snow
Big brown beastie, big brown face
I'd rather be with you than flying through space.


Some find it strange to be here,
On this small planet, and who knows where.
But when it's strange and full of fear,
It's nice to be on horseback.

Some are short, and others tall,
Some hit their heads against the wall.
But it doesn't really matter at all,
When you happen to be on horseback.

Hey and away we go
Through the grass, across the snow
Big brown beastie, big brown face
I'd rather be with you than flying through space.


So if you you feel a little glum,
To Hergest Ridge you should come.
In summer, winter, rain or sun,
It's good to be on horseback.
Hmph!

Hey and away we go
Through the grass, across the snow
Big brown beastie, big brown face
I'd rather be with you than flying through space.


I'd rather be on horseback."


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2Long, that's it exactly. Were you a cowboy in a previous life? *grin*

I am planning on going trail riding with my oldest DD in a few weeks, once temps drop below 90 or so. <sigh! can't be soon enough!> I am so looking forward to the smell of the westerly breeze, open fires and maybe, if I am lucky, falling leaves. Of course, "Fall" doesn't come to Houston until late November sometime!

Guys, I miss you all so much. I' haven't had a chance to respond recently, but I have been following each post. Thinking of and praying for each of you!

love and hugs,

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SLH,
AS long as you swear you are OK, I'll leave you alone.

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HI!


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.

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Hi! (Waves back)


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I'm waving my arms hard saying "hi, I'm here!" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Miss you SLH. Hope you are gone for a good reason. Hey Kimmy and SS.


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Hi Faithful,
You are ???? today.

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Hi SS. Oh you saw me waving oh so quietly? LOL

I am ok. Big ups and downs over the weekend. I have to detach more than I have been able to thus far. My emotions swing like a pendulum. We have a conference call with the atty on Thursday and then it goes to the judge. Should be about 3 weeks from there to D. I sent my WH several articles I found on line about telling children about D.

Funny thing is SS, I know he loves me and doesn't want a D. He just cannot let go of his addiction to OW.


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Funny thing is SS, I know he loves me and doesn't want a D. He just cannot let go of his addiction to OW.

Nothing else matters at this point.
He will have to learn the hard way.

Sorry for the swings - I think it will be AFTER until it will even out for you.

Keep trying, you will make it.

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SLH, AS long as you swear you are OK, I'll leave you alone.

SS, better than in a long time, and that's without the AD's, too.

Ti is actively looking for another job and we are both looking forward for once in a great long time.

Thinking of moving to hill country (the TX equivalent of mountains, LOL), which I've always loved, in the next year or so. I know my girls would love it. They need to wade in creeks with their jeans rolled up and fish with a cane pole and taste fresh blackberries, as I did as a girl. You just can't get that in Houston, anywhere.

Trying to talk Ti into taking us camping before it gets cool. . . maybe tubing or swimming in one of the clear springs 5 hours west of here. Haven't been camping anywhere since 1994, and man, I miss it.

I wasn't cut out to be an urbanite. I miss fishing for trout and bream, and swimming and hiking. I've gotten lazy and complacent in my city-girl attitude. It's not how I want to be, and not how I want to raise my girls.

If I can't get back on, let me wish you a safe trip and speedy return. Hugs, SS.

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SS raises eyebrows ......

Good for you. You need to see a light at the end of the tunnel. That will go a long way for you for the next little while.

Grin -

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