Yeah. He's so hip he has trouble seeing over his pelvis.

Name of the book? Anyone? Anyone???

Bueller???

Bueller???

Bueller???

I'm not hip. Everyone else just got less cool.

GC

Zaphod Beeblebrox, Douglas Adams' The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy

Golly, guys, where is everybody? How have ya'll been?


slh

Yes,
Where is everyone?

Oh -
I have been playing mom this weekend. W went with her mom to visit her sister.

How DO you GIRLS do it anyway?

I think I need a rest.

SS

SS, didn't you know the truth is we secretly sit around and eat bons bons while we put our kids to work around the house! I sing the song from the Disney version of Cinderella to my DD when she is doing chores. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hey hey people.

Not long after we bought our house, my ex and I and my brother went to the dump to get rid of some demolition trash. While we were there, we retrieved a clawfoot tub which sparrow planned to restore. She never touched it, and Kimmy's gonna kill me, but today I took it back to the dump.

My ex used to get ideas like that, ideas for creative things she might do, but when it came time to actually do something, she had no motivation. Whenever tackling something was too difficult, she'd punt it. My mother gave her a sewing machine for Xmas one year, and she never touched it. Our friends bought her a set of painting supplies once, and she never went near them.

She had talent, but no patience. She wanted the pretty results, but refused to do any work to get them.

I remember once, she wanted to learn math. She didn't know jack about it, not even algebra. So I got her a book and tried to teach her. She ripped out the page and threw the book across the room, and that was the end of that.

I think she thought some of that was my fault. I wonder if it's true. Certainly I never discouraged her. I have a feeling she thought eliminating me would make her overcome her inability to see things through. I wonder if it did.

Weird. Anyway, enough about her. I am glad that stupid nasty tub is gone.

I close on my house on Thursday, assuming everything is moving ahead.

GC

That is not your flaw GC, it is hers. Glad you got rid of the tub. I would love a claw foot tub but not if it was a reminder of yet another thing your X did not follow through on. Good luck on the closing. Hope everything goes smooth.

Faithful - I just bet you sit around and eat bon bons. You made me laugh though, you made me laugh.

Gray,
I didn't even know they had "dumps" now days. I thought they had converted them all to "sanitary land fills."

So, are you going to be house poor after thursday? Or will it be OK?

And another thing........ why did you want her back?
Is it A DJ to ask that?

SS

GC:

"Not long after we bought our house, my ex and I and my brother went to the dump to get rid of some demolition trash. While we were there, we retrieved a clawfoot tub which sparrow planned to restore. She never touched it, and Kimmy's gonna kill me, but today I took it back to the dump."

I'm gonna beat Kimmy 2 the punch. Consider yourself kilt! I hope you didn't install one of those tupperware tubs in your house. That'd be so wrong. Clawfoot tubs are the best! And here in LA, they're worth at least a few hundred dollars if they're in decent condition. But restoring one? They have this epoxy stuff that's supposed 2 "reglaze" them, but it doesn't last. If it's got serious chips, it's worthless unless it's some unusual shape or design - then it could be valuable still.

"I think she thought some of that was my fault. I wonder if it's true. Certainly I never discouraged her. I have a feeling she thought eliminating me would make her overcome her inability to see things through. I wonder if it did."

No you don't. You know it didn't!

"Weird. Anyway, enough about her. I am glad that stupid nasty tub is gone."

see above... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

"I close on my house on Thursday, assuming everything is moving ahead."

Cool. Stoke the fire and fill the cooler with Arrogant Bass Turd Ales! (apparently, ****** is a cuss word!)

-ol' 2long

SS, I am going to be house poor, but it'll be okay.

I wanted her back because I was attached to her, and because I didn't want her to be the filthy person she seemed to be becoming. Didn't want her to walk around with the responsibility of destroying that family. As well as ours.

Now she's someone who's willfully dismantled the lives of several people to get her heart's desire. Seems to me that would be a pretty miserable thing to become. But you know, I don't think it's the first time she's done something like that. Though this was on a much grander scale than the shenanigans I suspect her of from before I knew her. I'll never know, nor will I try to find out.

2long, I can get another clawfoot tub any time. And I figured the old lasts-for-a-year epoxy job would be a real drag. I'll get a good one sometime. For now I'll live with what I have - a crummy blue tub from the days when you could get any color long as it was white, pink, or blue.

GC

How do you know if you're on the right path?

Yesterday when I went to the dump (here they call it the "transfer station", I arrived before they were open, but didn't realize it. I didn't see the times posted, though I reckon they must have been somewhere.

I pulled the gate open, hopped in Jayne's truck, and headed in. A worker came at me, waving her arms.

"Back up!" she shouted.

I backed up.

"I'm not open. I open at 12:30!" she shouted.

"Okay, sorry," I said, and turned around. I could see her looking at me, jaws flying, looking very angry, but couldn't hear her any more. As I pulled away and looked in my rearview, she was still speaking in my direction, still looking maaaaad.

I went to the reuse center around the corner to kill an hour. Looked for old door hardware to replace some of mine that's broken.

My first response to the woman's anger? For a minute, I imagined scenarios where I came back and she was still upset. I thought it was likely she would be, and that I'd hear about it. I thought of what to say. I thought I should ask her to cut me slack. Felt myself getting hostile, wandering the aisles full of salvaged house parts.

Suddenly felt ashamed of myself. Decided I'd answer any continued hostility calmly. What's the phrase? See the world through eyes of compassion. Decided to stop expecting the woman to be nasty.

When I returned, the woman was directing people where to put different items. Computers over here, chairs over there, 300# cast iron tubs over there. I had a massive bag of empty containers - cans once full of paint, mineral spirits, stripper, nasty stuff. The guy in the office had told me that to dump it I'd have to show them that all the containers were empty and dry. I pulled the bag out, and walked over to where the guy told me to leave the stuff. The woman who'd yelled at me earlier came over.

"What do you got?" she said.

I told her.

I started pulling the cans out.

"They empty?" she said.

"Yeah."

She smiled and said, "I believe you. Go ahead and leave them in the bag."

I told her thanks, and hopped in the truck.

"Thanks - see you later," she said.

GC

Oh Gray,

I can't tell you how tickled I was to read this from you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

You got it buddy boy...this is our dream and what ever we are inside is exactly what is mirrored back to us. We "see, get, experience" that which needs to be healed in us...and once it is we don't encounter it any longer, because it is no longer our mirror.

I'm glad I read this tonight...from you.

gc:

I'm glad she didn't shoot you!

I really like the story, and what weaver said about it. If only I could help my W change her perspective that way...

...ol' 2long

stopping by tending to the fire...how is everyone?

Getting ready to go home and have a real fire.

Tomorrow morning I buy my house.

FF, I'm behind (lo siento). Reading...

GC

Let's throw a house warming party for GC tomorrow!!

I'll bring the chips and dip.

I'll bring Alaskan pink salmon baked in tinfoil with olive oil and dill...and a nice cabernet.

I'll also bring some Beck, some Jackyl, and some Kid Rock -

and ROCK THE PARTAY!!!!!

oooh...I love salmon! Alright we got some food/drinks/music at GC's house woo hoo!!

And a fire!

Use cedar Gray as it smells so good in a fire.

We can play Tripoly. We played that all the time growing up. It is hearts, poker and gin rummy combined. And it is really fun. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />