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new_beginningII #1204563 04/23/06 04:36 PM
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LOL....

38 and holding...you nutbar!!!

i love it when you get brave....


Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world.
~~Buddha
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I'm feeling especially chronologically gifted this morning.

I ache from one end to the other. The hairs on my head hurt.

But it was a wonderful week. I think I'll ski again next weekend.

with prayers,


"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan

"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky

WS: They are who they are.

When an eel lunges out
And it bites off your snout
Thats a moray ~DS
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{{Appy}} LOL, it hurts when the pain is self inflicted doesn't it? You are brave. So I will ask again, anyone here have FAR's email addy?


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We got back from OOSP Sa2rday night about 8:30. DS and I were in the truck, and MIL and W were in W's car.

W called from her cell phone about 5 minutes after I walked in2 the house, saying she'd had a sudden dizzy spell and had 2 have MIL grab the steering wheel and pull the car off the freeway. I had 2 get DD 2 take me out there and pick her up, cause MIL can't really drive a stick shift.

We 2k W 2 the emergency room 2 find out what had happened. Thankfully, it wasn't medically serious (like a stroke), just vertigo caused by some inner ear thingy. It scared her witless, though. But it showed us that we need 2 make sure that we get more rest and take breaks on that 8-hour drive home. Sa2rday, we hadn't left until about noon, and we'd done several physically-taxing projects in the morning before we left.

In other news, I'm "sensing" some disconnect still between us these days, and I'm not sure what to make of it. No ILYs still. We get along fine, but we seldom have deep conversations. We also have had some passionate kissing a few times in the last 2ple months. Very nice.

Probably what I'm sensing is a re2rn 2 complacency, and that we're both uncomfortable with that trend (sounds contradictory, doesn't it?: uncomfortable complacency!). So, I'll have 2 find a way 2 break through the barriers somehow.

-ol' 2long

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2long,

I have this burning question ....

Do you replace all your "to" "too" "two" "tu" ... manually? Or do you have a piece of code that does a search and replace?

I just can't imagine being that consistent. I am voting for code. ESPECIALLY since my guess is that you would not suffer something as ineffecient as a manual process for something like that.

It is interesting to note that in your signature line, you have not made your typical replacements in the song lyrics.

Which IMHO point much more strongly to the code scenario, as the signature line is a quicky you edit in a different window.

Hmmmm.....

NCW

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I have this burning question ....


It's spelled L-A-M-O-S-I-L.

If the burn is higher up than your foot, you need to see a doctor.

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I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.

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2long - Glad you got home safely.

If it helps, we still have times when we "sense some disconnect." Not often, but it happens.

We also (and much thanks to MB) have times when we feel like it's a second honey moon - only better. Better becasue we have this 28 year history, and a family, and also have these strong feelings of love, and togetherness. It's a strong bond, perhaps one of the bonds that helped to set us free. We seldom feel the frustration of wondering if our partner cares - care and concern is communicated daily by both words, and action.

As far as breaking through the barriers......

Don't be afraid to say things to her. Say them with no strings attached. Kind of an experiment.

Things you can ask her -
Do you have the kind of a marriage you want to have?
Do you still have dreams that haven't come true?
What can I do today to increase your happiness?

What would turn this from an ordinary day into a wonderful day (for you?)

And the last one (my secret, dont' tell anyone) - the set up is you are sitting close to her reading the newspaper.
"Your horiscope for today is great - it says you will make passionate love to your husband tonight, and love every minute of it." But keep the dead pan look, and after she looks up, say "who writes these things, anyway? They must know us pretty good."

It's fun to watch their reaction over time as we attempt to get closer. That distance is there for a reason, and it's fun to find the walls, and take them down. Kind of like exploring a distant planet - venus if some books are correct.

W had that same dizzy spell last fall. It lasted (on and off) for about 3 days. The Doc said it was common with Hay Feaver, and Colds.

Hope both of you have a good week.

SS


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Hi Kimmy,
Pleasent days to you.

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I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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Faithful,
Sorry - no help on the email address.

You are well today?
Please tell the truth, I really want to know.

SS


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ncw:

No code. I don't know from codes.

I ac2ally have 2 check my "regular" correspondence 2 make sure I haven't put in 2's where they shouldn't be!

SS:

You're right. I should poke at the barriers instead of just accept them.

-ol' 2long

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You're right. I should poke at the barriers instead of just accept them.

Sometimes we get tired. I would guess you have been there - could write the book.

The cool thing is, you can leave it alone when you are tired, and start up again when you can handle it. Make it a game -

By the questions, you can show you care about her feelings. That's something she needs to know anyway.

You can also have lots of fun with it. My W was wary at first, but now she likes it.

It's really fun when their giver gets going because they feel loved. Then both of us feel like giving.

How was the construction north of Baker?

SS


I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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Just because I like you <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

1 - Start Microsoft Word

2 - Click "Tools>Macros>Visual Basic Editor"

3 - Look in the left most pane. There should be a tree with an entry in bold that says "Normal"

4 - Right click this and select "Insert" then "Module"

5 - Below this line, bounded by repeated equals signs is some Visual Basic Code. Copy and paste it in the new module window you just opened. Do not include the equal signs lines.

==Start of Code==================
Sub toolongese()
'
' toolongese Macro
' This macro replaces all the characters that 2long likes to use a 2 4
'
Selection.Find.ClearFormatting
Selection.Find.Replacement.ClearFormatting
With Selection.Find
.Text = "too"
.Replacement.Text = "2"
.Forward = True
.Wrap = wdFindContinue
End With
Selection.Find.Execute Replace:=wdReplaceAll

With Selection.Find
.Text = "to"
.Replacement.Text = "2"
.Forward = True
.Wrap = wdFindContinue
End With

Selection.Find.Execute Replace:=wdReplaceAll

With Selection.Find
.Text = "tu"
.Replacement.Text = "2"
.Forward = True
.Wrap = wdFindContinue
End With

Selection.Find.Execute Replace:=wdReplaceAll

With Selection.Find
.Text = "two"
.Replacement.Text = "2"
.Forward = True
.Wrap = wdFindContinue
End With

Selection.Find.Execute Replace:=wdReplaceAll

With Selection.Find
.Text = "couple"
.Replacement.Text = "2ple"
.Forward = True
.Wrap = wdFindContinue
End With

Selection.Find.Execute Replace:=wdReplaceAll

With Selection.Find
.Text = "both"
.Replacement.Text = "2th"
.Forward = True
.Wrap = wdFindContinue
End With

Selection.Find.Execute Replace:=wdReplaceAll

End Sub
==End of Code===================

6 - Close the Visual Basic Editor by clicking the "X" in upper right corner. You should now be back in Word.

7 - Go up to the tool bar line and right click. NOT on a button, but up in the tool bar area next to a button. You should get a list of toolbars and at the very bottome it should say "Customize..." Click that.

8 - You will get a pop-up Titled "Customize" and the center pane titled "Commands" should be active. Scroll down in the "Categories" list (on the left) and look for "Macros". Click that.

9 - In the right pane titled "Commands" one (or more) selections will appear. One of these should end with the "toolongese" from the Visual Basic Code.

10 - Click and HOLD this, dragging it up to an existing toolbar, then let it go.

11 - Once it is placed on a tool bar, right click it and select "Default Style" in the list that pops up. This will get rid of the messy text.

12 - Right click it again and click "Change Button Image" to pick a better picture, or even "Edit Button Image" to draw your own.

13 - Once you are all finished, click the "Close" button on the "Customize" window you opened earlier.

14 - When you exit Word, it will ask if you want to save changes to "Normal.dot". If you say yes, the macro will be available whenever you want (on that computer).

Now, type what you want in Word, click the button, and all of the "too" "to" "tu" and "two" in your text will be replaced by "2".

NCW

(sorry I had to edit, left out the conversion for "both")

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StillSeeking's post converted to toolongese....

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You're right. I should poke at the barriers instead of just accept them.

Sometimes we get tired. I would guess you have been there - could write the book.

The cool thing is, you can leave it alone when you are tired, and start up again when you can handle it. Make it a game -

By the questions, you can show you care about her feelings. That's something she needs 2 know anyway.

You can also have lots of fun with it. My W was wary at first, but now she likes it.

It's really fun when their giver gets going because they feel loved. Then both of us feel like giving.

How was the construction north of Baker?

SS

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I think about all the pain in the world... I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.

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NCW, did I ever tell you how much I like you?

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NCWalker #1204577 04/24/06 05:24 PM
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Here is one from Weaver converted....

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Well, I realized just how much she was affected by what Dan had done. She really adored him you know, and when he left he never even said goodbye 2 her...nothing! We had very few close people in our life after my parents died (she was 4), and he was important 2 her.

The island property was a big part of her life 2, she had her fort there and our camper. She and I had spent quite a lot of time there...so she suffered this loss as well.

I had driven 2 the ferry with her one day, 2 get our things out of the camper and she refused 2 get on2 the ferry. She said she didn't want anything from our property and didn't want 2 go. I never attempted 2 go back after that.

So yes, it is sad..and why I will be very, very careful who I allow in2 our life again.

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It doesnt interest me what planets are squaring your moon...
I want 2 know if you have 2uched the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened by lifes betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.
~~Oriah Mountain Dreamer

"I have woven a parachute out of everything
broken"
~~William Stafford

LOOK! it even caught "touched" and made it "2uched"

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Hi Jen,

You have 2ld me many times. 2 whit, the feeling is reciprocated. Remember it takes 2 2 tango. 2 bad for the other who don’t quite have the relationship we have.

In other words, I like you 2.

2NCW

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LOOK! it even caught "touched" and made it "2uched"

Those are the hard ones 2 read 2.

I think sometimes he converts the "q"'s 2, doesn't he? Well I seem to get tripped up on those as well.

NCW, I like you 2, but you do give me a headache. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

PS: I always thought he did it because he didn't know when it was correct to use "to" or "too". That can be tricky for some...yanno?

[color:"purple"]WELCOME HOME [/color] 2long!

I love SS's idea for breaking through those blasted, stubborn barriers. I can't imagine a better way to do it either than with humour/fun.

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Hmmm....

This has the workings of a mania.

Will wait to see what 2long demands for royalties, though.

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Un42nately, I think it'll take a lot longer 2 do all that than 2 just k33p on typing 2s' (and 3's and 4's! - I was thinking about replacing e's with 3's and changing my name 2 3long). Besides, I'll still have 2 train msyelf not 2 type 2s in "normal" speach! So, maybe I need the macro that detoolongeses text!

...when my other username, Qfwfq, was T-zero for a while, I tried 2 get in2 the habit of typing 0's in place of all the O's.

2k 2long, though.

I'll proceed, with 4ti2de!

-ol' 2long

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Hey, did you call her a "twit"?

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