SS, thank you! I think this is the real deal, it is definitely not infatuation, it feels calm. He feels like someone I have always known. It's wierd, and you know Paige's dad is moving over by Chicago, so moving now is an option for us, it never was before. I think he'll have her in the summers and me during the school year. GB is already trying to decide what to do with a bedroom for her. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> And because he comes from such a large family all in that area, I know it will be good for her. Well I'll meet them this weekend, so we'll see.

Oh and SS, I'm doing it the right way this time or not at all, marriage first.

Not leaving until tomorrow now, so... going out over the airways is an old favorite for GrayCloud -

friend, brother, son, wood worker, music maker, weather man...

Don't ever stop dreaming Gray, dream until your dreams come true.

Dream On, by Aerosmith

Every time I look in the mirror
All these lines on my face getting clearer
The past is gone
It goes by, like dusk to dawn
Isn't that the way
Everybody's got their dues in life to pay

Yeah, I know nobody knows
where it comes and where it goes
I know it's everybody's sin
You got to lose to know how to win

Half my life
is in books' written pages
Lived and learned from fools and
from sages
You know it's true
All the things come back to you

Sing with me, sing for the year
Sing for the laughter, sing for the tears
Sing with me, if it's just for today
Maybe tomorrow, the good lord will take you away

Dream On Dream On Dream On
Dream until your dreams come true <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Oh and SS, I'm doing it the right way this time or not at all, marriage first.

When we talked about that before........ all I ever wanted to do was protect your feelings in the future. I am happy, because you will get what you deserve this time.

Dream on - best played LOUD when I need to get something done.

SS

Hey, I just went to check on Curious George Appy... how come he has two posts both numbering at 1000?

Is he magic?

SS, you can't know how much you and the others, and God have influenced my life lately.

And yes, only loud for Dream On!

All your posts show the same number -

From the first to the last. It is the number of total posts you have done, not the number of that single post.

SS

Oh, duh!

Weaver, do you remember how you felt so in love the last time around? If you don't, you might want to go look at your old posts, the ones at the very beginning when you didn't know the last guy you dated very well.

Can you see the similarities? And remember how, when you actually got to know the other one, all of a sudden there were some really strong flaws?

I've lived long enough to know that everyone, even HoFS who I love very very much, has significant flaws. They say that you should pass through all the seasons with someone. I think that's more than just the seasons of the year. I think it's the seasons of the heart. I want to know what he's like when he's sad and when he's angry, when he's happy and when he's laughing, when he's thinking and when he's busy, when he's relaxing and when he's sleepy.

When we know all those things, when you've seen him in the bad moods and the bad lighting and the terrible moments, then you will know much more than you do now. It's not to say that he's not worth it. I very much hope that he is. Just... don't fall in love with an illusion. Fall in love with the reality, if you can.

J, this is good advice. One of my cronies could use it.

Weaver, thanks for the tune. My soul, my eyebrow? Thanks for asking, guys.

GC

But Gray.... you didn't answer. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

weaver:

Sorry for not wishing you a good weekend before you left. But I'm sure you'll have one anyway!!

gc: yeah, what's the answer, dewed?

...ol' 2long's going 2 his scope thingy 2morrow morning. W decided she's going 2 let me "have my time alone" this weekend. Even though she's not going 2 OOSP as she'd originally planned, not until next Wed. My SIL's birthday is this weekend, and my DD and he are having friends over 2 the house all weekend.

I didn't expect anything, though, and so I'm not disappointed. Still don't know whether I'll go 2 OOSP this summer or not. Mostly, I'm not worried about that decision at this point, either.

We had a very good conversation last night and this morning about opposite sex friendships. My DS initiated it yes2rday with his mom, and she relayed some of the things he thought 2 me last night, so we had a chance 2 talk about our views then and this morning.

My W is starting 2 think, I think. She may have 2 far 2 go still, but it was good 2 air some of our "current truths", including perspectives on her A with RM.

No worries.

Have a great weekend, folk units! I certainly intend 2.

-ol' 2long

But Gray.... you didn't answer.

Didn't
I
?

GC

When you're ready to chat, Gray, I'd love to hear. I hope you're well. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Look, in two days I reach the two-year mark since I registered.

My mother's cousin has been sort of a mentor for a young guy who was just married a year ago, and he's been hit with the ole "I want to divorce you so I can be with my affair partner and I expect you to shut your mouth and lay back and at least pretend to enjoy it."

Mom wants me to talk to this guy, who I've never met, because he's not doing well, seeing as he's just at the start of something I've already been through.

"Mom," I said, "I'm not through. I don't know if it works that way."

She asked what I meant. I said,

"Mom, two years ago people told me that whatever happened, in a couple of years it would be behind me and I'd be happy again. They said I'd heal well because I have a clean conscience, and that I just needed to grieve. Well, I may have been finally spit out the a$$ end of the cuckoldificator, but I'm still bruised, and possibly I've got permanent nerve damage. So I don't know if it would be honest, me trying to give him a nice shiny outlook about it all."

She told me to shut up and get a girlfriend. No, not really. She said I'd know what to say. We'll see.

GC

You know, GC, helping others can help us along in our own healing.

gc:

did you really say THAT 2 your mom?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

But I do agree with ff. Your process may take some more time, but I bet that you can give this guy hope without giving him false hope. Hope for a better fu2re because he's a stable individual regardless of what his W chooses 2 do is not vain hope.

-ol' 2long

I agree also. Certainly I'll talk to the guy if they put me in touch.

Didn't mean to suggest I have a bleak outlook. I just dashed that thing off as I left the office. Whoops, shoulda stayed quiet. Now everyone'll think I'm depressed.

Ah ain't! I swear it maw!

GC

It's not depression that I see, GC. It's that darned angry eyebrow. Gives you away every time. *hug* <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Grrrrrrr.

GC

was that a bear? I heard growling..I am skeered! Quick, someone pass me a marshmallow.

Take it like a man Gray - admit you're transparent.

Hi Faithful,
Still more up than down?


Hi J,
How's HoFS these days?

SS