I'll be there around 6 for dinner, SS!

FAR, you crack me up! Hi back to ya <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

prayers for ya, Kimmy

I'll be there. Dunno if my tum can handle it, but at this point I'm feeding the fear with anything and everything I can get my hands on. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Here's an update:

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I hate those kinds of updates.

Hugs to you - we care.

I do hope it helps at least a little bit - I wasn't making that part up.

SS

Thank you ss.

I'm just sitting here crying.

Tomorrow is the Wookie's birthday. It was gonna be specially sweet cos we'd have another "mile marker" in the rearview.

Maybe we should up the Superman ante and watch it at IMAX, huh?

You need a week away.

Not a day, or weekend.........

It's about your turn to celebrate life - and each other.

Look at the good.
We always mourn the bad, but sometiems we forget we have blessings.

Wookie is very blessed, and he knows it.

SS

Dealen-de, I'm sorry for the stress of the ongoing delays.

I don't know a single thing about your situation or why you're trying to obtain custody. Can you give me a link to it? I always wonder about it, and never have managed to ask before.

FAR, I haven't started the novel yet. I did, however, start researching where I can send things. Children's story publishers in one folder, gay and lesbian publishers in another, people who take stories about dealing with small children in a third.

I didn't calculate the volume of the lake. I looked it up. If I were to calculate it? I would take the detailed 3D maps that they've done of the bottom of Lake Michigan and divide it into 1 meter squares. Then I would calculate the volume of each "block" of water (1m x 1m x depth) and then I would add them all up.

There are probably faster ways to estimate it, but that's how I would get a generally accurate number. You might even be able to do 10m x 10m squares and get a decent number, or even 100m x 100 m. Depends on the accuracy that you're looking for.

In other words, I'd do it the way Edison liked to have the volume of a lightbulb determined...

Once you're done missing your wife, you can start being awake to what's around you. There are other people to have sex with..... and sex is much better when you're deeply attached to the person you're having it with. So much so that even though I was a little crazy when I was a kid, I would say now that sex without a long-term commitment and attachment kinda stinks.

JJ

I dunno where to to start baybee. It's been 3 years of her ******, half acred suicide attempts, mija having lice since she was 6 months....her boyfriend beating her up....her lies...the children living in filth....just the past two pick ups, mija has the same chonies on that we sent her in...that's 4 days without changing her chonies....

What else....

Geez....

So much to put down at once...sorry if I overwhelmed.

SS is right. We need a va-ca.

SS, you're very smart. I am a rock. My favorite song when I was little. I played that Greatest Hits record on my folks' old "cabinet" hi-fi a million times. That music isn't just safe, inoffensive pop.

Kimmy, do you like Bob Dylan? I don't know why I thought of "Buckets of Rain" but I did...

Buckets of rain, buckets of tears
Got all them buckets comin' out of my ears
Buckets of moonbeams in my hand
I got all the love, honey baby, you can stand.

I been meek and hard like an oak
I seen pretty people disappear like smoke
Friends will arrive, friends will disappear
If you want me, honey baby, I'll be here

Like your smile and your fingertips
Like the way that you move your lips
I like the cool way you look at me
Everything about you is bringing me misery

Little red wagon, little red bike
I ain't no monkey but I know what I like
I like the way you love me strong and slow
I'm taking you with me, honey baby, when I go

Life is sad, life is a bust
All you can do is do what you must
You do what you must do and you do it well
I'll do it for you, honey baby, can't you tell

GC

Okay.... What are "chonies"? Undies? I suspect they are. Sigh. Sounds like their mom is in a world of hurt. And I mean that quite literally. I'm so sorry. I think Gray's got some good lyrics for you. I hope, really really hope, that she gets some help and gets healthy. The kids really need healthy parents, you know? And even if they're with you, they'll miss her and still need her healthy.

It hurts when the babies get hurt.

Funny. I've thought many times about adoption -- about adopting a child or two or six. I've thought, too, about the friends I've had who were adopted when they were babies, about how they always missed something and wished they knew their birth parents, and yet loved their adoptive parents.

I've never thought, though, about the kids who are adopted out of living conditions that are so very bad. They must still miss their birth parents -- it's a part of the nature of humans that they attach to their parents. We're like little ducklings that way. And yet sometimes the attachments are so messed up.

So sad.

Lyrics. So many sad lyrics about this topic. None quite fit. This one will have to do...

and she takes another step
slowly she opens the door
check that he is sleeping
pick up all the broken glass
and furniture on the floor
been up half the night screaming
now it's time to get away
pack up the kids in the car
another bruise to try and hide
another alibi to write
another ditch in the road
you keep moving
another stop sign
you keep moving on
and the years go by so fast
wonder how I ever made it through

and there are children to think of
baby's asleep in the back seat
wonder how they'll ever make it
through this living nightmare
but the mind is an amazing thing
full of candy dreams and new toys
and another cheap hotel
two beds and a coffee machine
but there are groceries to buy
and she knows she'll have to go home

another ditch in the road
you keep moving
another stop sign
you keep moving on
and the years go by so fast
wonder how I ever made it through

another bruise to try and hide
another alibi to write
another lonely highway in the black of night
there's hope in the darkness
I know you're gonna make it

another ditch in the road
keep moving
another stop sign
you keep moving on
and the years go by so fast
silent fortress built to last
wonder how I ever made it

(Two Beds and A Coffee Machine, by Savage Garden)

I have a friend who was divorced once and has children and who's moving far away from her ex. I assume the children will only see their father a few months every year.

Some people might say the woman is making the wrong choice for her children, taking them far from their own father.

I have to recuse myself. I don't know. All I know is I'll miss her and I'm thrilled for her. I asked her, 1 to 10, how excited is she to be getting out of here. 17, she said. I said you shouldn't overestimate how happy something is going to make you. Okay, she said, 16 then.

GC

A... friend? Is this a friend we both know?

Both?

Or more than?

-ol' 2long

>Sounds like their mom is in a world of hurt.

Yes....and her hurt rains down on the children.

She is constantly searching for the next big thing to get her out of her pain. She fails to realize the next big thing resides inside HER.

She'd never believe it. Never ever.

It's so sad.

All we can do is break the chain.

Wow.

Sounds a lot like my xw.

But the kids are never getting far from me. That is my current topic of intense thought. Intense prayer.

far

Sounds like we've got the same prayer.

OW is an OC, as are her brothers. Her mom is currently STILL an OW (not to the same guy).

How sad is that?

Kimmy,

Hang in there, and keep doing what you are doing...your loving stability will counteract their mother's neglect of them. I hope she gets help some day, how awful for all concerned.

SS,

I am doing really good and very happy...get P back tonight for her four months with me and we leave tomorrow for Green Bay for a week.

P is also getting a little long-haired weiner dog tonight (clancy), which we are bringing on our trip (oh yay <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />) with us. I agreed for her to get this little dog because she has to stay home while I am at work now without a baby-sitter (first summer for this), and I don't want her to get lonely, plus she needs a little dog to love and learn responsibility for.

I no longer have the computer hooked up at home so mostly just check in when I am at work and usually too briefly to post. (today though, I am taking it a little bit easy at work)

To everyone else (I see 2long is off for a week or two, probably to the OOSP) have a great holiday!!!!!!!

Weaver,
I know life is always complicated and we only share a tiny bit of ourselves here - compared to the thoughts and feelings we have.

I am so glad you are happy. I am glad P has you to be her mom.

The twins had a dog from when they were born, until they turned 11. It was a good thing for them. Ours was a golden retriever, and it was gentle and kind to kids. It was good for them to care for it, and learn that it had feelings and needed love. It was good for them to get love in return.

Thanks so much for sharing - it means a lot to me to know how you are.

SS