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weaver #1206083 03/07/07 04:50 PM
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Alaska though. That's where I want to go next. DS and I want to ride Harleys up the Alcan and return on the inland ferry. Take about a month all total I figure.


It's gotta be a guy thing.

I dunno Weav...it sounds like a helluva a good time to me...

But I'm weird that way.

Course I'd prolly have to sell a kid or two to finance it....think the Wookie would mind?


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.

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I'd like 2 someday join the VW bus run from Sam Frank's Disco 2 Inuvik.

But since my Eurovan doesn't "count", I'd have 2 drive the ol' singlecab, and the bears would probably eat me during the night... ...if the mosquitos don't.

-ol' 2long

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varooom...varrrrrroooommmmmm....

2L, does your bus have flowers painted on it?

It should. Might keep the bears away. They are not vegetarians, you know.


"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan

"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky

WS: They are who they are.

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For the campfire, I just found this song on a Model A website:

"Not very far from me there's an old hollow tree
Where you lay down a dollar or two.
You go around the bend and you come back again
With a jug of that old mountain dew.

They call it that old mountain dew, Lord, Lord
And them that refuse it are few.
Gonna hush up my mug if you'll fill up my jug
With that good old mountain dew.

~

Preacher came by with his head heisted high,
Said his wife had took down with the flu.
And he thought that we ought just to give him a snort
Of that good old mountain dew.

Well they call it that old mountain dew, Lord, Lord
And them that refuse it are few.
I'm gonna hush up my mug if you'll fill up my jug
With that good old mountain dew.

~

Now my uncle Rort, he's sawed off and he's short,
And he measures about four foot two.
But he thinks he's a giant when you give him a pint
Of that good old mountain dew.

Well they call it that old mountain dew, Lord, Lord
And them that refuse it are few.
I'm gonna hush up my mug if you'll fill up my jug
With that good old mountain dew.

Gonna hush up my mug if you'll fill up my jug
With that good old mountain dew."

-ol' 2long

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This one's pretty cool, 2. From the same website:

"The Man With The Blue Guitar


The man bent over his guitar,
A shearsman of sorts. The day was green.

They said, "You have a blue guitar,
You do not play things as they are."

The man replied, "Things as they are
Are changed upon the blue guitar."

And they said then, "But play you must,
A tune beyond us, yet ourselves,

A tune upon the blue guitar,
Of things exactly as they are."



-- Wallace Stevens (1936) --
First canto of 'The Man With The Blue Guitar'


-ol' 2long

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Hi!

Not much else to say. Life is in a weird zone. I'm very busy at work, HoFS' life is chaos, DD is very busy with school and things. The outside of my house has had major work done on it. Here's a day in 16 minutes that my brother did:

http://www.bare-family.com/BethesdaCam/BethesdaC_TL_03-01-07_0912.mp4

http://www.bare-family.com/BethesdaCam/BethesdaC_TL_03-01-07_1115.mp4

http://www.bare-family.com/BethesdaCam/BethesdaC_TL_03-01-07_1316.mp4

http://www.bare-family.com/BethesdaCam/BethesdaC_TL_03-01-07_1516.mp4

Inside, all is calm and well, except that I have to face my inner Emperor Palpatine. Forecast is for partly cloudy with a chance of grumpy and meatballs over the next few days.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />


Sunny Day, Sweeping The Clouds Away...

Just J --
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Subsiding = sinking.

The islands are volcanic, made of basalt, which has a density of something like 3.3.

Now, they're sitting on basalt (the ocean floor), but it's all cool basalt, so it even2ally sinks beneath the crust at subduction trenches. Hawaii is sitting over a hotspot convection plume in the mantle, and the Pacific plate is moving over it. So, the Big Island is the youngest of the chain, and they get progressively older (and sunk farther with more coral around them) as you go from SE 2 NW.

Need more? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

-ol' 2long

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Need more?


Weave: Nope, I think that'll do me. One question though...does Orchid know she's subsiding?

Never got to the Big Easy before the bad weather came...don't want to make the same mistake with Hawaii, no siree.

Oh no........ I'm sinking? Hm.... I thought I was shrinking. Whew!! LOL!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Maybe hitting 50 head on ain't gonna be so bad....If I want to feel taller, I just gotta move back to California. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

So 2L, you've been up Saddle Road? We are gonna have super ferries soon so maybe I'll finally get to take that trek (re: rental companies prohibit tourists from taking their cars up Saddle Road - <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> ).

So Hawaii is sinking....guess that's better than CA falling in the ocean from a massive earthquake. That's the prediction my grandmother was afraid of back in the 1960's. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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Yep, been up saddle road many times now. Every day for about a week and a half, including the road up 2 the weather station, crawling over the lava flows with thermal infrared instruments (2 calibrate some overflights with a C-130 that I didn't get 2 ride in, un42nately). Then again about 12 years ago as a night assistant up at the IRTF on Mauna Kea. Gadzooks, it was cold and windy up there! 70mph and about 10F. I tried 2 videotape the sunset, but even with gloves on, my fingers were totally numb after about 5 minutes outside!

At night, you could see the glow from the eruptions from Pu'u O'o all the way from up there.

Very purdy.

-ol' 2long

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Several months ago at a party I met this woman, a friend of a friend, and her husband. We spoke for a long time the three of us.

A while later sometime in summer 2006 my friend told me the woman was pregnant and suspected her husband was messing around.

The woman, the friend of a friend, recently had several monumental things happen in her life, all within a few weeks of each other.

She had her child, a baby girl.

She discovered she had a terrible illness.

She discovered her husband was having an affair as suspected.

All in the course of a few weeks.

Last night she died.

She was a sweet girl who never hurt a soul, GDit.

GC

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Several months ago at a party I met this woman, a friend of a friend, and her husband. We spoke for a long time the three of us.

A while later sometime in summer 2006 my friend told me the woman was pregnant and suspected her husband was messing around.

The woman, the friend of a friend, recently had several monumental things happen in her life, all within a few weeks of each other.

She had her child, a baby girl.

She discovered she had a terrible illness.

She discovered her husband was having an affair as suspected.

All in the course of a few weeks.

Last night she died.

She was a sweet girl who never hurt a soul, GDit.

GC

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Very sad indeed. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Hugz,
L.

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OMG, that is awful. I hope somebody remains who can find a way to keep her memory alive for that baby girl.

We had a manager here who was having an affair with a manager from another dept. Both married, and they both got fired from my company because of the negative impact their affair had on the staff.

His BW died of cancer during his affair.

The affair ended after they moved in together, destroying both their families.

To this day the thought of either one of them make most of us sick.

No chance for redemption once the BS has died, I suppose.

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For some reason, this reminds me yet again of the limitations in the EN theory of preventing adultery.

The BS of these adulterers were not doing anything wrong. They got sick. Or pregnant. EN meeting became difficult and less of a priority because life and death happens.

And the resulting changes in EN satisfaction set the stage for their WS choosing an affair?

NO! It's because these WS are totally selfish users in the first place.

If you are a subscriber to the concept that meeting ENs prevents future adultery of your spouse, it seems you cannot get sick, pregnant or slack off for any reason whatsoever. Not even for a moment.

What a way to live. One might as well be an EN slave and live in constant fear of missing even one LB deposit, or else!

Crap. Now I'm cranky. And the day has barely begun.


"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan

"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky

WS: They are who they are.

When an eel lunges out
And it bites off your snout
Thats a moray ~DS
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The WS have affairs because they don't love themselves, it has nothing whatsoever to do with the BS. People use affairs as a bandaid, or a mask to hide their self-loathing from themselves. It is an escape.

The E/N theory is valuable (in my opinion) because it helps to lure the WS back into the marriage. And it does help a person to become a better spouse by trying to put the needs of his spouse first. (I think)

If had I to worry that my spouse was going to cheat on me or fall out of love with me if I didn't go golfing or have SF with him as often as he would like...well I would be the one to fall out of love, because that would put too much stress on me to be able to sustain. Or maybe not, I haven't really tried it yet.

Man, am I wordy today.

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Now I'm cranky


I got one red and one green one of these for Antonio and Leo:

Dino

I JUST got these for my nephew

Safari

Meerkats and Warthog

Croc

Daddy...I mean...GORILLA

I'd bet, Appy, that playing with any of those would improve your mood....

Myself, I'm partial to the sinodaurs (my 17 year old used to call dinosaurs "sinodaurs"). I think we're gonna have to take them on our trip to G'ma's so I can have...um...I mean...THE KIDS can have something to play with.

- Kimmy


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.

My Story

Recovered!
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The EN theory only works to a degree, IMHO. For me at the time of my A ENs were a big part of it BUT it was selfish entitlement that allowed me to cross that line. Now 6 years of h*ll at the hand of my H and I have NEVER once considered cheating. I changed.


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You guys are right, or course. Both of your wordys are very smart.

I got cranky for a bit becasue GC is not meeting my EN for blissfulignorance.


Kimmy - I remeber these guys! DS had tones of them. He is a teen now, but he still keeps all these old toys in a big box under his bed.


"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan

"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky

WS: They are who they are.

When an eel lunges out
And it bites off your snout
Thats a moray ~DS
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>in a big box under his bed.


I'd be all in that box right now.


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.

My Story

Recovered!
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GC:

I'm so sad reading that.

I still get noises of utter despair from my W about RM, though she never says his name.

Kimmy:

I still try 2 talk that antique dealer guy out of that fiberglass velociraptor he has out front. It'd be so swell in our garden, half hidden from the street by the greenery (maybe just the eyes and jaws).

-ol' 2long

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Trying to stay dry today; how is everyone else?

Any big plans for this weekend? I'm daydreaming of hitting the Guadalupe River for some tubing, but with Spring Break still going on down here, I'm not thinking I want to take the chance, LOL.

Maybe I'll just curl up with a good book and a Sam Adams this evening. . .


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Clear and Sunny !

Good books are always in style....

SS


I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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