Ditto what Garmus just said. Good points, G.

M23B -- I'm very happy to hear you're in a good place. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> It's SO not about Ed anymore...your life is now about making a happy life for you and your boys. I'm proud of you.

Lori

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Garmus:
<strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by dirtdevil:
<strong> it's called collateral damage and it serves no usefull purpose. It is myopic to think it is ok. Who pays besides dt3? the kids. oh sure he did this and that and what right does he have, bla bla bla.... It will not help anything only make it worse. Want a D get it quietly, go on and get over yourselves. Circus time again. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Collateral damage occurs when someone sets off a bomb. If you choose to set off a relational bomb, you don't get the option of controlling the damage.

Choosing to have an affair sucks.

Choosing to continue the affair AND observing the devastation YOU are causing your family, while shedding crocodile tears over "collateral" damage when you are the one making the ongoing bomb blasts, reveals just how self-centered and deceived adulterers can get. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Garmus,

Excellent post!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

L.

I hope M23 stops reading this post now... nobody gets to do the tapdance around here anymore, it's no longer entertaining.

I am THRILLED to pieces for M23... she's the only adult in this whole situation with enough intelligence and SELF RESPECT to remove herself from the sideshow act.

It's really a shame that people really don't believe they are accountable for their actions.

You rock Mom.