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I love onions, ooh la la.
And it has layer after layer. In fact, moral inventory is all layer upon layer.
Peel
Examine (smell, cry, wipe your eyes, season with, taste)
Repeat
"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out
And it bites off your snout
Thats a moray ~DS
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Approach your inventory with love kindness, honesty and balance. YOUR inventory, so I hope it is love of self. On the 4th step inventory it is easy to beat yourself up.
Money can buy you a fine dog, but only love can make him wag his tail.
~ Kinky Friedman
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I love onions, ooh la la.
And it has layer after layer. In fact, moral inventory is all layer upon layer.
Peel
Examine (smell, cry, wipe your eyes, season with)
Repeat Aphelion, I LOVE the way you said that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Faith
me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
DS 15
OCDS 8
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Yes, love of self. I type too fast.
"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out
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Thats a moray ~DS
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I am not going to beat myself up ... but I am going to be fearless. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Useful reference, for me:
Paths To Recovery - Al-Anon's Steps, Traditions and Concepts.
An Al- Anon Family Groups Publication (B-24).
"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out
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Thats a moray ~DS
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Have you figured out why you feel the situation is urgent...i.e. what is the worst thing that can happen if you delay? Susan <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
Money can buy you a fine dog, but only love can make him wag his tail.
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moral lazyness is so unattractive, doncha think?
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Useful reference, for me: For me: Courage to Change, One Day at a Time and Hope for Today
Money can buy you a fine dog, but only love can make him wag his tail.
~ Kinky Friedman
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moral lazyness is so unattractive, doncha think? Moral lazyness? Define moral lazyness?
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Have you figured out why you feel the situation is urgent...i.e. what is the worst thing that can happen if you delay? Susan <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> Suz .... actually, the situation HAS been resolved to both of our satisfaction <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I went on a walk this AM (7 miles, thank you very much) ... and I listened to the Focus On Family program you emailed me about ... and it triggered my anxiety ... and triggered my guilt ... and I was obsessed with making something work ON MY TIMELINE ... and during the walk I began to see how desperate I was feeling .. and how UGLY my thoughts about Mr. Pep were becoming ... and I vowed that when I got home, I would open the AA 12-step book and WORK IT BABY... and I cried and I got it all out ... and the most gentle thing happened ... it all opened up WITHOUT MY FORCE <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> and I was stunned at how I nearly derailed the answer by my own anxious hands.... and I know there is a lesson here for me and I am determined to peel my onion to find the life lesson. The DEEPER life lesson. I am ready for the hard core tuff stuff.
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and I vowed that when I got home, I would open the AA 12-step book and WORK IT BABY... It's a good thing Bramblerose is not here. I just typed out what I thought her response would be to this, and then I erased it because I want to see her response.
Money can buy you a fine dog, but only love can make him wag his tail.
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Peel your onion and use it.
Takes lots of courageous work.
But burying it just makes it sprout and grow more onions.
"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out
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Thats a moray ~DS
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Moral lazyness? Define moral lazyness? Demanding/expecting instant results without required pain.
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... .. and how UGLY my thoughts about Mr. Pep were becoming ... THIS is what really killed me !!!! I could feel myself starting to make ugly excuses to justify doing something manipulative. Hideous!
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So instead you sat him down and said "you know, I've been in a struggle today. And this is what I have been feeling....... And this is what I really think should be done...and FAST too. Now help me. What do you think Mr. Pep?"
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... .. and how UGLY my thoughts about Mr. Pep were becoming ... THIS is what really killed me !!!! You revisited the past...put him back to who he WAS and not WHO he is today?
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You revisited the past...put him back to who he WAS and not WHO he is today? YES, I did.
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This broadcast...these people's parents were NEVER in recovery.
How did you justify throwing all of his recovery out the window?
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So instead you sat him down and said "you know, I've been in a struggle today. And this is what I have been feeling....... And this is what I really think should be done...and FAST too. Now help me. What do you think Mr. Pep?" Not exactly, kind of. I came in and said ... "May I borrow your 12 step book?" "May I read aloud from your book?" ... and of course the tears began while reading ... and I collapsed under the weight of my own grief ... and my husband was gracious ... and responded in a way he would never have responded to my plan of manipulation .... *sniff*
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