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awww thanks Lady ..... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Just woke up from a nap. I think I am getting sick feels like a bad cold... Anyhow I had a wonderful dream that H was home and everything was wonderful. Best dream I have had of him in months. Sad part is when I woke up I realized it was only a dream...... The dream was nice though while it lasted.... Thank goodness I am off tonight so I can load up on cold meds. and hopefully feel better tomorrow.... H used to take care of me when I was sick made sure I took meds and made me hot toddy's before bed.... Now he is not here to do it ..... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" />
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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I hope your feeling better. It's probably all the stress you have been going through.
Take Care
BS 48 me
WH 45
married 23 years
DDay JULY 2005
WH moved out Sept 2005 and moved in w/ow a month later
DD 28
DS 21
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Thanks World ... I hope i feel better tomorrow since i have to work ...
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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You know I have been reading a lot of these post today, and I see a common ground here in so many of them....
There are a lot of long term amrriages of 20 yrs + suffuring this nightmare.
And a couple of them are almost mirror images of mine.... So what does this say?
Does this say that we as spouses WS'S included got lazy in our marriages and took each other for granted ? Never met any EN's because we just expected them to always be there like they had been for years.
Maybe I am looking at this all wrong but it strikes me funny how many of these stories deal with long term marriages.....
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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My C said alot of long term marriages tend to get boring and yes alot are taken for granted but it is up to both spouses to put the spark back into the marriage. We are not mind readers if something was wrong they needed to communicate it to us.
BS 48 me
WH 45
married 23 years
DDay JULY 2005
WH moved out Sept 2005 and moved in w/ow a month later
DD 28
DS 21
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Amen to that World ...... thats is what happen to us .. WH never said anything about how he was feeling ..... Now he admits he was wrong but he i about a day late and a dollar short on that one .....
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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yOU ROCK! You turned the affiarmongers in! Good for you! And I hope they kick her 2 the curb! If no immediate response, then tell us the addy of your local congressman and we shall expose them for misuse of taxpayer monies!
And yes, go dark...and with regards to the divorce, yes contest it!
But make sure if you are legally having 2 go thru with it, that your attny goes for what is rightfully yours! Your WH thinks you're gonna ride off into the sunset with a handfull of memories and a smile...but in that pocket of your jeans along with that handfull of memories will go the MAN'S 401K AND ASSETS! He is not thinking with the correct head my dear...sorry margaritas were sooooo darn good tonight!
Nope...brain of the WS is disengaged in the fog! I think if you stick to the course, do not back down, go dark, and let them love bust all over the place RIGHT NOW...you wil make them break up faster! I promise...read my lovely post 2night! It shall happen....hopefully faster since my xh is the ever bouncing WS!
Never known a wayward to bounce so darn much! But his bounce has lost it's boing!
Anyway, you will be in prayers tonight. I know you've had a hard week. And God gives rest to the weary. And He loves you and so do we!
You will make it thru this! And I believe WS will become broken soon...
me:37 BS; s:7;
xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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You got it...I wonder if it is them trying to justify their affairs. We never had any problems in our marriage until his mom passed away and then he went off the deep end and this A started a month later.
I hope the C he goes to next week can get into his head, that is if it hasn't turned to stone yet.
BS 48 me
WH 45
married 23 years
DDay JULY 2005
WH moved out Sept 2005 and moved in w/ow a month later
DD 28
DS 21
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Peach,
I read your post. it is truly amazing to me that the WH'S are so stupid.
Darth now see's what he has done and is now reaping what he sowed. Way to late for him and in a way its very sad.
But you my dear on the other hand are doing so wonderfully. You should be so porud of yourself for coming so far.
Now as far as my sitch I am going to contest and stay dark. I will go to mediation but not accept anything offered. I want this in front of a judge. I want the judge to see what he has done to his family.
I am pretty sure I contest he is gonna get pissed at me but that makes it easier for him to go home mad and then she gonna get mad. I am sure at first I will be their target but as this continues but it will have to cause some problems for them I would think .....
Especially if they have to move lol
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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truth will set you free...and hopefully WH if he allows it to!
me:37 BS; s:7;
xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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We can only pray so ......
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Seems to me our marriages are on the same track. I have a meeting with my attorney on the 4th and a court date on the 11th. What are the odds. I am praying that you get the solution you want and soon everything will make a turn for the better.
Me: BS 43
WH: 42 major mid-life crisis
OW: 22
M 25 yrs
DD 24
DS 19
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Newly,
I pray the same for you and all of the hurt BS'S who are trying so hard to hang on and save their marriages.....
Its pretty strange to have the same dates here.... My court is at 2:15 in the afternoon, now if you tell me yours is that time it would be very eerrie....
Good luck to you Newly... God will help us through this ....
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Actually it is 2:00. How about that?
Me: BS 43
WH: 42 major mid-life crisis
OW: 22
M 25 yrs
DD 24
DS 19
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Oh my now that is weird .... I don't know about you but my nerves are on edge with this ....
Guess we will both have updates that night .....
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Wow.....you two. Same court dates same time...well 15 min diff. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> Well that means good things are gonna happen at court for you both. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Lady,
Sounds good to me .... I need all the good I can get....
Sure wish it would be waking his butt up that will happen but I ain't counting on it ......
It is weird though our sitchs are so much alike and long term marriages..... whoda thunk it lol
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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I hope you are right we both need good things to happen for a change.
Our marriages were almost as long and are kids are about the same age. My DD got married in June. No grandkids yet. I am always interested in what you have to say. Keep up the good work you are an inspiration.
Me: BS 43
WH: 42 major mid-life crisis
OW: 22
M 25 yrs
DD 24
DS 19
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Newly,
Thanks so much ..... This has been a long hard road and it still isn't over .. Many bumps and curves left to go... I am getting tired and just not sure how much longer I can stay on this road....
I feel I have given it my all, this court thing and contesting the divorce is my last course of action... If that fails then the time has come for me to just let go....
I will keep the door open for him for awhile but I will not actively try anymore... I will just move on in my life... I will not plana or planb , I will just be me...
Maybe it sounds like quiting but its actually not, its just letting him stew in his own mess with no help from me.....
I will always love him this I am sure of, but I can be happy without him if it comes to that.....
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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