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I wish you strength, dignity and grace...these are things you carry everyday don't forget you have them with you always.
I'm sure there are lots of extra MB prayers for you tonight.
aka-confused42 BS-45 me WH-42 DS-14 & DD-12 together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs "I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04 D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06 5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06 Recovery finally began Jan 2007 We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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Thanks Confused.....
Tomorrow will be a difficult day for sure.....
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46 Married- 24 yrs 3 children 15,19,22 2 grandsons D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away WH living with OW since July 05 WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05 Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Hurting, My WH filed in June. I just found out the divorce was final in December. Today WH told me I was right all along and he wants to move back home. We are going to have a talk Sat. to discuss the particulars. There's always hope. S.
Me/BS 48 Married 16 yrs/together 23; 1 child Dday 4/05; WH "needed space" and left 5/05 WH Filed D papers 6/05 - Divorce final 12/05 WH moved in with OW 11/05; moved out OW 1/06 12/06 His 3rd and strongest attempt at reconcilliation (I believe OW still in picture) 2/07 Affair over, begging me to take him back - it's too late. WH has tried numerous times to reconcile.
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Your situation has given me lots of hope ..... I am so happy to see it can happen.....
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46 Married- 24 yrs 3 children 15,19,22 2 grandsons D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away WH living with OW since July 05 WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05 Divorced granted June 28, 06
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((( Hurting ))) Sorry so late in reading this. Been busy in RL lately.
You must feel alot better and more hope after talking with SH. So glad you were able to do that for yourself.
Dear God, we all continue to pray to you for our dear friend in need, Hurting. Please really look down on her tomorrow and bring her extra strength for her day at court. What we really need tomorrow is an extension or continuation, not sure of the legal terms. Please continue to shed light onto her WH about this huge mistake he is making right now.
And, Dear God - Please send us some rain. It's me little carnation in Texas.
Doing ALL I can for you here Hurting !!
Best regards - car
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i'm so glad to hear that your talk with steve went so well. Hemust be as wonderful as Jennifer as i always come away from my sessions with her having renewed hope.
what time do you have to be in court tomorrow? I guess that you've got your "i'm the person you are thinking about leaving behind you fool....." outfit all picked out right?
i wish you so much luck tomorrow, that things may go as we all want for you
you will be in my prayers tonight
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Good luck, hurting. I think you'll be able to stall.
"Virtue -- even attempted virtue -- brings light; indulgence brings fog." -- C.S. Lewis
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Can you think of a reason why he would want to rush through a divorce so quickly? It just seems so odd, like there is something going on to create an urgency -- his getting an inheritance soon? the OW pregnant? hidden assets that he doesn't want you to have time to find? It just seems like something doesn't quite add up. Stalling may give time for whatever is hidden to rise to the surface or for the stench of it to reveal itself. Cherished
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Cherished,
Nope there is nothing I can think of along those lines...
If OW is preggo it would be a miracle seeing how she supposedly can't have more children. Dang she is 41 yrs old and had 13 yr old DD.
I will not say its so much him pushing it as it is OW, she wants it done because she honestly thinks once its done he will never see me again. I also believe (have no proof) that she pretty much has told him do it or get out. She told him that back in Aug. as well.... Plus the state of Okla. has no waiting periods for anything except for after the divorce, six months before you can marry again.
I think as his mom thinks that he is going so fast before he changes his mind... Of course this is all speculation on our parts but some of it feels right....
As far as hidden money or assets believe me I know for a fact there is none of that. He can't afford anything right now because of his CS and SS. heck OW wants her money back she spend on christmas gifts she got for our kids while he was working and he does not have that either.
So if something is hidden it will come out in time, but I truly believe its more of a if I don't do this now I may change my mind thing...
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Hurting -
Will be thinking about you! Prayers are headed your way. I am trying to gather some strength for me from your conversation w/ SH. There is hope, there is hope.
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005 Married 16 Years DS age 8 6 months Plan A Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery. 2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out. Plan B for my sanity "Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Kim, I can't believe you are up at thois time in the morning. I just got home from work. As always I come read a little and have a cup of coffee then off to bed.
I believe there is always hope as long as we want it. I won't run out of hope until the day I no longer love him or god forbid he marry that woman...
Who knows which will come first. Its funny my family thinks because i have hope I do not live my life. I still do things and go places so its not like I sit around anymore and cry all day. Yes lots of times I think about more than I should but it happens.
Not sure how much sleep will happen though. My mind won't shut down. I am scared about what will happen later today.
I have so many different emotions right now, I can't even list them all. My stomache is in knots, my eyes keep leaking tears , I am afraid, I am frustrated the list just keeps going on and on......
I have no one to go with me tomorrow, I have to face this alone. Everyone has to work and I don't want to put anyone in a bad position. I don't want to be by myself but I have no choices right now. I fear falling apart and not being able to get it together. I fear seeing WH and not knowing how i will react or he will react.
I fear him becoming angry because I won't make any deals tomorrow. I fear it pushing him further away....
This whole thing should have never happened. If only he had talked to me, if only I had seen what was happening while I was having my own problems and talked to him and not pushed him away no matter how unintentional it was.....
So many if only's in this story.... As they say hindsight is 20/20......
Please God help me through this...... I can't do it alone.... Amen
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46 Married- 24 yrs 3 children 15,19,22 2 grandsons D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away WH living with OW since July 05 WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05 Divorced granted June 28, 06
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{{{Hurting}}}
Don't feel alone today. God and all your friends here on MB will be with you.
You are such a brave lady.
Alph.
Me, BS 37
Him, WXH (Noddy) 40
DD13, DD6
Married 14th August 1993
D/Day 2nd April 05
Noddy left us 3rd April 05, lives with OW (Omelette) 28
Divorce final 6th July '06.
Time wounds all heels... - Groucho Marx
...except when it doesn't. - Graycloud
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Find a few things to keep in your mind.....
1. U r fighting for what rightfully belongs to your family.
2. U r fighting, not your H but a WS/OP tag team of a vile and hateful nature.
3. God does not delight in seeing his children hurt.
4. God hates a divorcing and those who cause it (WS/OP).
5. God does not bless the WS and OP's of this world.
6. Remember your boundaries.
7. Respect yourself.
Hugz, L.
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(((Hurting))) I'll be thinking of you today and praying for you.
Me-41 BS (FWS) DH-41 WS (FBS) 2DD's- 10 and 12 Married 15 years Separated for 2 years after my A Reconciled for 1 year before his A D-day for his A 8/23/05 WH moved out 9/16/05 Divorce final 1/23/07 Affair ended or month or so later My Story
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Hi Hurting,
I hope everything goes good for you today. May God bless you abundantly in court. It's gonna be alright, I know you're nervous (who wouldn't be). Don't worry... you won't be there alone "God is with you." <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Pray for guidance, strength, and courage before walking into the courthouse.
Blessings and Huggs, Lady
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Good Morning Hurting,
Thinking of you today. I am praying for you. Stay strong. I know you are scared and that is normal. May God guide you and bless you today.
WOL
BS (Me) 43
WW or FWW 40
2 DS's 16 and 13
Married 21 Years
D-day 9/10/2005
Exposure 9/11/2005
False NC 9/11/2005
Discovery of Contact 12/23/2005
NC (Letter written Jan 2006)
Divorce Petition Filed Jan 2006
In a holding pattern.
Me Still Handing in there
Phil 4:13
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As everyone else has said but I will say it again...
YOU WILL NOT BE ALONE...GOD WILL BE WITH YOU....
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I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Praying for you today, Hurting...I hope everything goes well for you. Remember, look amazing, do what Steve suggested, and try to breathe!
(Formerly SadMommy05)
BS, 29 (me)
XH, 27
DD, 1
M, 2001 high school sweethearts
OW, 36, divorcee, "we have a friendship people can't understand"
WH left out of the blue 9/5/2005
I filed 11/1/2005 D finalized 6/20/06
XH and OW married 1/6/07. Ugh!
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The urgency could reflect OW's concern that it's now or never, so your taking time to review stuff could lead to her getting angry at WH and wanting him to push you along. This is very speculative, of course, but something just doesn't add up. My prayers are with you. Cherished
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prayers and love to you...and good karma...we're praying for you.
again, asking for time to review could make ow lb big time.
btw...i went all by myself to court all times...and to mediations also alone. but know that you're not along b/c God is w/you...and people are praying.
you will do this...you will make it thru.
hopefully your wh saw you looking incredibly lovely and calm and poised.
whatever you do today...try to appear calm...we're trying to do a 180 with the plan b...distance 180.
and i agree...ow is up to something.
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xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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