This is for that spineless OW who can only drop her pants but can't use her brains to save a life.

Hey OW,

U stink! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Think I'm just making that up? Take a whiff......what r u doing now that you w/b proud of? Go ahead.....tell the truth about your actions and life choices, then see if you don't see people wrinkle up their noses and try to get away from you ASAP!!!!

See them running away??? U do stink!

Btw, stop walking like u got a stick up your buttocks.....it isn't even sexy, it makes u look dorky. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
Ha!

orchid,


Very nice post my friend...... Always nice to see the truth in print......

LOL

I wrote it to help you relieve some stress. It sure helped me. LOL!!! Let me know if it's too strong in print. I got no problems saying it in person. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

L.

LOL In person would be wonderful ..... To bad you to far away .....

A stress reliver I need .... And you gave me a good laugh that I needed ...... Thanks ....

Well, I'll let you in on a secret. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> This isn't just a stress reliever....if the OW is reading, she won't be able to keep her trap shut. She will try but the A virus just won't let her and while that could bring some heavy LBs from the WS out your way.....expect it. You've lived through worse.....but this time, you'll be the one laughing as their faces get all distorted..... u c, the WS and OP just can't help but be selfish even if it is to their own detriment. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

L.

You know orchid i have to admit when I first found out it was possible she was reading this it freaked me out.

All I could think about was she knew what I thought and felt and especially knew about plana and planb... But you know what who cares.....

Its about time she knew the truth on how I feel and that I still love my H and nothing she can do to stop it. Also it shows her that I am more woman than she can ever be....

I have morals and dignaty what does she have? Lies and deciet thats it...... All the lies he has told her and she believes all the lies she has told him and he belives.... What a sad way to live....

One day OW this will all come back to bite you in the butt, just you wait and see. What goes around comes around, and i truly believe that I have seen it happen many times....

Things are becoming so much clearer to me and life is getting better everyday.... I don't dread waking up anymore and thats progress ..... Oh let em get mad , I guess as long as they are mad at me then they are leaving some other poor soul alone... I am getting used to it at least I know and live the truth .....

atta girl, Okla. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Keep up the good vibes. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

L.

I'm trying Orchid and I have to say since sunday and seeng WH has made so much difference to me....

I finally saw him at his WH worst.... and thats when it all really sunk in that he is lost and not the man I once knew...

Most of the other times a little bit of the H always showed through but not this time.... He was WH all the way .... Not sure if thats a good thing or a bad thing... Kinda makes me wonder if he will WH forever but I can't worry about that....

I believe I am starting to accept what has happened and am moving on away from it all.... I still love him but I can and will live without him if I have to .... I will not ever except the man I saw sunday in my life he was not anyone I know.... So very sad to see a dead man walking and talking ....

Well I just found out that the judge gave DD a week in the jail... Unless I can pay the fine of 425.00....

Well I don't have it thats for sure. And her father says he doesn't either. So I guess she will have to be there for the week.

I hate the thought of her being in there but not much I can do about it... I sure hope this teaches her something about resposibility....

What a mess....

I'm not caught up on what happened with your daughter...

Mimi,

The police came to the house last night and arrested her for an unpaid traffic ticket. Driving without a liscense. She still owed 62.00 and she never paid it. She told me she did but didn't. Anyhow they impossed more fines and now she has to basically stay there for a week to pay it off.

I don't have 500.00 to get her out. And my WH won't help either. He says she got what she deserved. I didn't talk to him DS did.... Now here is the man who calls her everyday and wanted to borrow money from her when she got her money and this is what he does....

Anyhow i have to go to the jial here soon and take her some things.... I wish I could help her out but I can't...

Hurting, I'm sorry to hear about DD. I wish she would have paid the fine. She shouldn't have ignored it the way she did. IT WAS ONLY $62.00!!! She got her settlement money in Dec. didn't she? Oh boy....

Wow...he has no right to say something like that. What does he think he deserves... a slap on the wrist?


Lady

Hugs to you, Hurting..

BEEN THERE DONE THAT..

I've struggled off and on with my sons' bouts with irresponsibility as well..

I think they have screws loose in their brains...

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Thanks Lady and Mimi.....

It jut seems to be one thing after the other here....

Every since June my life has been a total wreck....

But believe it or not I just keep getting stronger and dealing with all of this.

I am off to the jail now to bring her some stuff... I will let you know what I find out when I return ....

Thanks for the hugs....


Hurting

P.S. Lady I am not worried about what WH thinks right now, its still all about him.... One day though just you wait it won't be anymore and he will have to face all this .... What a day that will be , glad i am away from his chaos ....

I agree Hurting.

Ok just got back from the jail. They would not let me see her. Visiting is only on Sat. and Sun.

Her fine is 490.00 and if I can't pay it she will have to stay 6 days to work it off. Looks like 6 days are happening because I don't have it...

One thing for sure I hope this is a lesson learned for her not to shirk her responsibilities.

I know things have got to get better around here soon.... It just has to ....


Hurting

(((hurting))))

How is DD feeling? I haven't kept up with the pregnancy news.

Confused,

Good news is she is not pregnant. Or at least that what the tests say.

She went to the dr last week to have an STD check and all. So far so good ....

So a few good things have come about. She sure does not need a baby.

Other than this jail thing everythig around here is pretty quite. No WH news, thank goodness.

He leaves me alone and I definatley leave him alone after last weekend. I still don't believe him and OW broke up, I think its a ruse for some reason... Something tells me they have something up their sleeves. But I am staying far away from it and out of it....

Life is starting to get on more of a normal routine and i want it to stay that way. I can't take anymore of their drama and antics. They can self destruct all by themselves or either spend the rest of their lives making each other unhappy. Until the day I see or hear from my real H I am outta this.....

God knows I love him but I can't be a part of this anymore.... I still stand for my marriage and I will tell anyone who asks , but now the ball is in his court.

Hurting

Hi Hurting,

Just sending you my positive thoughts and support. In hindsight, life seemed so easy before all this, didn't it? You sound good. As much as I wish you could bail your DD out, I bet this must be a life experience she needed. I can only assume she will never take any risks again that might land her where she is now.

Is she OK? Is she scared?
Take care Hurting.
S.

Shattered,

Thanks for the positive thoughts. Your right life was easier before all of this but I suppose its something we must go through to learn.

She seems to be ok and not as scared as I know I would be. I have not had the chance to talk to her and she has to call collect and my cell phone does not accept collect calls. But she has called my MIL and her B/F and she had both of them tell me she loves me and misses me. She told my MIL that when she gets out of there she is going to look for a job and get her life straight.

I think one thing has happened for the good is that she now see's who is there for her and who's not. Because when DS called WH last night DD was still standing there when WH said oh well she got what she deserved.... So maybe she will see now how he is playing her to.... Not that I want her not have anything to do with him I just want her to see the truth and be aware.

Looks like she will be out next Wed. or Thurs. morning. I will see her on Sat. morning. Not sure how I will handle seeing my child in jail but I have to go and support her.

I also read your wonderful post. I am so happy for you that your WH finally got it.... All of those prayers and hard work you did paid off. I wish you the best..... Your one of the lucky ones who will recieve a second chance.... I won't lie I am a little jealous but oh so happy for you... Take Care..


Hurting