Hurting -

You have been through so much, yet you continue to love your H. You are an inspiration to those of us who might be struggling with that....

Thank you.

Kim

New,

Lem has always said to me mine is the type to come back. He has said this for months. I have to tell you I'm not real sure why myself. I like have no idea what he said to the poster who asked but something tells me Lem has pretty good intuition. I see yours has been a long road and you have done well to hang in there, I hope I have the strength like you have to keep it up.


Kim,

Thank you for saying that. I sometimes wonder why I still feel the way I do. I don't know if its because we have been together so long and he is all I know and just can't let go. But when I married this man I took my vows very serious and I had been in a few serious relationships before him and thought I was in love, but found out after I met him they were not really love. The difference was amazing to me. I know the soulmate thing is something affair partners say to each other but with him thats how I truly felt. I just knew we were meant to be together, God had planned it that way. So until the day God tells me its no more my love will be there for him. I feel I will know when and if God tells me its over. Call me crazy but thats how I feel....

Somedays I just want to give up, because the pain is just to much but yet I keep trudging on. Somedays the anger is so bad I say to myself I hate him.Then comes something that stirs in me and I realize I don't hate him at all, its just the anger talking. If you could read some of the hateful letters I have written him you would cringe in horror. But they have helped me to release a lot of it in a healthy way. I tear them up afterwords I would never want anyone to see them especially the kids....

I know its hard Kim but keep the faith its not over until you say its over...... I keep getting reminded of this and now I finally believe it......


Hurting

Well I knew I didn't have to do anything to bust WH on living with the OW.

My DS did it for him. I was taking DS to the bowling alley and he said to me, oh mom dad said he is going to be here today. Hmmm Ithought he said the other day he would not be coming into town he would be in San Antonio..... Glad my son said something though so I didn't go walking up in there. Then my oldest son called me and was asking about the package he sent me. I told him I got it and liked the shirt he sent. He then said yeah Dad liked the picture of the boys I sent him. I said thats good, he said yeah dad said if we need to send him anything continue to send it to OW'S because he will stop by there and get it on his way through town.

Ok now I don't know about the rest of you but I don't believe he moved out. I still can't for the life of me figure out why he decided to tell everyone this after all these months of living with her. Did he really think no one would figure it out? I darn sure don't have stupid tattoo'ed on my forehead. You know its one thing to lie to me but the kids thats just crazy.... Of course I am sure he will deny it but hey none of us were born yesterday....

So Orchid you were definatley right they arn't done. I wanted to believe it but I knew deep down inside you were right....

If you are right that OW is reading this forum, he may have told you that to prevent you from reporting her for having an illegal tenant in her subsidized housing. If he is trying to convince you that he is no longer living there, that also means they are really scared of being reported. I know that's a lot of ifs, but I do think you should go ahead and turn them in.

I am thinking the same thing Hurting, but not sure.
You will know for sure soon.

Lady

so she's reading and found out she might get busted for her living arrangements.

Yup I am beginning to believe that may be the case....

I guess we shall see in time ..... I had a few things in mind that could be happening and thats one of them for sure..... Oh what a tangled web we weave when we live to decieve......

You know I just don't know what I want to do right now... Partof me says let it go and not worry about how they live or where they live. Because I know in time things will happen without my help. But part of me says its wrong and they are taking advantage of the tax payers. I gotta think on this one ......

Those taxpayers are subsidising his affair. If he had to play house in an apartment they could afford after paying you CS and alimony, I suspect he'd feel the financial pinch even more than he does now. Not that you want him to come home for financial reasons, but you want him to face all the consequences of his decisions. That's the point of exposure; that's the point of Plan B.

The point is if his mail is t/b delivered there, that's his place of residence. So that is what the agency needs to know. These stupid WS' thinking they can fool all of the people all of the time? That OW is dummber than she looks. LOL!! That's bad.

You both make very good points.....

orchid if you read this could you please email me at the email on the bottom of my sign. line

I had your email from the last time but I somehow forgot to put it in my address's....


Thanks Hurting

I got some good news today.

WH will be getting my CS to me tomorrow. He told his sister to tell me he would pay me everyweek as its hard to pay a lump sum twice a month. So he is going to split it up over the month with some everyweek. I told her that is fine I don't have a problem with it at all.

See I am not that hard to get along with as some people seem to think. And neither am I the worlds biggest Bi*ch as some are lead to believe.

Had a nice time this evening at my MIL'S. All the family was there with some good friends. We sat around and talked and ate good food. It's time like this when I really miss WH, he was always the life of the party..... Maybe someday he will be again.....

Hurting

U've got mail. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

L.

Thanks Orchid

You got mail to ....

Hurting:

I hope you have not decided to limit your posting here because of the OW.

That would bother me because that would give her POWER over you and indirectly us here who could benefit from learning from your situation.

IMO, the communications between you and Orchid would be helpful if not TOO CONFIDENTIAL.

To be honest, this would limit my posting to you because I would feel controlled by her.

That's just me.

Do you understand what I mean?

Remind me again why you think that she is reading here?

Mimi,

Nope I am in no way going to limit my posting....

I still need your input, please don't leave me....

The reason I feel she is reading here is because some things she told WH I said or did was only spoken about on here. He told my MIL he knows I talk on the computer. So this is were I got my suspision from....

I just wanted to ask Orchid a question ..... Nothing to be worried about. every itention of still posting what happens... I know it helps to post because others learn from it. I learned many things just from other people myself...

Things are cool here nothing going on..... Thank goodness

Yes I understand what you mean Mimi.....

Well, that explains the dead look, doesn't it?

It sure does A.M.

It really makes me sad but nothing I can do about it....

I just have to stay away and out of it..... Time and God will deal with them, I don't have to.....

How r u doing this morning? Waiting for your next reply. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

BTW, we have done this before to help others. So keep posting to the board as you planned.

Keeping the WS and OW t/b 'w/in the letter of the law' is not a bad move. It is a good move. S/b done more often. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

take care,
L.

I agree Orchid ......

I am doing good today things are quiet here.....

Don't know anything and don't wanna know anything.....

Makes life much easier......

Did u read my e-mail? I gotta go out to Costco soon.

Family is all out of the house this morning, just me, my ton of housework and my cell.... LOL!!! Let me know.

L.