you got mail

Ok guys I got a funny one for ya.... Well at least I thinks its funny.

WH decided to pay me weekly instead f every two weeks whcih is fine. So he drops it off at my SIL'S today.

Anyhow when I get the envelope he has written on the front of it.... I'm going to pay you $XXX.XX everyweek. Because the way my checks come to me its easier.
Thank you for your patience.

Now it was nice he explained why but of course we all know its easier for him this way he won't be broke the 1st and 15 th ... God forbid he has no money for OW ....

But the thank you for your patience is really what made me laugh..... After all these months of misery he has put me through and now he is thanking me for being patient.... There ought to be other things he is saying besides that.... How about I am sorry I hurt you, would be nice to hear but I sure ain't holding my breath for that one...

Anyhow I just wanted to share. At least it wasn't a nasty note......

Do you think there is an underlying message in "THANK YOU FOR YOUR PATIENCE"?

Or am I reading too much into this...

At least it seems that he is somehow saying that he is sorry about that scene at your house.

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Well Mimi I was wondering the same thing. if there was a message in this, but I didn't want to read anything into it. You know me I try to always read something thats not there....

That the first kind words to me in a long time.... First time he has said thanks for anything in all of this.....

Who knows what it means if it means anything....

Hi Hurting -

Will you please send me some of your strength???? I am so proud of you. I feel like I am a mess today, so it is nice to read up on you and see that you are handling things very well.

Take care and God Bless -

Kim

Kim,

Thanks for saying that. I am doing good still have my down times but they come less and less.....

I am doing my best not to let the evil twin rattle me with all his lies and manipulation.... The main thing is I keep tellig myself its not really my H its a alien..... lol

Take Care,

Hurting

Ok I called the mediation place but no answer. Now my question is if anyone knows how long do I have to call them? I don't want any trouble. The letter says nothing about a time limit and it just says we have been referred to mediation by Judge so and so .... Anyone have any ideas?

ok...when we're all done with listening to records backwards looking for hidden messages...

lemme tell ya girls what I heard "embedded" in his mere sentence.

"thanks. I am glad you didn't call an emergency hearing on my sorry [censored] b/c I have been behind in paying my family the money I should since I am a spineless lilly livered man who takes orders from his mistress"

that's what I read.

he's not sorry.

he's probably glad he didn't get busted for non payment that's all.

Hurting-
I'm catching up again- and am really sorry to hear about
your DS being arrested. Once again, I am SO impressed with
the way you just keep handling everything you are "handed"
with continued grace, patience, and strength. So many of
your posts are really a "boost" to me when I'm down-

Does sound like your WH still has something going on with
the OW- but perhaps there is indication that the A is really
starting to crack and may soon be dying...

Hard to know if your WH had any "ulterior" motive to his
note, but at least you did get your check, and he was being
courteous- that's a good thing.

Your weekend sounded nice- you are doing so well at doing
things and enjoying life, regardless of WH.

Spent some time with my WH on the weekend- a mix of some
good moments and some not so great. He seems to be emerging
from the "fog" slowly, but not all out yet. Although he
insists it's "over" with OW and he has not been seeing her,
they do still talk on the phone, so I believe the addiction
still has a hold on him. We have discussed, and he has even
agree that we can't get anywhere or work on our M, until
it's TOTALLY over with OW !
I try not to get my hopes up, because I've been "burned" on
getting encouraged then come crashing down (haven't we all)
but I do think he wants to end it with her and is having
difficulty. I think part of it is him feeling somewhat
guilty and resonsible since she moved here from out of state
and doesn't know anyone. She also comes across to me as
being a very "needy" and "clingy" type who is very good at
manipulating, controlling, and using guilt in her favor !
I realize though, that it's up to him to break out of her
grip and END it, so he's going to have to find the courage
and means to do so, on his own.

Have his counseling appointment tonight, and another appt.
with his new Dr (psychiatrist) on Wed. to see how he's doing
with his new meds. I noticed a huge change (for the better)
after the first week of meds, but not as much change last
week, so may need a dosage adjustment-

Will keep you posted. I hope that you continue to stay in
a calm, peaceful state too- you are doing GREAT !
Slammed

Peach,


Your probably rght about that. He was lucky because I was suppose to call my attorney today if he had not paid. That was already planned.

Oh I am sure he is with the OW. He was out there all weekend. Again he blew off DS, no calls to him or no seeing him. It will be one month tomorrow since he has spent any time with DS. After all that moaning and bit*ching about not seeing him. Oh well in the end it will be him that pays the most.

I think there are a few cracks in the A but not big enough to make a difference right now. Nothing I can do about it. Time will take care of this.

As far as I go , I am doing real well. I am taking care of things and the kids. In fact DS and I were sitting here the other night talking about how peaceful it was here at home. In fact sometimes to peaceful, no one screaming or yelling. There are times when the quiet drives me nuts. I miss hearing H playing with the dogs and getting them going. Heck I even miss his snoring at night sometimes. Sometimes around 5:30 I expect to hear him come in and say " Lucy, I'm home." in his best Ricky Ricarrdo accent...lol Little things like that I miss.....

I have not cried in days, I think about him often and the funny things he used to do but its good memories and they make me smile. I don't think much of him being with HER anymore because she isn't worth my brain power. I know I am better than her and always will be. Plus I know she can never give him the memories we have and the things we have shared over so many years.

Life is good right now and i only see it getting better. I would love for him to share it with us but its his choice. We will go on ...........


Hurting

Well off to w ork now .... I forgot to tell my good news, I may be going to day shift soon.... I sure hope so these nights are killing me..... Wish me luck I should know in a few days....

Everyone have a good evening....

Hurting

Hi hurting...have a good night at work. As always you remain in my prayers.

Thank you confused.... I believe the prayers are helping. I am feeling so much better and at peace. I know I have done everything possible to save this marriage and i feel good about that.

its up to God now what happens. He will lead me the right way.... And when he s ready and the time is right he will speak to my WH in his own way.....


Hurting

Good afternoon all.....

Just thought I'd check in and say hello....

Hope everyone is doing good..... Things here are good...

Quiet and peaceful, can't ask for much more.....

Hurting

Ok I am just about fed up with all this ranting nd raving WH is doing.

MIL just came down to have DS call his dad. Seems something happened at the bowling alley with DS not sure what it is but people are talking badly about WH and he is mad. DS will not call him which is fine by me. I don't need him spilling his venom on DS.

Anyhow WH starts in to my MIL again about me and how I want more alimony that he is willing to pay and how I can work and now he has to pay attorneys... blah bah ... same old crap..... She told him well has what you done worth all of this crap.... She said he was screaming at her again.... And to think this is a happy man according to him.... Anyhow I told her please don't listen to his crap anymore. Just hang up on him or something don't allow him to do this to you no more.... She says she will hang up she can't take any more crap from him....

Its like everytime someone talks to him about anything even something simple he manages to turn the comversation to me and what I am doing to him .... No one wants to talk to him anymore because of this.... I sure wish he could see he has done this to himself.... He is out of control screaming at everyone about what I am doing.... MIL didn't even bring me up and he starts ranting..... Sounds to me like someone is starty to feel guilty or has just plain lost his frigging mind....

Anyhow after a lot of good days , the ugly head of evil rises again .... *sigh* I so very close to letting him know I am done with his disrespect of my and the family.... I have had no angry outbursts during all of this and the anger just keeps building in me.... I am tired of being dumped on and blamed and its coming very close to me telling him how it really is..... Damn the consquenses anymore this is getting ridculous with him ...... He needs to feel my anger I'm done hiding it.....

Awe.....Poor WH!!! (pity party, pity party). No ones listening to his pouting anymore. He can have his pity parties all by himself.

Hurting, your doing well.

Blessings,
Lady

aw...the poor wittle wayward one.

sniff sniff.

he doesn't get this...HE HAS DISPLACED ANGER. he's REALLY ANGRY AT HIMSELF OK?

and he's SO HAPPY *YEA RIGHT* THAT HE'S YELLING AT EVERYBODY...isn't camelot all he dreamt it would be? isn't his new castle and queen all he wanted? he## no!

he walked into a pit of vipers.

he got bit.

it's not paradise.

he walked out of a predictable comfy marriage and into an affair which at first, for FEW MONTHS...MERE DAYS...was passion and something new...now the woman wants more...committment. he had to make a decision. she forced him to leave his w and family...and now the courts want the poor wittle man to pay money to them.
he's having a
MAN-STRUAL CYCLE...lmao.

MAN-STRUAL CRAMPS.

and OW (as in other woman)...owwww it hurts! these man cramps hurt.

and he's angry. dad gum angry.

he did not get the fantasy. he didn't get it.

nbody welcomed them with open arms. his kids didn't like it. and his wife? lost weight..looks good...and will be single soon.

NOTHING TO GIVE A WH THE MAN-STRUAL CRAMPS like seeing their STBXW OR XW SPENDING THEIR ALIMONY TO LOOK HOT AND BE SINGLE...they hate that.

so he's pouting.

and mad.

and will either get smart...or get used to it.

Peachy,

Excellant and right on the money .......

Seems to me he has some choices to make and fast.....

I am so close to giving him the blast of my anger and not worry about the consequenses of it.....

Either WH gets used to this and deals or makes the right descions for his life....

Hmmm wonder what that will be????? My guess is more misery for now..... To bad he is so angry at himself for being a [censored]!!!!!


Hurting

go rent the movie I talked about...cheap rental too. and enjoy. good way to vent anger and laugh at same time.

Ok I may do that this weekend while I am off work...


So should I not blast him? I really want to .... I have shown him any anger at all with this stuff from day one....

Its really getting hard to be the sane one you know .....