Keep good records on your dog business. You can deduct expenses from income as long as you are trying to make a profit. That might lower your family tax bill. Check with a tax accountant.

My friend had 2 of her patients leave her real estate in their will! She is a loving and comforting person, and always works as much as she wants.

I will do that for sure ( the dog records)
My goal in life in regards to working has been to own a kennel, show my dogs, and breed. So this is a step in that direction for sure.
FWH has been very supportive and kind this week. He is currently reading Every Mans Battle. The rose he gave me was great. We talked and kissed, etc. I think he was hurt by me giving it away. It was not my intentions, I just cannot truly be around them. I gave it to a friend of both of ours whose hubby has cheated on her. She loves them and grows them.
I would like to stay connected to nursing, just not the paper work part of nursing. Nursing Homes have way to many rules, and regs to prevent you from sitting on the side of the bed, and chatting with the patients, not enough time etc. I want to be a real nurse, and give holistic care like I was taught in school. Fantasy land I am sure, but worth a try...LOL
How are you B?
I missed you, hope you were happily busy
JE

Things are going fine with me. I was a bit taken aback when WH wanted to come home, but have recovered from that shock.

hey you towo.....i am praying for you both!!!

je---wow, that is great news! what breed do you handle?
i am trying with hubby---he reminds me in a lot of ways of my hubby...slow on the recovery end but with good intentions. not too much bs will fly with me before i whack him!!LOL just keep posting whats going on....how you feel and we will help guide him.

B---take your time and breathe. lots of input on what you should do with YOUR life....you decide chicca...you've earned it.

Believer,
Well like Dr. Harley and you said, they do eventually end thier A..I think "a bit taken aback" might me a little understatement LOL = shocked LOL

Nikko.
I will keep posting. Last night was great. We watched a movie together, baked cookies and snacked on them, and this morning a wonderful love note...Thank you.
I have Yorkshire Terriers and Bichon Frise, I also show and breed Bengal cats, well just show them right now, have not bred them just yet...
JE

im glad you had a good night...sounds wonderful....just remember....your way ahead of him on recovery...knowing what needs to be done and such....be patient. he seems to be trying....that alone is huge. he'll get there...but expect bumps. we all have them.

my brother has a yorkie....he's such a nut! i love him. me i have a rat terrier and a dobie. my first love was my chow. his grandfather was the chow that won westminster years ago....i miss him.

All yorkies are nutty. That is why I love them so much. Only drawback is the grooming. Lots of time to groom them, bathing, brushing, etc.
You should have a dobie and a minpin...look alikes but rat terriers are close enough LOL
I have never been a chow fan. I worked as a Vet tech for years, and never met one I liked. But chow owners stand by them.
JE

you would have loved leo-----my vet and all his techs loved him....he was the most well behaved chow you ever wanted to meet. not a mean bone in him...unless ya wanted to hurt me though....lol

Nikko - My beloved Pitbull is named Leo too. If you remember, we took care of him for 2 years when his owner was having an affair. Now the family is back together, and the kids wanted Leo back. I was heartbroken - but did insist on visitation.

Well talk about idiots. I know I am not on Idiotville, But this one tops it all.
I sold a Lady a teacup Yorkie. Now this little girl is 3 months old and weighs 1.2 pounds. I sold her this dog 10 days ago at 10 weeks and she weighed in at exactly a pound. This idiot calls me this afternoon at 4 pm. The dog is lethargic and shaky. I ask many questions, all of which are a no. Is she cold, have diarrhea, etc? NO to all. So I tell her to give her the Nutrical I sent with the pup incase of these things. SO she gives her some and nothing. I tell her to bring the dog over immediately. I then call my vet. and ask if she will stay late till I get there, of course she says yes.
When the pup gets here she is unclean, matted, and obviously dehydrated. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> She couldnt even stand. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />I ask her when the last time she had water, she says well I gave her a bowl this morning at 6am, and I got home at 4 pm, she barely touched it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> Now I had asked her on the phone if she had eaten, drank etc and she said of course.
So I rush this poor thing to the vet, and my vet immediately gives her subQ fluids, she was so dehydrated and tiny should couldnt even find a vein in her neck.
I am quite ticked at this point. When I sell a teacup there are many rules: NO kids, other dogs, and you must be able to keep this dog with you for the first 6 months of its life. She agreed to all of this. Now I find out not only does she have a kid, but she cannot take the dog to work, and she has a SAINT BERNARD!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
Now its 1135 pm, the pup is great. She is running around, I bathed her, and she is looking like the same puppy I sold her just 10 days ago. I just dont know what to do now though. She loves the dog, but lied to me. I did not have that stuff in my contract about the teacups. SO I have to give her back the dog and I dont want to. These are like my kids, born here, raised here till 10 weeks and vet checked prior to leaving. I did my part.
It just ticks me off that she lied and did not follow my typed out instructions for teacups. They are quite fragile until they are at least 6 months old. This dog will mature around 3 pounds.
Well enough of my ranting, people just irritate me sometimes. New rules will be set in stone or she does not get the dog back, period. And I have learned another valuable lesson, put it all in writing. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />
JE

dont just put it in writing...insist on a home visit to prospective parents!!!! (im sorry, im about to sound harsh.....) this was your responsibility as a "mom" to do. you have to check out the people you adopt out to.....you didnt. now you have little recourse im afraid. i understand what you mean....my baby was so tiny when we got her....she was with me at all times....

maybe she will want a refund and not the dog...offer it and be done with her!

Nikko,
I made the mistake of thinking if someone can pay 1500.00 for a puppy, filled out a questionaire(copied from humane society), and looked honest to trust them. This woman even came here an hour and a half away and visited her puppy from birth to 10 weeks every week. She looked honest and like an excellent home. It is hard to do home visits when alot of my sales go to out of state homes. But for now on I will have all of that in my contract.
I do state that I do not pay for vet bills, but I am for this little girl. Even though I am not at fault. I already tried the refund and it was no way.
The pup goes back this am to the vet to make sure she is ok and have blood work done. Then I will call her and we will definately be chatting big time.
Like I said, valuable lesson learned. No more Mrs. Nice Guy for sure.
JE

I was reading on fake R. How do you know if you are in a fake R?

I ask this because of a few things but I will leave him out of it and focus on me.

FWH had ample opportunity and time to confess to the A. He SWORE on a bible and his childrens lives he was not cheating. Had MC even convinced of this, and I felt completely nuts. Now looking back I lost all my self esteem from that, felt like I was a failure for not trusting him and believing him. It took a toll after a year. Then dday hit and I was whirling, thoughts of him with his hand on a bible and swearing on his own flesh and bloods lives to protect the OW and the A. I am not so sure that trust will ever come back. I am not so sure I ever "want" to trust him again or ever will. I have to trust someone to love them.

I spent so much of myself changing a year prior to dday, doing a year of plan A without knowing what it was, becoming a new person. Then after dday dealing with my abuse and the flashbacks and horror of it, and him still taking SF from me. I lost all love for this man. I cannot even say I love you as a person, like I would to a friend or someone in need. That is truly sad IMHO. I feel that I have put in all and more, while he just sits back, makes a few good gestures, and lets it slide back to his old self again.

I sit here and think to myself many things. If I had to chose between a good friend and him, it would be the friend. Like my friend who just found out. I had someone tell me to pull away from that friend and work on the R. I have been thinking about that alot. I will not do that. I will be there for her. My friendship with her means the world to me. To throw that away for him is not acceptable for me right now. Even knowing about my FWHs A, she has been great with him. She does not judge him and never has. Darn I have a hard time even looking at her WH right now.

These things I think are hindering our R from my part. His issues are huge, and just not fast enough for me. I know that is selfish, and I guess I must be this morning. I rarely feel selfish, would rather go with nothing to make sure he has everything he wants. But I have been reexamining things, I do see slow progress, but will he ever be someone I can love and trust again? Should I have to throw away a friendship to work on R knowing the outcome may be D? Even if he makes a few changes, I still have the painful memories of not just the A, but the continued lies, continued protecting of OW, continued betrayal with his broken promises for over 9 months now. I see this and cannot turn the other cheek right now, and probably havent been able to for a while. I do not believe a word he says. I do not like the person he became. I guess that is my confession.
May be just a vent. I am tired and have been up and down most of the night. Maybe I am a little cranky. Who knows?
JE

hey you. Just keep with it. remember, you're waiting for HIM to come around. Keep plan A-ing, and eventually things will come around.
The pain you feel will hang around for an obnoxious length of time. EVERY time you think of HER it will hurt. In time, that will fade...I think.
Luv ya girl.
Monica

I think it is time to be selfish. Don't do everything for him. Let him start making a bigger effort.

I agree. It's like they say, you can only change yourself. He may end up seeing you as too good for him...or maybe he does already...hmmmm. Food for thought.
You all should check out my thread about the other day. "man that was wierd..." about the OW coming to see me tuesday nite...VERY strange feelings after that. (haven't seen her for months at my H's work, then she comes to my HOUSE?) But, alas, many questions have been answered for me, tho my H should have been the one to answer them...still feel better, tho.

Ok here is one more to chomp on. FWH sent NC letter 2 weeks ago. Then about the day she would have gotten the letter came the call from her when no one was home. Nothing for a week. Today a letter comes in from her work removing us from the mailing list etc??? What is that? It was addressed to the ****(our last name) Family. Real weird. Now FWH gets the mail most of the time, so if something came in I wouldnt know it. Kids got it today and I saw the letter. FWH paced and paced as I opened it. He questioned what it said, and I told him we are removed from the mailing list.
No comment from him, just that he wishes she would respect him and not contact.
Just weird to me. Or might be the mood I have been in today.

Monica,
There are so many unaswered questions for me too. FWH tells little and sugarcoats or protects FOW when he tells the story. I wonder if someday she might do that. Who knows.

Believer,
I guess I am asking about a time frame for R. When should I start feeling? I just am starting to think 9 months is quite a while. A year? 2 years? I guess in my selfish day today, I dont want to wait around forever. I am not getting any younger LOL. JK.
JE

JE---sorry, my aprents are here and its been quite hectic.lol

this all takes time sweetie....lots and lots of time....real world answer.....it sucks!!!LOL i hated when people use to post that to me....but i get it now. if he miraculously changed overnight....you still wouldnt trust it. his actions and care of you is going to take quite a bit to change and re-learn.

one question....why are you not counseling with the harleys??? i really think you should find a way to make that happen.......

I didn't recover my marriage, and it took about 18 months for me to start feeling good about things. It takes way longer than we think.

HELLOOO--------je, you out there???? lol