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hey, those were some good ideas Jan... can I join that community project group? would love to meet some single professionals!

Good one gekko... meat aisle, cook outs, good times... sounds good! the ones around here however go to the meat aisle for the cook out than buy about 3 24 packs of beer and well, there's your night of fun I guess! lol I like to remember my night of fun thank you.

yea, if you see me buying the ben and jerry's I'm getting to that lonely as h*ll point... not there quite yet thank God!

hey, put those olives down! mlhb


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OH - the other place I tend to run into single dads is at activities at school events (I home school, so I'm not there often) and boyscouts and youth group, or ski-weekends (there's a reason why I stay at the lodge and keep an eye on the kids who aren't skiing - besides the fact that I'm a total klutz and tend to break body parts when I fall down mountains).


A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.
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i started going to church recently again. i haven't met anyone there, but the peace of mind i get from attending services has made me more positive about the future.

events with friends has introduced me to people as well. it's how i got the confidence to start dating again.

i have a friend who works for a defense attorney. she tells me dui girls are a good time. i don't know what to think about that....


I wish I could say something classy and inspirational, but that just wouldn't be (my) style.
Pain heals. Chicks dig scars. Glory... lasts forever.
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If you're a single dad, volunteer to coach a youth sports team. Getting to know a single mom by being a positive influnece on one of her children is not only a good technique, it's a good thing.


and I knew then that I would have to live, and go on living: what a sorrow it was; and still what sorrow burns but does not destroy my heart --Jane Kenyon
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oh, you are good mike and right on the mark there... that would get me.. a volunteering single dad... oh yes..

gekko! dui girls! yea, there fun all right.. right to the the jail cell and rehab! lol haha mlhb

church is a good thing all around... too... builds a nice family life as well.


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i met my current GF for the past yr at the CARWASH...

it doenet matter where your at...carwash, starbucks, market...just be confident in yourself...keep your sense of humor...always keep the mindset no matter where you go "today might be the day!"

**surf the personals on YAHOO and MATCH.com....just read what qualities single women want and admire...trust me ...sense of humor, confidence, secure men are what they all say...

go with the attitude that its FUN!!! women are just as nervous as guys are when they first meet someone!!

i always had FUN with it...

GO GET EM!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />


"If there are no stupid questions, then what kind of questions do stupid people ask?" (Chris Rock) "Its better to die standing, than live a lifetime on your knees" (Pancho Villa) "We just wanna be free to ride our machines and not get hassled by the Man!" (Easy Rider)
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I just got set up on a blind date by the owner of my house cleaning service. She must have been impressed that a single guy could live in something less than a hovel and have a desire to keep it that way. I'll let you know if this is a good thing after the date!

I do think sturgis is right, have fun with it and be confident. You can't read the book without at least opening the cover. Simply reading the title never tells you anything about what is inside.

I will be spending more time in the wine aisle after reading this thread, I'm just going to stop first and put some steak in the cart!


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"When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that opened for us" - Helen Keller
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LOL dukhuntr! good luck on the date.. and how refreshing to hear the "don't just read the title, open the book and look inside"
fabulous input! mlhb


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I just got set up on a blind date........


I will be spending more time in the wine aisle after reading this thread, I'm just going to stop first and put some steak in the cart!


Good luck with your date duk!

And see, that's what I'm talking about........steak and a guy picking out a bottle of wine..... definetly would catch my attention.

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Some of the best dating advice I've ever received was from a woman who goes to our church. She said, if you don't meet him in church, take him to church. You can really get a grip on what a person is like when you take them into a church full of flirty little old women who can spot a single guy at 400 yards, even if they can't see more than four feet in front of their faces.

That woman keeps me in stitches at almost every church event, and she's tried numerous times to set me up with her son (who won't be caught dead in a church). Ummmm her advice is still standing. LOL

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so i bumped my cart into mlhb's at the grocery store. nothing but chocolate chip cookies and cool whip.

i had to give her a fake number.


I wish I could say something classy and inspirational, but that just wouldn't be (my) style.
Pain heals. Chicks dig scars. Glory... lasts forever.
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omg! too funny... no chocolate chip cookies, just a pound of hersey's chocolate.. if I had cool whip in there it was none of your business haha that means I had a date! lol lol

mlhb


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cool whip and chocolate syrup is a date. cool whip and choclate chip cookies is sad.

do i have to outline very aisle in the store for you people?
ha!


I wish I could say something classy and inspirational, but that just wouldn't be (my) style.
Pain heals. Chicks dig scars. Glory... lasts forever.
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My blind date last night only goes to show if you don't at least let friends set you up occasionally you never know what you could be missing. She is a terriffic person and way prettier than I imagined. She kept me talking for five hours over drinks, dinner and coffee. I haven't talked that much to one person in one sitting in ages.

This is one book I am glad I took the chance on and opened. I will be doing a lot of "reading" for a while. We even talked about what part of the store is best. Wine aisle gal for sure but a gourmet cook also so she looks in the specialty section too!


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"When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that opened for us" - Helen Keller
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dukhuntr, just remember to play alittle "hard to get"....dont come off toooo needy or anxious....

NEVER forget that girls are a very formidable adversary!!! (one minute they make us feel like a MILLION bucks and the next we are CRYING in our beers!) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

have fun...but in the beginning dont over due the talking tooo much...be alittle mysterious and "busy"...(it makes em all gitty and builds that great "tension" for your next date)....

i wont give away all MY secrets!!! ... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />


"If there are no stupid questions, then what kind of questions do stupid people ask?" (Chris Rock) "Its better to die standing, than live a lifetime on your knees" (Pancho Villa) "We just wanna be free to ride our machines and not get hassled by the Man!" (Easy Rider)
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dukhuntr, just remember NEVER forget that girls are a very formidable adversary!!! (one minute they make us feel like a MILLION bucks and the next we are CRYING in our beers!) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

I know you're talking to dukhuntr, BUT

I must add........guys do this too.
I had felt like a million bucks for 5 weeks, until.....
he remembered he was in love with his previous gf.
OUCH, I'm still crying.....

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i hear ya...i embarassed to say that i went throuh a HUGE player phase...looking back i know i hurt a few people....but at the time it was "all about me"


"If there are no stupid questions, then what kind of questions do stupid people ask?" (Chris Rock) "Its better to die standing, than live a lifetime on your knees" (Pancho Villa) "We just wanna be free to ride our machines and not get hassled by the Man!" (Easy Rider)
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oh korona, I feel for ya. It is almost like every potential date is a potential heartache. :-( But we must get out there and take the chance because you never know. Before I got married I dated a guy who ended up going back to his gf... it stinks. My stbxh had just broken up with someone when I first met him. He didn't end up going back with her even though she tried to get back with him... damn, I wish she had fought for him a little harder! she coulda married him instead of me and saved me 10 years of heartache. oh well, we did have 2 awesome children together. have your sadness korona, but not for too long. Dust yourself off and get back out there girl!!! where's just peachy when you need her. That woman has all kinds of dates! mlhb


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Just little comfort there Sturgis. BUT, I give you credit for your honesty.
It sounds like you have grown.

Thanks mlhb! Sucky thing, I was walking tonight and this particular guy drove past me. He waved at me, and I back, but I couldn't help but wonder what the heck was going thru his mind after he passed. I know what was going on in mine.
This is a guy that "was" seemingly all about me, then bam! He's in Love with someone else, sorry.
I'm trying to do the dusting thing, but oh how tuff it is.

Never regret your marriage because of your kids. I tell myself the same thing. I could have been spared the heartache of a cheating husband, BUT who would I be today without my girls. I will never regret my marriage for that reason alone.

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went on another one tonight. the blind date from two weeks ago, the 25 year old that i thought i had nothing in common with, called me and asked me out tonight. casual date of pizza and a few laughs. nothing there, at least on my end. as i told someone else earlier tonight, my snobbery is taking over. this girl and i are total opposites in every way and i have no patience for her or it. i don't need a relayionship right now but i find nyself not wanting an anti relationship either. i was home by 8:15pm.

i immediately went to the grocery store...


I wish I could say something classy and inspirational, but that just wouldn't be (my) style.
Pain heals. Chicks dig scars. Glory... lasts forever.
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