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Yes, it makes a difference with the kind of people you work with. The people my husband worked with on his previous job had cheated on their wives/husbands went out with married men, had been cheating and got divorced, etc. I never heard of so many corrupt people in my life. My husband used to tell me stories about how everyone was a sneak in the company. Well, I guess it rubbed off on him - he became one of them. Now they are probably telling his story and about how sneaky he was - now that he left.

You are so correct sleeping with the slutty co-worker is totally unacceptable - never was - never will be!

Good luck to you.

Thought you ladies might find this interesting....a version of an OW and a version of a WH....

Beyond Betrayal: Life After Infidelity

By: Frank Pittman
Summary: Not all affairs are alike; some are even accidental.

Spider Woman
There are women who, by nature romantics, don't quite want to escape their own life and die for love. Instead they'd rather have some guy wreck his life for them. These women have been so recently betrayed by unfaithful men that the wound is still raw and they are out for revenge. A woman who angrily pursues married men is a "spider woman"--she requires human sacrifice to restore her sense of power.

When she is sucking the blood from other people's marriages, she feels some relief from the pain of having her own marriage betrayed. She simply requires that a man love her enough to sacrifice his life for her. She may be particularly attracted to happy marriages, clearly envious of the woman whose husband is faithful and loving to her. Sometimes it isn't clear whether she wants to replace the happy wife or just make her miserable.

The women who are least squeamish and most likely to wreak havoc on other people's marriages are victims of some sort of abuse, so angry that they don't feel bound by the usual rules or obligations, so desperate that they cling to any source of security, and so miserable that they don't bother to think a bit of the end of it.

EMOTIONALLY RETARDED MEN IN LOVE

About the only people more dangerous than philandering men going through life with an open fly and romantic damsels going through life in perennial distress, are emotionally retarded men in love. When such men go through a difficult transition in life, they hunker down and ignore all emotions. Their brain chemistry gets depressed, but they don't know how to feel it as depression. Their loved ones try to keep from bothering them, try to keep things calm and serene and isolate them further.

An emotionally retarded man may go for a time without feeling pleasure, pain, or anything else, until a strange woman jerks him back into awareness of something intense enough for him to feel it--perhaps sexual fireworks, or the boyish heroics of rescuing her, or perhaps just fascination with her constantly changing moods and never-ending emotional crises.

With her, he can pull out of his depression briefly, but he sinks back even deeper into it when he is not with her. He is getting addicted to her, but he doesn't know that. He only feels the absence of joy and love and life with his serenely cautious wife and kids, and the awareness of life with this new woman. It doesn't work for him to leave home to be with her, as she too would grow stale and irritating if she were around full time.

What he needs is not a crazier woman to sacrifice his life for, but treatment for his depression. However, since the best home remedies for depression are sex, exercise, joy, and triumph, the dangerous damsel may be providing one or more of them in a big enough dose to make him feel a lot better. He may feel pretty good until he gets the bill, and sees how much of his life and the lives of his loved ones this treatment is costing. Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last long

Wow, how true is the article. That describes the OW and WH pretty well. So sad, huh?

Well, I didn't have to call

I had an appointment on Wed. in a town about 80 miles from here. After the appointment I decided to stop off at the mall to pick up something for the girls to give H for Father's Day. As I started to walk through the mall, I looked up, and there was H, walking and holding hands with OW and his other arm was around her son. They looked over and noticed me walking by, and my H gave me the dirtest look, and continued walking by as if I was nothing to him. I was crushed. I tried not to, but anger got the better of me, and I turned around and confronted both of them. It wasn't pretty, I called her quite a few choice names, and told she was a homewrecker. I told her I still loved my H, and that she was ripping apart a family. I told my H, that he was playing daddy to someone elses kid, while he dumps his own. My husband pushed me back a little, because he thought I was going to attack OW. Afterwards he put his arm around her and walked away. He looked back at me, and I just shook my head. I went back out to my car and cried for a half hour.

The next morning he called, and asked my why I was bothered by seeing them. That I shouldn't be because he confessed to me that he was seeing her on Monday.
Is that suppose to make it alright? Dumb

No, it totally doesn't make it right at all. This is just WH living in his own sick world of lies and deceit. They continue to live a deeper and darker lie and it starts to compile.

What is wrong with this world? This is ridiculous! Your situation totally brings back flashbacks of last Saturday where I confronted WH with OW at a concert. WH's arm was around OW as they were laughing and smiling. Sick, sick, sick! I was livid. I confronted H which made him nervous although I should have body slammed the OW instead.

OWs are a different breed of sick, twisted and emotionally unstable witches out to find their next victim, our Hs!

I am getting so angry...I need to go to the gym to get this negative energy out or I might have to hurt my H at his work in front of the OW.

OHH Mandy. Hang on to that picture of him in your mind when you need to gain strenth. So this is how he treats the woman who he vowed to honor and cherish?? Yep, hang on to it and get angry and hold on to it for inner strengh. I'd call that a huge LB on his part.

Fog, man that is pea soup. This episode will come back to haunt him. Mark my words.

Forgive,

You are so right, of course now I have my spine and could do it, back then I couldn't. The A was an EA at this pt. as my WH was in OH and OW was in NJ during the week, NY on the weekends. It was between d-day 1 and d-day 2. I so desparately wanted our M and my WH I didn't want to do anything to rock the boat. I so regret that now. Things I would do differently today for me, not for any affect on the OW or the WH:

1.)Contact OW's H and inform him of the A, as well as OWH's parents who allowed OW to stay with them during the week in NJ while she worked in NJ. OW could have volunteered to be laid off from the co. my WH and her worked for in order to be with her family in NY, but didn't in order to continue the A with WH.
2.) Call the co. WH and OW worked for, inform them of the A.
Even though WH was laid off before d-day #1, it was still against the ethics code of the co. for OW to have the A.
3.) Get a trace on my phone and press charges for the harassment. What has always been worse for me is the fact that WH won't believe me. I told him that he won't bc he refuses to see anything bad about ow. And it's been a long time since d-day #2. I don't know if WH will ever come out of seeing her as only good. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
4.) Expose to WH's family.

Mandy, that is tough, I am so sorry you had to go through that at the mall. It must have been so hard. Your WH doesn't seem to have any sense of his actions causing you harm, you need to protect yourself against him, emotionally. I think the ow in your case is getting what she deserves with him, and I hope you someday will meet someone who will treat you with respect and caring.

Noodle<--- Just called them both a few choice names herself.

All I did was READ this and I'm mad.

So sorry you had to be there in person.