I could care less.

My motives are plain. No secrets here.

I don't support homewreckers plain and simple.

Um. You're INline. Does that make you a skate?


BTW: I was told a-holes grew on trees, and I am here to trim the leaves.

Threads like THIS ONE http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...rue#Post3075030 are why these Affair Marriages are so disgusting and why the presence of these people getting help here on MB is so affronting.

Bob, don't die on the hill---take it.

The casting of stones is meant for humans who actually hate their sin and give themselves to God, not continue to [censored] the heck out of someones heart with reasons of how and why they do/did what they did.

The true repentant is who we shall not cast stones on.

The one who tells of the errors of their ways and how they overcome them.

Other than that Jesus has refuge for those who are slandered by the offender, by the 'unsaved', those who show God no remorse for their unsavory ways.

You may forgive in a christian way those who seek to change, but those who do not, face final judgement by our saviour, for all believers to witness in their final days.

Above all else god knows what is in each and everyone's heart.

Bob Pure, I have seen you around. I hope you'll stay among friends and ignore those who choose to ignite you with inflammatory remarks on your religion or you ability to forgive.

To everything there is a season. A time to forgive is one season. If you are not ready, or the person hasn't done anything to show remorse, then give it to God. God didn't forgive the ones who continuously degraded His name, and neither should you.

He cast them down.

He has been known to show no mercy to those who do not seek it.

So Bob Pure and everyone, don't sweat the small stuff.

And I agree the boards have significantly changed.

Especially pregnancy boards..... since 2000, big change... not according to what Steve Harley advised us....~sigh~

Debi

LET'S STORM THAT DAMNED HILL.

maybe if we all quit reading and posting, they would leave for lack of attention?

Nah...sharks like blood.

I watched shark week on discovery!

Can you relink. I am only getting braveheart's profile.

How to repel a shark: pop it on the nose really hard!

another way? spray stinky repellent (they used rotting sharks flesh concentrate) at them. That way is kinda amusing to me...THEY REPEL THEMSELVES!

yet another way to rid yourself of pesky sharks: harpoon them!


and any "similarity" between a shark and a wistress or a cakeating fenceman is purely non coincidental!

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...rue#Post3075030

Whoops - sorry. There's the post

You know, I consider myself a good person, an empathetic person, I always strive to do the right thing by others, as most I guess.

I have been here a long time off/on paying it forward to help others survive the worse experience of their life. I have seen the BS gamet.

I feel vested in this Website. A stakeholder where I learned so much and it made me strong and helped me know what I stand for.

I see people talk about being good Christians here, and then I think how the OW paged my ex-H for several months (average of 14 a night) with the repeat message that "God wants them to be together" and "God won't give you your future until you accept it with me" and on and on. And there he is, my ex-H married to the OW.

So when I see people talking about doing things in the name of being a "Christian", it just doesn't have much meaning for me.

The issues surrounding the support of affair-based marriages at MB has had me on edge for a while now. I somewhat fear the day OW (now-W) can come onto these boards when the going gets rough for them and obtain support simply by claiming her "Christian" repentance. Similar to how she claimed God wanted them to be together.

There's so much more, but like Pep, I'm weary and very disillusioned.

Jo

Hey Bob,
How are you doing?
I kindof sailed off months ago and swore I would not come back to this forum. But I guess I found out the all seas have storms now and then, and occasionally, we have to put into a safe port and resupply the vessel we sail on.
So here i am again and I sort of feel like a hypocryte.
Then again, it's nice to think you have a safe port to sail into.
Most of the current MB's don't know me or my story, but I know and remember you.
We suffered sort of similtaniously, and I remember haveing great hope for the recovery of your M with Squid. I still don't belive I was wrong about that, but , like me, You still have residual issues that haunt your peace. I'm sorry if this is somehow judgemental, but I have walked your walk, and I know what it feel like.
This monumental task we take on, is not easy or gracefull, but we take it on nonetheless. It is our nature to be forgiving , but the wonderfull thing, is it is so truly within or reach, if we so decide.
Come on back, Bob, I miss your input ,
Jerry

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BobP... I am with you... but I say stay and fight the fight... if it means being politically incorrect on these boards... then I am all for it. Call it as you see it... ignore those that deserve ignoring and help those that need it. Without you and Plank to help me see the light in my early days here... I'm not sure I would be drawing breath today.
So, brother, fight the fight. Be there to help the next true sould looking for help and not someone to pat them on the head and tell them they are doing okay while practicing utter immorality.

Shortly after I came here, eons ago in 1999, there was a frequent poster whose H had left her for the OW after an 18 year marriage (one child). When she admitted, several months later, that that was an affair marriage, I felt betrayed. Then, perhaps a year later, after she was divorced, she posted again - feeling guilty because SHE was now in an affair with a MM. That confirmed for me the fact that she was never truly remorseful.

It is cruel for people in affair marriages to come here for help to restore their marriages.

Mr P,

Hey guy.
Your journey has indeed been a very interesting one on here to say the lest.

To the board,
Give the man some respect and leave him alone.

He's been hinting at and actually trying to remove himself for quite awhile now.
{But it can be Tough when your so USED to coming to this place ......I KNOW Many Can Relate) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />!!!

Perhaps it takes something this Offensive (to him) to finish that job.

However,
should he Choose to come back for good or only from time to time ........He'll make that choice in its own time.

If this is truly good bye BP-----Then like it or Not,
just Know that your name, story and Example will Live on
and be brought up from time to time for others to sample.

Bob,

You're a fine man. I agree with you.
It's like somebody coming to a car repair forum and asking for help with a stolen car.

-AD

i am someone who IS hurt by posts that give advice to someone in an affair marraige......my worst fear

and i am hurt by the poster who is an OW who is here trying to redeem herself by helping others as she talks about how her marraige has ben forgiven by the church so that makes her a FOW

i'm NOT saying that these people haven't accepted that they made a mistake and i realize they are remourseful.

however.......my life has been destroyed by someone who is doing exactly what they did.....and all i can think when i read any post from them is.......

will my husbands OW be here one day asking for help to save her marraige to my H.....saying that she knows she made a mistake but they are happy and love each other and only want help??? will she say how sorry she is for me and say that her church has forgiven her and my H and his family has accepted her and now thier marraige is deserving of your help??

will you remember what she did to me? how she was part of what destroyed my life? will you believe her when she says that i forgive her? will you all help her to save her marraige to the same man you tried to help me win back?

this is the place where the people who are living with this NOW should be able to come and feel that NO affair marraige will be tolerated or supported....because it destroys lives and families.....and it does damage that can NEVER be undone

please STOP posting to or acknowledging these people

Although I am saddened to hear of your considered
departure- I believe your "thought police" mentality
represents something truly dangerous.
First, affair marriages are not to even be discussed or
acknowledged- then what- only 1st marriages are considered
valid, then what maybe only Christian marriages are
considered valid and what about so called "shotgun marriages"- since that marriage was also presipitated on
a sin- shouldn't that marriage be considered not
valid...where does it stop? When you consider all your
holy criteria to be met?
This is a marriage support board- no where on this site
have a read a definition that attempted to define valid
vs invalid, sacred vs non-sacred marriage.

GET OUTTA HERE PINKY.

WILL SOMEBODY GET THEIR DARN SHARK HARPOON OUT? OR SOME DAMNED REPELLENT (rotting shark flesh repels their own kind)......

There is a BS on this board tonight in trouble. And you are here being cruel and sick.

I pity you. You are pathetic.

We're not the mind police. We're the majority of this country. We say what many are afraid to.

Shall I come and hunt you on your board darling?