Before you changed your MB name you said:
It is disrespectful to think that you are right and the WS is wrong.
and the reason I am bringing this up is because (IMO) it is precisely THIS thinking that is getting you so fouled up and distancing you emotionally from your husband
you'd rather distance yourself emotionally and present him with "detached-care" than be emotionally honest and own up to the fact that you are entitled to think the rationale used by infidels is
morally wrong ~~~> and there are ways to speak this truth that are not disrespectful !
he won't like it one bit, but so what?
not only are you
entitled to have moral opinions, but your life goes down the toilet if you refuse to hold
moral standards for those you are intimate with !!!!
it is a matter of your personal integrity to uphold your moral standards and to speak your truths
even if it makes your adulterous-foggy-husband pissy
and twisting yourself into a "respectful" yet "detached" pretzel of a wife is actually making this situation worse, not better (IMO) ... and it will gradually demoralize you and make you so much more miserable in the long run
being silently miserable in a marriage is not marriage building ... nor is it "respectful"
you seem to confuse disrespect with making someone upset .... when it comes to dealing with an adulterous spouse, holding a moral compass of your own is going to make them mad, but, again, I say ...
so what? ... getting mad is part of the deal when faced with unpleasant and unflattering glimpses in the reality reflection of one's choices
Pep