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silentlucidity #1782638 04/30/07 05:54 PM
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Note to the wise, sdguy...Siamese cats are pretty territorial about their owners. They pick their "owner" and then MUST have some time with the owner (or at minimum...SOMEONE) almost every day. Now, this is not necessarily a bad thing. It's just FYI...Siamese are not the self-sufficient kind of cats to leave for part of a weekend with a big pile of catfood and a litter box. When they "miss out" on time with their owner, they can get cranky and scratch stuff up. OTOH, if the cat identifies you and DD19 as it's "owners" and every day just gets to sit near-ish to you or gets some petting every day...then it will be happy as a cat at a canary convention. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

My little Maltese is the same way. I don't necessarily have to DO anything with him...just let him lay at my feet. But if I go to the gas station, when I come back it's as if I had been gone for weeks! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

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I been following your sitch. Interesting to see plan b from a guys side. I know it's very hard either way. Hang in there.

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They pick their "owner"

I was ready for this and made sure that it was me. For kittens, it's basically a new 'mom' relationship, so she has spent time licking, kneading, and nibbling me trying to nurse. It, um, hasn't worked, and yes, those claws are sharp. The purring more than makes up for it, though.

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BEAUTIFUL, but sometimes even more aloof than your average cat.

I've met a few of those, but I've also met some Siamese that were amazingly friendly. The last two cats we got from the shelter were both lovely tabbies (and more attractive than Siamese, to me) but damaged goods. One was occasionally psychotic, and the other one big and dumb and doesn't seem to have been socialized enough as a kitten and thus not affectionate. I was determined not to make that mistake again (cats being 15-or-so-year commitments), and this time I got to see both parents, both of whom were very friendly (came right up and purred to be petted).

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DD19 wants me to get a dog but I just don't know if I want that commitment either

Think about it. I know I'm looking forward to some animal companionship and wonder whether it wouldn't be good for you, too. Maybe DD19 (or those friendly neighbors you always meant to connect with more) will help you take care of it when you need to jet off to Italy for the latest conference on toddler utensil maintenance. Plus, puppies are, like, chick-magnets, right?

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so she has spent time licking, kneading, and nibbling me trying to nurse. It, um, hasn't worked, and yes, those claws are sharp


This is a very hilarious word picture!!!!!

I got an Australian shepherd from the animal shelter and LOVE her to pieces...very smart dog and she is the one who bit the WH on the back of his thigh...well she was trying for higher...but as someone so nicely pointed out, it was on top of his shoulders at the time and she couldn't reach!

Pets are great for company! Cheaper than dating too (not that any of us are doing that!!) LOL


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I got an Australian shepherd from the animal shelter and LOVE her to pieces...very smart dog and she is the one who bit the WH on the back of his thigh...well she was trying for higher...but as someone so nicely pointed out, it was on top of his shoulders at the time and she couldn't reach!

LOL. I love that dog!

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Let's just say she is my favorite pet ever...and will always have a very special place in my heart!


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report to eav's thread please


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WOw SD a new pet...cool, I really miss my dog...and I thinkt hat I will have to give her up b/c we've spent so much time away from her...I was training her when we left and now the neighbor has her...

Her and her five kids...I was thinking about getting another dog or cat once we get settled...

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Hey SD,

You sure can pick up quick you are in a Killer Bee thread. All we have left to talk about is puppies, kittens, sippy cups, gas grills, chicken wings and beer. Oh yeah, and court.

How are you doing?

I made a mistake today and dug deeper into older threads around here and found a couple that hit way to close to home. Ever do that? Don't. I can see how someone finally gets to the point they have to take a break or leave the MB site. I think someone once said that the Harley's advised not to probe around to much into other threads. Bad visions without chemistry. I won't do that anymore.

I hope all is well. Check in sometime.


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Chris, I have read some stuff here, even current stuff and it angers me. I usually take a breather. I've actually started to just keep up with yous guys lately, until I'm ready to help again. Right now, things are movin along for me.

I met with the counselor from the Family Resilency center, where my son will be in group sessions this summer to help him deal with this 'transition'. Since it was an introductory session, I had to rehash the major events of the past two years; I immediately teared up and my throat tightened, fighting not to let the tears flow, but I did. They were few, but BIG. The session removed a bit of love from the ole LB, as I'm angry and upset that I even have to go through all of this.

Also, my DS started with a new daycare this week, adn I'm already going to remove him and put him with my dad (he's retired and could use the money anyway). I have cut my schedule back and shifted it to accomodate her hours and she had the nerve to ask me if I was going to show up at that time (it was 5PM) every day, because she didn't remember me stating that is what time I would be arriving. Um, I arrived at 5PM on Monday and not a peep from her. Well, she wanted to go to a sale at Kohl's, so I guess my tardiness (NOT) was raining on her retail parade...

Her priority is not the daycare and I need someone who's priority is such. Also, she won't supply lunch, so I pack one daily, but I pay $5 MORE a week than I paid my last daycare that SUPPLIED BREAKFAST AND LUNCH. My tolerance for crap is pretty low. Also, she is a real estate agent in her 'spare' time (during daycare hours) and she has someone else come in to take care of the children while she steps out to make extra duckets. So, she's being sacked, and I'm going to replace her WITH, a llama.

WHEW! Sorry Guy Smiley, for the TJ, but I had to get that off of my chest, and I was too lazy to dig up my thread.


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A Moose once bit mi sister . . . .

But seriously, sorry the daycare didn't work out. It doesn't sound like a good situation, though, so better to get him out of there. We have been blessed with a great daycare provider--an Earth mother type who is basically extended family now. We used to joke that she's a surrogate mom for us, too. It's a nice bit of stability for the kids. She can't believe what WW is doing but is careful to stay neutral for the sake of the kids.

There are certainly times when I have a hard time reading other threads. Some are too painful, and sometimes I can only handle my own mess. I'm feeling quite a bit better the past couple of days--stronger. Getting back into my Plan B.

As I type this, the house is quieting down, and the kitten (we're going to call her Sienna, but maybe I should refer to her as DK) is in my lap. She's not ready to sleep (but doesn't want to be down, either), so she's rolling around, biting things (the armrest, my arm, whoops, there was that tail, my arm again, the desk, back to my arm). I can't decide which is cuter--the kitten, or the joy on my daughter's face when she plays with the kitten. Man, those claws are sharp.

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OhOh trigger. No offense but your cat's named after my MOW. Probably should stick to my thread <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

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Glad to hear you are doing well lately, sdguy. It seems like a vicous cycle doesn't it? But at least we know now that there IS an upside, it just takes a little time to get there.

Triggers are everywhere aren't they, still? SilentLucidity's son's name is the same as my MOW son, spelled the same and everything. Oh well, the kids aren't to blame.

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A Moose once bit mi sister . . . .

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Ok...here's an off the wall statement...just like guy smiley...

I once told someone not to worry about our dog biting them because they had their distemper shot!!!!

(ok I was about 10, but still...)


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DS7 was running a fever last night and this morning, so I have him home today. Minor trigger when he told me that WW has a coffee maker. She doesn't drink coffee.

Plus, I'm a little down on sleep, which always makes me edgy. Otherwise doing okay.

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Hey, your WW has had to start drinking coffee...she thinks it will help her think more clearly...cause she obviously can't do that right now!!!

Now...just imagine her nasty stinky coffee breath and you should start feeling better...

Well, it was worth a try!

Hope DS is feeling better soon...no other symptoms yet?


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I think SL's OW and RT have the same name... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Hope the little guy's doing better today. Maybe you can cuddle with him and watch a kid's movie (if he still lets you cuddle...). That would allieviate the edginess, I'd think...

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She doesn't drink coffee

Sorry man. That one would stick me pretty hard too. Shake it off as quick as you can. It's all you can do and you have to do it.

I hope DS feels better quick. Take your vitamins. You don't need to catch it.

Maybe you can show DS how to "pre-load" it with white vinegar for "cleaning purposes".


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The fever doesn't appear to be anything serious. He was lethargic last night and again this morning but has perked up pretty well. We've been watching TIVO'd baseball.

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OhOh trigger. No offense but your cat's named after my MOW. Probably should stick to my thread

No worries, Still. I'll just refer to her as the tiny sharp feline. And it's not as if everyone wants to hear updates on someone else's kitten, like whether or not she's advanced from Sippy Cups to drinking water from a bowl like everyone else's cat.

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