My thoughts exactly. Interesting that the boy decided to email when WH was out of town. Yeah, I smell a rat alright. [/quote]

I totally agree with this... This OW is bad, bad, bad
which - may end up being good, good, good.

She may bury herself sooner rather than later.

Sis, I think RT misses you. Badly.

LilSis------------>Dark and silent

agreed that WH gave RT your sons email address....for some reason...what an idiot!!

I think you should give it a day and think about it...maybe another email will coem in and you will know what to do about it.

i wish i didn't care but i really want to know how involved your H is in this..... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

Personally I think you should have the attorney do it ... it will have much more impact.

He's involved by virtue of the fact of even having a R with her...

He probably did give the boy a rat...

YUCK...

i agree!! let the attorney do it...more impact!

....but sit on it for a day.....RT's impatient for a response (let her wait) and that is why she told your H to email son photos an be sure to check mail....she is either playing WH like a violin or he is in it w/ her and trying to get back at you for plan B.

stay cool.
your instincts were good...checking that email...weird how that worked out, ya know.
She (they) wanted you to see that email.....and it never occured to your WH that DS would be hurt in the process.
disgusting!

Sis,

When you were in Plan A - your presence brought WH and RT together.

Now you are gone.

She needs your participation to help bond her and WH.

This is the power of Plan B.

She needs you to react so your H has something to confide in her about and so they can bond over "Bad Wifie" discussions...

Stay dark.

And a word of caution - no more long heart to hearts with single men right now, OK? That's a bad bad bad path to start down.

i agree...
i am afraid that he might be way deeper than association w/ that rat of a woman.......he has gotten nasty and manipulative too.....either that or he is an even bigger fool than i thought.

yuck is right! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

oh, im sure he gave him a rat! He had plenty....

I'm sure he did give the boy a rat...and she wanted LilSis to know about it. Unfortunately the possible hurt to DS11 is just collateral damage to her.

She (RT) is up to something.

My thought would be to wait and see how this plays out...intercepting emails of course to protect DS. Sounds like RT might be revealing her true self a bit. That could work to your favor.

I think BrambleRose is right. She's looking to stir things up right now. The Plan B silence is killing her.

In the restraining order ... YOU can't contact OW-TURD ... but she is not supposed to contact YOU either , correct?

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

I think RT and WH are both in on this. Didn't you say that WH called and told your sons that one of the rats died? I find it highly suspicious that an email surfaces saying basically the same thing from RT's son. RT wants you to know that WH is treating her kids as his own. This is her emotional warfare on you. She's a cunning manipulative witch.She's looking to inflict pain wherever she can.

Bingo! SHE IS EVIL!

There ya go. It WAS RT's doing since WH was out of town. I'd be willing to bet the farm that WH doesn't know she did this.

Her mask is falling....

I wouldn't do ANYTHING with the account. Just let RT use it as the rope to hang herself.

Who's harrassing who now?

So true. OWs' evilness never ceases to amaze me.

(((LS)))

IC suggested something like the following, which I could email directly to WH, cc'ing my intermediary and attorney:

WH:
The attached email was sent to DS11. Neither the communication itself or the content were appropriate.

Given the spirit of our agreement regarding no contact between our children and your mistress, you should not have provided her son with DS11's email address.

DS11 has not seen or spoken to (name) in over eight months. He knows that you and your mistress spend time together, and presumably that you spend time with her children as well, time that he no longer has with you.

Further, the fact that you gave (name) a rat--just as you gave he and DS8--is unnecessary information.

Together, this email would likely have been very upsetting.

In the interest of what is best for our children, please prevent any further communication between your mistress's children and ours.

Any response to this correspondance should be done through our intermediary.




Gotta run

I think it would be better to come from your attorney...


thousand hugs to you - carnation

The editor in me is poking her head up today:

WH:
The attached email was sent to DS11. Neither the communication itself or the content were appropriate.

Given the spirit of our agreement regarding no contact between our children and your mistress, you should not have provided her son with DS11's email address.

DS11 has not seen or spoken to (name) in over eight months. DS11 knows that you choose to spend your time with your mistress instead of with your wife. He knows that you choose to spend your time with *her* children instead of with your own two sons.

Further, the fact that you gave (name) a rat--just as you gave to DS11 and DS8--is unnecessary and upsetting information.

In the interest of what is best for our children, you are expected to prevent any further communication between your mistress's children and our sons.

Any response to this correspondance should be done through our intermediary.

(Oh, and you misspelled "wh*re" as "mistress", but we'll let this go for now.) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Mulan

LilSis

I have never posted to you however I have followed your story and prayed for you and your family.

I can understand the wanting to do something about this email right now. However I think by sending anything to your wh you put him in the position of protecting the ow, not you or your son. He is not in that frame of mind.

I think you have the upper hand right now. By you not responding at all will totally throw her for a loop and if your wh knows about the email it will throw him for a loop. You will not be responding as you have in the past,your behavior will now be even more unpredictable to them, it puts you in a position of power because now they have absolutely no clue what to do to push your buttons and get you to respond as they know you will. This puts you in a much better position and puts the anxiety in their corner. Maybe it tells your wh that you are very serious now about this and that he is no longer at the forefront of your mind and thoughts. This will get him to thinking.

You are also able to keep your son safe because you can check his email before him and get rid of anything that may hurt him.

You are in a postion of strength right now because you are driving them crazy as they do not know what you are up to or where you are going or what you are thinking.

I think by you staying quiet it will do more, than anything you can do by responding.

I very much agree w/ bj's for now.
sight tight for a little bit.

let her (them) sweat it out a little longer.

and I also think it would be better coming from the attorney when you decide to let him know about it.

stay dark.
keep control.