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Not new to MB but this is the first time I have posted. We have entered into a plan A as far as I can tell. I am the one who has done the hurting and it was suggested by my wife that I seek help here.
We just had our 11th anniversary last week. Things have been rough through out our marriage. I have failed to meet her needs and have caused emotional abuse in our life together. I need help in going in the right direction to save our marriage. I am despreate for help.
Biggest issue we have is me showing respect to her and honoring her wishes.
Brokenhusband
Married 12 years
Me 35
DW 33
DD 12
DD 10
DS 8
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I may not be the most qualified person to answer you here,,but here goes,,do you respect her? what is it that your doing that lacks respect? what wishes are you not honoring? doing things you know she dislikes? I feel like you have to give more specifics so that other people can answer what your asking.
Me-49 and staying there, course AARP sent me my card ugh
H-49
DD and SIL
GS the light of my life! 1 and a half, full of you know what
DS med school
always working on me
•The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated. Ghandi
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It is a good thing that you can reflect and see where you fell short in taking care of your wife's emotional needs, however it is also important that you and SHE realize that your shortcomings cannot be blamed for nor justify her actions in choosing to have an affair. Recovery isn't all about you and what you need to do. It's about both of you and what the two of you need to do. Does your wife get this?
Me- 45yr old BS; Husband - 50yr old WS
Married 23 yrs ;1 adult child
10 years in RECOVERY!!
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