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GODD FOR YOU, CAT!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Thanks Mimi,
I'm just not sure if it will really prove anything.
He wants the D, so he'll refile it himself.
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This is all about YOU...
YOU standing up for what YOU want and what YOU believe in..regardless of what ANYONE ELSE does...
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Cat,
I just wanted to say that I am proud of you for withdrawing the D.
Don't think of it in terms of trying to "prove" anything. How about thinking of it as simply having your ACTIONS demonstrate what YOU want and how YOU feel.
You said you didn't want the D, so you took the steps that you could to make that a reality.
What WH does from here is on WH.
You are being TRUE TO YOURSELF. Period.
It's a Beautiful Thing!
BS (me)
ExWS -Drac
DD 9
DSS 15
D Day 11/06
Divorced 10/01/07
"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
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Well, no surprise...
Lawyer just called.
WH counterfiled.
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Cat,
I'm so sorry & know that it hurts. However it's a long road from filing to completion and I always believe that anything is possible.
That aside, how are you going to take care of yourself this weekend? YOU need to be YOUR focus right now.
{{{{{Cat}}}}}
BS (me)
ExWS -Drac
DD 9
DSS 15
D Day 11/06
Divorced 10/01/07
"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
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Thanks Bugs...
According to my lawyer, it actually could be final in a month or 2. Said it shouldn't be longer than that.
I too pray that miracles can happen, but I guess it's a long shot.
Not sure about this weekend. Have tons of yard work to do. Fun huh? I really don't mind it. Keeps me busy and then I look at the yard and see all I've accomplished.
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(((((Catgirl)))))
As you know, I've been following your story because our timeframes are so similiar. I am so very sorry to hear that your WH counterfiled. I know exactly how you're feeling. Isn't it frightening how much our WH's have changed since the A? That fog is so darn thick!
Please know that I'm praying for you.
I agree with you about the yard work. I planned spring flowers a few weeks ago and it always make me feel better when I come home to a bright and colorful yard.
Take care of yourself.
God bless.
Looking forward to a new chapter since D was finalized on 4/24/07 from WH.
"I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength." Philippians 4:13
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(((Cat)))
I'm so sorry.
Still
BW me 46
WH 46
Together 28 years married 23
3 Kids DD20, DD17 and DS 14
DD #1 (1st A) 10/13/01 with single OW who was co-worker
DD#2 1/23/02 phone call from OW
WH left job 4/02
MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up)
Separated 7/04 to 10/04
Retrouvaille 9/04
Red Flags 11/05
DD#1 (2nd affair) 8/16/06 with MOW age 29 twice married and he's her boss.
Moved out (him) weekend after labor day
23rd anniversary 10/7/07
Filed 10/18/06 still seeing MOW
Dropped divorce complaint 6/7/07
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Thanks everyone...
It wasn't as if I didn't expect it. Still hurts though.
He made it very clear to me last week, that he was happy in his new life.
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That's what he says now, and I'm sure he wants to believe it.
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Cat-
You did a good thing by withdrawing your D petition. You stood by what you believe, and what matters to you. That is a GOOD thing!
I also have a WH that enjoys the single life, the life of no responsibilities, not expectations. He has waffled several times, gotten depressed over it, etc. It WILL hit him, and hard one day what he gave up. And I do not think that he will be happy.
Be proud of yourself, get your gardening done (on a side note, I TRIED to cut my back yard, but the grass is too long, and my DAD (HOW EMBARRASSING!) is going to come over tomorrow to help me get it cut- my mower kept stalling!KEEP on top of the yard! LOL!) My front yard looks good, but the backyard has not been cut YET. It is relaxing to putz around outside, and it looks so nice when it it done, but all in good time...)
And good luck, keep your chin up!
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