That was pretty much my experience, too...it takes a certain amount of time to build trust between posters. If someone who had never posted to me before suddenly came at me with a 2X4, it did me no good at all. It was the people who first invested some time showing me they cared and were looking out for the best interests of me, my DH and our marriage, who could give me the much needed occasional 2 X 4 that had a beneficial effect. When someone who is normally kind and caring comes at you with a 2 X 4, YOU NOTICE, much MUCH more than someone who is "known" for that.

SC, you don't have to defend yourself to anyone. You know who you are, and that's all that matters!
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NOW

DITTO! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

SC, I know how it feels to be “attacked” and if people make false assumptions and accusations about you…and I certainly understand the need then to fight back and defend yourself in such a situation (especially if the assumptions, judgements, labels and accusations about you is NOT true and coming from people who don't even know you personally)…so I have empathy with you… But as NOW has said, you don’t really need to do that (defend yourself), because you know who you are…and in the end it’s not really worth the effort.

Take care.

(((HUGS)))

I found that you had posted to a lemonman thread where he discussed the roles that people play here. It was the first post you ever made. He said a bunch of stuff I am not going to quote here, but it boiled down to the fact that different people play different roles. Now it is that you don't like Mel's role, which is one of many on here if you remember the point that Lemon made. Ok, your right to your own opinion.

Do you also not vote because you don't like all the power games in Washington? What I mean by that is that you have the power of one. You can make a difference if you want to make a difference. By going away, you make a difference by abandoning the field to those with whom you disagree. If you stay and post your own beliefs, then you are making a contribution, one that may be of use to someone who needs help.

Even if I disagree with you, I would encourage you to post your beliefs. I don't own the truth and neither does anyone else here other than the site is pro marriage, anti affair and determined to stay that way.

Larry

Hiya Bob:

As always, words of wisdom. Another Bob, last name Dole once defined wisdom more or less as age and experience tempered by intellect.


Did you enter that one in the foggy statement contest? I have often thought about starting up an OM foggy statement contest, but don't think I would find many takers. My own entry would be the one the OM made when my wife told him to get lost and stay lost, which was, "But you promised."

Somehow, the BS fog of my own lifted a bit, the sun shined through and I laughed my [censored] off. Thanks for the trigger. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Larry

Very well said.

There is someone on here who gave me a great deal of courage to believe the way I did. He's one of those crazy fruit and nuts sort, with a long white beard and an affinity for VW's and the planet Mars, but I'll never say who. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Post like what you just posted give people courage, Larry. That's a great thing to give to someone.

Weaver:

I remember you saying:


And thinking at the time I needed to agree with you, but then I forgot. I didn't ignore what you said, I just forgot because I got all wrapped up in another point someone else made. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Dang. Thanks for the compliment.

Larry

Another Bob, last name Dole once defined wisdom more or less as age and experience tempered by intellect.

But Judas Priest once sang " youdon't have to be old to be wise ". I know who I'd rather believe <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I did start to compile some of the funniest / worst fog speak. Click here . It was healthy for me at teh time and now I really do smile to read it.

"but you promised" is a real top ten-er larry. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

[b] <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> OPs SUCK <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> too funny Pep.

Oh, no. Not the OPdar going off again.

HEY !

the thread title reads:

"Bashing OPs"

I thought it was either an invitation or an order !!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Hey, change that to "Bashed OP's" and you've got yourself a tasty new side dish! Along the lines of "Beaten Eggs" and "Whipped Potatoes"....cooks can be so cruel.

At this point in the thread I'm probably talking to myself, but here goes...

Some thoughts:

JL is wonderful.

I've bashed. I've been bashed. I've lived.

We're all adults here.

Infidelity ain't pretty. In fact, it's a messy, ugly business.

Consequences often hurt like he11 but make you grow.

Most posters on MB are good people in pain. Some aren't in pain anymore but hang around to help. They're good people, too.

Bad people often get out after 5 posts <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />. I made that number up, but you know what I mean. Most bullies don't hang around for long.

Almost everyone who's ever posted here has had enough pain in their lives to last a lifetime.

50 is the new 30 (I just threw that in there to make myself feel better).

Bottom line: Life isn't always nice, but I believe everything happens for a reason. Try to find the reason.

bwhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

priceless

I loveth you.


Bashing at one time was considered fun.

"...having a big bash down at the west pier this evening, be there or be square"

Attendence almost seemed mandatory, and no one got all riled up at what it might mean to attend a "bash".

Okay, that was lame.

"lame" is Weaver's middle name

this is a bashing thread, after all <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Wow, you woundeth me...

and that thucks.

In our house you can only say one of the "s" words if you lithp while you are doing it. Forget to lithp and it is a violation.

thutup thoopid. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I liketh that

My kids always try to say [email]cr@p.[/email] I always yell at them for it. So my ODD made up crapeola. And any other variation of the word, thinking I wouldn't catch on!

So OP's are full of crapeola..

Smartcookie, as the parent of three teenagers I certainly understand the logic behind your ORIGINAL post. MB culture being what it is, it was no surprise to see it twisted and dismissed as wayward thinking. Parenting teens and marriage building with a fogged WS are sort of similar…kids and WSs can be selectively/obstinately hard of hearing! What you posted is just a means to an end, nothing less nothing more. Useful stuff <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> KB