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Thanks to those who've reached out to me over the years & supported me through difficult times. Thanks also to those who've always treated me with dignity & respect in spite of my mistakes & shortcomings.
God Bless.
Last edited by JustUss; 04/30/08 07:15 AM. Reason: reposted AFTER EDIT!
I'm a FWW (35) who had an online EA years ago BH is 36 and we are 11 years married, expecting our 1st child
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Oh please. I'm sure this will really endear you to the mods. LOL.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW) D-Day August 2005 Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23 Empty Nesters. Fully Recovered.
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I feel so powerful. PLEASE! LOL.
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Why do you find this so funny?
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I hear violins. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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speaking for me...not BK...Suzet is a drama queen that loves the attention that comes from her exit. Plus the fact that her words are inaccurate. Any reference I made to being racist was explained by her use of words not acceptable in our country...and then I apologized for the misunderstanding...she chose not to accept the apology. The evil reference was in regards to her not letting the OBS know of her transgressions... I do now and will always consider that evil behavior.
But to answer your question... it is just the drama of the whole thing that I find humorous.
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I never saw her as a drama queen....just a human being who wants to be heard.
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NOW... I, I appreciate that you saw her differently than me. I am not asking you to change your views at all. If she was helpful to you, I hope you can find similar direction from another here.
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Just for Information Only!!
Let's get the REAL facts out there.
Suzet_ had recently emailed me, all mod's on GQ and MB Admin numerous times ASKING to be UNregistered from the forums so she could no longer post. She said she was spending far too much time on the forums. I responded and told her I had no capabilities to UNregister her. The only way I could prevent her from posting would be to ban her and she had done nothing to warrant banning. She requested that I do so. She also added she was feeling attacked by some posters. I was reluctant to ban her. I felt if she REALLY didn't want to post, the logical answer would be restraint. Plus, she might change her mind and decide she did want to post.
When I didn't respond to her ban request, the post critiquing MB posters and lack of moderation was posted.
I tried to defuse it. I locked it, then moved it off the forum. She kept re-entering it. I decided this was HER way of pushing the ban issue and I'd grant her request. We all know the forums are provided by the Harley's to help, advise & assist those needing help or support. MB forum problems are to be sent to me, any other mod or MB Admin. I WILL respond.
Suzet_ was NOT banned BECAUSE of her post.
She was banned at HER request!!
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Thank you Justuss. It is nice to have the facts straight.
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How idiotic.
Sorry Justuss...but it was worth the edit!!!
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"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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Hi Justuss,
Thanks for all the time and effort you volunteer to help us try to help each other in a civil manner.
We appreciate your time (and the other mods and admin) more than is expressed.
I, too, pray that we can keep focued on solutions for individual sitches in spite of our differences.
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Attachment is an awful thing.
I felt and still feel so bad for Suzete, whatever is going on with her, she is in a lot of pain. I have always found her to be a kind and caring person.
I have been thinking a lot lately on why we are so effected by what others think of us, even on a forum that is anonamous. I think in part we view ourselves by how we perceive others to view us.
And this is a community, so our basic human needs would still apply...the need to be valued, to be heard, to contribute.
I know Suzete was very hurt from some emails we exchanged. I mean not hurt by our emails, but hurt on here. It seems while I can blow things off relatively easily, she can not.
Maybe former waywards need more than the rest of us to have others view them in a good light, so that they can begin to view themselves in that good light as well. I don't know. Just trying to understand the attachment thing.
Mr and Mrs. Suzete,
What ever happened here, in the big scheme of things this is not that important. Let it go and enjoy each other. And as some wise soul on here always says.."be good to one another".
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Justuss,
My wife did request to be unregistered from the boards. However, she never said she felt she spend too much time on the forums. That was not the reason for her request. We still have all the posts my wife sent to you and other moderators.
My wife wanted to be unregistered from the boards AFTER she received many name-calling and attacks from one certain poster and after nothing was done by the moderators when those posts were reported. Underneath is my wife’s last post to you:
From: “Suzet” Sent: 13 August 2007 09:17 AM To: 'JustUss2@aol.com' Cc: 'tempestmb@yahoo.com' Subject: MB FORUM - Request from Suzet_
Dear JustUss,
I send you a “reminder” of last weeks request since I see I’m still shown as a member to the boards. I have not yet received any response and/or action from Tempest in this regard and since it seems there might not be a way to delete my MB registration without “banning”, I will accept to be “unregistered” through the “banning” method in stead.
It’s really important for me to not be able to post and be shown as a member on the boards anymore. I want this decision to remain final and permanent and that’s why I need your assistance in this regard. Therefore I will really appreciate if you can adhere to this request and perform it as soon as possible. I’ve come to realize my existence on the boards is not good and healthy for me or others anymore and that I don’t belong there – especially since some of my circumstances are not totally in line with the MB principles. I’ve also noticed that nothing is done about abusive & hateful posts of some posters (behavior that’s clearly against the rules of posting on the boards) when such posts are reported to the moderators.
Should you require me to send you an e-mail from my linked profile e-mail address again before this request can be performed, please let me know.
Thanks in advance, Suzet_
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Kind of childish since Suzet could have just chosen...CHOSEN.. to not post any more. This would have led to less drama and that would not have satisfied her need to exit with "flair."
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Dear JustUss,
I send you a “reminder” of last weeks request since I see I’m still shown as a member to the boards. I have not yet received any response and/or action from Tempest in this regard and since it seems there might not be a way to delete my MB registration without “banning”, I will accept to be “unregistered” through the “banning” method in stead. CHECK PLEASE.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Perhaps her point was to show that people ARE leaving this board because of the name-calling, personal attacks, and mob mentality that has created an atmosphere where its OK to treat people this way.
There have been several others...Ladyjane, 2BNormal, just to name a few.
She raised the concern why it appears that sometimes the TOS aren't being enforced evenly. Others besides Suzet have asked that same question...
Why is it against the rules for ONE person to say "that's idiotic" but ok for another to say "are you smoking crack?"?
And that's MILD compared to what's been said.
Call it drama...she's making a point...and one that several posters have also agreed is a good one.
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