It seems to me that most of the women who are adamantly against porn must be unattractive. I say this because one of the main arguments used against porn is that they cannot compete with the women in porn. I've seen plenty of porn where the women weren't all that great looking. Why do women always say they can't compete with these women unless they aren't all that attractive themselves. If that is the case, then maybe porn isn't the enemy. The enemy might be any other woman who is attractive. So why pick on porn. I've known several women who had no problem with pornography. They even liked to look at it themselves.

It is possible, and also not uncommon, to be a healthy, well-adjusted adult and still enjoy pornography. Viewing pornography in itself is not an evil thing. Why are women so threatened by it? Many of the men in porn are great looking, muscular, and well-endowed, but you never hear men complaining that they can't compete with those porn stars.

What's up with that?

Just a few questions I had that I thought might be worth a discussion.

Thanks for reading and posting(if you do post).

Have a great day.

Yes, attractive women do indeed hate porn!

Yep, pretty women can hate porn.

To expand on that would sound boastful, so I'll just leave it at that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />


That's an over-generalization. For many women it's not an issue of competition. There ARE other reasons to dislike porn.

Dude,

You got the way wrong forum here.

****edit*****

sorry but what you said is just ridiculous. I am not going to go into what my looks are, lets just say I have never been unfortunate in that capactiy. Porn is an immature escape to a real relationship. It has nothing to do with what a women looks like. We women know that there is always going to be someone prettier, richer and have a H that dosen't watch porn and thinks his W is the most wonderful, beautiful women on the planet.

Funny. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I wondered how us girls were supposed to respond to that.

I don't feel threatened by the women in porn, and I neither like nor need porn to get turned on. However a sexy movie or story with no hard porn, just I guess you would call it soft porn or sexiness is nice sometimes. And you know, girls can look at guys who look hot with their clothes on and admire their bodies, cute face, or studly personality, no need to see the nitty gritty to admire the view, yanno?

My husband used porn a bit when he was single sometimes because he is visual and needed some visual aid, but after we got married he dumped it all. Yep, I didn't even ask him to. Said he didn't need it anymore.

In fact he was a bouncer at a strip club while in college and said he quit because he had become so desensitized to womens naked bodies that he thought he was getting wierd. LOL

I don't think I would be very attracted to a man who needed/wanted porn on an ongoing bases. It would signify a lack in some way in his own imagination and spirituality.

No offense to you though Chris.

Do attractive women hate for their husband to have affairs? Or is it just insecure, homely gals who hate to see their husbands treat their marriage disrespectfully?

Congratulations, setfree. You've been added to my "IGNORE" list. I don't want to waste one more second of time on you, not even by accident.

I hope you find some wisdom and maturity someday, somewhere.
Mulan

Chris...that has to be one of the most ***** questions you could ask. It shows your immaturity and stupidity to make that assertion.
First of all...not all people view beauty the same way. I personally would never find a woman in porn attractive. The women I find attractive are such to me because of the whole package..not their boobs, butt or ho ha.... I have been with women that others considered beautiful...and some that society might not be conditioned to think that about them...but they were beautiful in my eyes....and they felt beautiful..which is always attractive.

Grow up little boy.

Weaver, thanks for your post. I totally agree with everything you say. Really! I think you make some excellent points. I especially like what you say about a man, or woman I suppose, who needed/wanted porn on an ongoing basis signifying a lack in imagination or spirituality. Well put!!!

ugh! I am with you, weaver. When I think of a guy who likes porn, I always think of some pimply little weasel sitting in front of the computer *****edit*****. Hardly a manly image! YUCK!!

Anyway, the others are right. It has nothing to do with being ugly, pretty or male or female, unless one believes that DR BILL HARLEY is an ugly ole broad. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> There are good reasons to be offended to by porn.

Among them would be that it is just indecent. It is disgusting to those who view sex as something more than just an animalistic act, *****edit****** Nothing beautiful or sexy about that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Secondly, most men masturbate to porn, which means they are getting their need for sex outside of marriage, a big NO NO. Watching porn also seems to give the participants a fondness for extreme forms of sex that most folks would find disgusting. We have had several women come on this site and complain about the damage caused to their sex lives by porn. They were expected to perform like **** in order to satisfy their husbands.

But here is the bottom line: porn is often a huge lovebuster and it doesn't matter WHY it offends the wife. If it is offensive, then he should stop it. If he continues, then the marriage has a much greater problem than porn, it has a spouse who does not care about the feelings of his wife.

Here is what Harley says about porn:


entire article at: http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5050a_qa.html

What in the world??
I was facetiously replying to Chris, that being attractive has nothing to do with how much it hurts when a husband betrays you either with a porn obssession, or an affair. I am truly sorry if you did not understand my sarcasm. Someone who hasn't been blocked by Mulan please convey my apologies for coming across wrong.

Hey Mel... I told you to get that camera out of my house! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I hate being spied on!

Chris,

My experience is that most of the complaints have something to do with the women not getting what she thinks she should be getting between the sheets. Many end up getting nothing at all.

If her man was using porn and he was satisfying her physically and emotionally, then she would be downloading the stuff for him.

I don't care if my H uses porn. He is one cracker-jack in bed...but then he always has had a high testosterone level and doesn't actually need all that extra porn-type stimulation to get his hemoglobin up to the task! But, hey...if there is something organically wrong...if the penis is desensitized...if nature didn't give you all it takes...if you need a little something extra to man-up to the plate, I say porn is a wonderful thang for the wang! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Ditto

Just to clarify, I don't particularly like or dislike porn. Frankly, I don't care much about it one way or the other. I find it interesting though that many women are so hateful towards pornography. Why do they even care? It's not the porn that is the problem. The problem is the man who feels the need to view it obsessively. If you took away the porn, wouldn't the underlying problem still exist? The need or desire for something else.

It reminds me of the debate over violent video games. You know the one where people blame the video game for some kid pulling out a gun and harming others. It's not the game that is the problem, the game didn't do anything. It's the damn violent kid that is to blame! Otherwise, how do you explain the fact that thousands of other kids play the same game and DON'T go out and commit violence? If all it takes is a video game to drive someone to commit a violent act, isn't there an inherent problem to begin with.

Same with porn. If watching porn is enough to emotionally pull someone away from their relationship, isn't there a deeper problem to begin with? Otherwise, how can you explain the thousands, perhaps millions, of other people who watch it and AREN'T adversely affected?

Just my 2 cents.

Thanks for listening.

bwhahahhaaa <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I have a daughter....
I have a son

till the day comes when I would be so very very happy and proud to have my daughter/son be in porn...

I can not find anything about porn that is attractive...

period..

each person is someones daughter
each person is someone son...

I am not threatened by it one iota...

just sad that people use God's infinite gift of human sexuality...
in such a way....

has absolutely nothing to do with any feeling about me...
cept can't look at my adorable children and wish for any of them to use their time on this earth making porn....

I also married someone who feels the EXACT same way about it...

ARKie

Beautifully said!