LadyL, you can always hit the back button, "copy" what you typed in the little form. Go back to the index, find the topic, and then "paste" what you've written. Evidently your form expired because you took too long to type it out.
So, in other words, nothing's wrong with this forum. It was the user
Thank You. yes I figured this out. copy copy copy
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o..k MrW
Might have been a good thing my last post disappeared, I probbaly waffled too much, so to the point.
I came to MB from the midlife forum, when H and I were having major issues unrelated to infidelity. I would say midlife issues. I just found this forum more to my liking because the basis is more ongoing and constant then other forums where people come and go daily and advice is not always thought out or in good judgement. There are not many forums to my knowledge that have people in longer term marriages posting advice relevant to this situstion which I find here.
That period of our life was extremely stressful and taught me many things. Basically all my thinking stems from the simple fact that you cannot control another person's thinking or actions, and nor should you want to.
If my H decided to leave for greener pastures, he has that choice, I am not his keeper. There were times there when I would gladly packed his suitcase for him <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
Marriage is an agreement between two people, ours could have ended at any time during that period and very nearly did on many occassions. But we both chose to stay and work it out as best we could and have come through to the other side.
Everything I think is based on this and trust. I trust that if he is committed, he will do what is right and good for us both. I don't need to check/snoop to make sure if does. I know he will as he knows I will, without givng it another thought. This has been proven time and time again. (added)
I would consider it dis-respectful to even consider.
You don't share or reveal anything about yourself which to me indicates you are hiding behind your anonymity.
Sooooooooo, that makes me WW!
I don't reveal much about myself to anyone especially on the net, apart from the obvious reason, I have seen people here use personal information against some time and time again. Must admit, this has a reversee side where it can be used for good to track people down who abuse others and think they can get away with it! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
This is very foggy thinking...especially for somebody that has been around long enough to see it work to save marriages.
I'm still not sure it does save marriages. Where is the surveys that prove it?
Its all speculation. Most people who post here disappear never to be seen again, then there are others who are 'recovered' still having issues. People will sometimes see what they want to see, it's human nature.
Your BIL cheated on your sister and he married the OW and yet you still think he's a great guy worthy of your love and admiration
He is a great guy and I do care about him. As I've said he was a part of my life for 25 years. I chose to judge him on the person he has proven to be over that period rather than by a mistake he made in an unhappy marriage. If you ask my S, I'm sure she would freely admit he is a kind and decent person who for many years was very honourable.
Might be just my family but we have many examples of people now divorced who are still included on family occassions. I don't get, what you don't get about this.
You have consistently defended and come to the aid of waywards getting 2x4'ed here on the boards. Birds of a feather flock together
Could it be that these are the people who get bashed the most here? WW's are your words... are they? I have personally not checked or kept track of who I defend, so maybe you are right.
You proclaim yourself the protector of the abused yet fail to protect your sister, fail to keep from abusing MEDC with the same vigor you criticize in others, and jump to conclusions yourself about others. You are just as mean (human) as anybody here. The false pride and insecurity is transparent.
Whoa...
fail to protect your sister
Fail to protect my S from what? I was my S main supporter, still am and always will be. But I will not bash someone else to be of support to her, especially someone who has treated me with decency and respect.
fail to keep from abusing MEDC with the same vigor you criticize in others
Double whoa!!!
Am i reading this right!?!?!? Abusing MEDC!?!?!?
Holey sh*te.
If that is how you see it, let me cut and post some dialoge from the said thread in order and tell me you still think that !!!!! Wasn't long ago you were bashing Medc daily as was just about every person on this site ...and for good reason!!!!!!
Ooops, forgot one. You stated you'd be pretty much OK if your husband cheated on you. He travels a lot for business yet you blindly trust him, won't snoop on him ever and stated something like "if he'd cheated we'd either work it or not...no big deal". Wow, was all I thought, but then why would you care...it would even the playing field since you've already cheated on him (conjecture).
as above
I stated clearly this is my opinion. I am 95% sure I am right about you and I sincerely apologize if I am wrong (a conditional apology is OK in this situation becuase I'll never truly know if I am wrong).
Apology accepted. You are very wrong, and it can be proven 100% but anyway .. whatever ... I know when I look in the mirror, I am the person I say I am, so what you think means naught to me.
Another reason I don't post much, it drives me crazy. I edit and re-edit and drive myself insane. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />