don't send it....wait for Jennifers advice.....and BE STILL......

not2fun

Too late... I sent it. I posted Jennifers response... She said I could send it... so I did...

Bump... for advice.

Hey Amazin,

Has she called??? Any communication???

How are YOU doing???? That;s the real question.

not2fun

Nope... Nothing...Not a peep.

I sent the email last night. But She hasn't responded.

Should I worry? Like I said... It's like she's plan B'd me...

I guess I'm doing all right. I want my wife and family back. And I miss the companionship.

I took a break from my workout routine this week. I didn't run at all. I kind of felt like I was tired all week and my body needed a rest so I just didn't run. Next week... New story... I'm going to hit the gym hard... I want to keep up my workout routine, continue re-shaping my body and keep from getting depressed.

I borrowed a co-workers truck this weekend. I'm going to drive and pick my son up tomorrow. Since I have the truck all weekend I'm going to start looking for a couple of beds at the goodwill and used furniture stores.

I got my tax return back today... I paid off my credit card with the money... and I have a little left over. In some ways I feel guilty about filing seperatly... but on the other hand... she stuck me with paying the last $1900.00 off on her car... took my daughters bed with her and stuck me with a $170.00 long distance bill. So I don't feel that bad about it...(not to mention she's having an affair)

I was thinking I want another vehicle but I'm not sure if I should get one with a pending divorce... Any thoughts?

Amazin...

I hear ya on the companionship.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />.

DO NOT BUY A CAR....

you do not need the burden right now....you just paid off your CC why would you bring on new debt??? What is wrong with the car you have now??? You should know better than to make ANY major decisions right now...and don't even go LOOKING at them, you are too vunerable.

Hmmm...you emailed it???? You really want my personal FEMALE opinion on this???

not2fun

Yes... I want your opinion...

I emailed it... Why? Is that a problem?

I have a gas saving 2 door junker that I drive 45 miles round trip to work 5 days a week...And a classic that I'm wanting to restore... but I kind of need something a little bigger that's dependable...

That's why I borrowed the truck this weekend. I don’t have anything that’s very big that I could put stuff in or haul anything with. (It’s kind of hard to put a lawn mower in a Ford Escort if you know what I mean) I'm not too worried about more debt... I'm doing pretty well financially right now. I don’t want to go hog wild and spend 20,000 on a new vehicle... more like 3000-5000 on something bigger that's dependable. I could pay that amount off in about 6-12 months...

I don’t ”need” another vehicle right now... It would just be nice... I can wait... Just wanted to know what ya’ll think...

Advice registered and filed...

Thanks Not2

Ok you asked for it....

No, emailing is not a problem if you are writing you friend, coworker, or neighbor, but for a LOVE letter, it should be a handwritten gesture. Emailing will not make or break the intent of your letter, but a handwritten on looks like you put time and energy to get her attention. Females like these little touches. I'm just sayin'..... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />. Plus, when she first reads it, she will probably just roll her eyes and possibly delete it. Even if she doesn't delete it, she still has to get on a computer to re-read it, unless she takes the time out to print it, which in her current state of mind, she will not do.

But a handwritten one, she can pull out and look at anytime she begins to doubt what she is doing or when she has momentary feelings or thoughts of you...and I am betting, being a female myself...that she would re-read it.

It just makes it a little more personal in my book, plus it's not something that is done any more....

So, don't beat yourself up over this, you didn't know, but think about what I said, and hand write the next one and mail it to her....

not2fun

I just have to say this before I read what you said....

Tag you're it... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I just posted on your thread too...LOL

yeah...nothing like a "fun" friday night on the boards...... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

OK...I'm back....I had to go pick my daughter up at her friends house.

I see what you mean about sending a real letter... and not an email... WW never really told me where her Apt was... But I still know the address... Originally when I mentioned that to Jennifer she said it doesnt' matter what format... email, letter, etc... she just needs to be able to read it.

The next one I'll send as a real letter. I'll even put some of her favorite colone on it...

So...

I borrowed my co-workers truck for the weekend so I can pick up my son and his stuff. I went to bed early because I was getting up at 4:00 to drive 4 hours there and 4 hours back. At 11:00 last night the phone rings and wakes me up. My daughter answers it so I went back to sleep. It’s my step-daughter. She wants to know if WW’s father is here. She explains that WW’s father left a message on her phone and thought he might be staying here. My daughter say’s “no he’s not here, and I’m tired and going back to sleep.”

This morning I asked my daughter who called. She tells me and my wheels start turning. My suspicion is that WW saw the truck in the driveway and tried to use my SD to find out who was here. I figure I’ll never really know and just log it in my memory.

On the way home from picking up my son guess who calls my cell... Yep... WW calls. I saw it was her and didn’t answer it. I was having a good time with the kids and didn’t want to spoil it. So then she text messages me...”Please Call”...

So when I stopped for gas I call. And our conversation went something like this.


WW: Did you cancel me off the insurance?

Me: No why?

WW: Because I keep getting stuff in the mail from the insurance company.

Me: Well they know that we’re separated. I told them that I was going to drop you after your car was paid off. They said that you could get insurance with them after that if you so desired. Did they send it to my address or yours? (Of course I know I didn’t give them her new address)

WW: Let me see. Oh they did send it to your address. Ok.. I was just wondering. Did my dad call and leave a message on your phone?

Me: No why?

WW: Well he called and left a strange message. Something about sitting next to a pretty girl. I thought he might have stopped at your house on his way to Florida.

Me: Nope he didn’t call and he’s not at my house.

WW: So did you get a new truck?

Me: No... Why would you ask that?

WW: I saw the white truck in your driveway last night and though my dad may have gotten a new truck. I thought he might have gotten a new truck and that was his in your driveway.(The truck in my driveway has FL plates on it... He’s not from FL... or a resident)

Me: Oh, my co-worker and I traded vehicles for the weekend. She’s got my gas saver and I have her truck. While I have it I’m going to get my oldest daughter a new bed.

WW: Oh OK. Well SD isn’t using the top half of her bunk bed. You can have it if you want it.

Me: Well thank you. I appreciate that. It keeps me from having to buy another one.


Hmmm....I find it funny ... “did you drop me off the insurance”... “Did my dad call” Excuses just to call me and snoop...LOL


She’s keeping tabs on me... I think she knows exactly whose truck was in my driveway last night ... She called to see if I was messing around with my co-worker... Or she really did think I bought a new truck...LOL... either way I think it’s funny that she called.

I was surprised that she offered the bed to me... Should I take her up on it? I need two beds and that will allow me to only have to buy one.

Amazin....

Gosh wasn't that a very hard, long wait???? and congradulate yourself on not cracking first. And yep, she is checking up on YOU.....ha ha ha...that is funny.

Ok, the bed is up to you. I would probably take it, so you don't have to buy one. But that would be me...

Back to some more Plan A stuff.......

not2fun

Well I went to the thrift store and bought a bed and a used box spring/mattress set... It's a nice twin 4 post bed (queen anne style) ... They had another one and I'm thinking about getting it too just because I would like a matching set...

I might take WW up on her bed too... She said it's outside behind her apt. wrapped in plastic. I told her that wasn't good for furniture. It will warp the wood. Originally she was going to leave it for my daughter. Then 4 days after she moved out she changed her mind because her daughter needed a bed for her friends to sleep in when they stayed the night... Makes me wonder if she just wanted to take it to be a B*tch since it’s been sitting outside ever since she picked it up.


Hmmm ... let me think... 10 days since she said she doesn't want to see me any more ... LOL

I was thinking ... Maybe I should text her and tell her thanks again for offering the bed... and see when Its available...

add something sweet like "it was nice to hear your voice"

I was going to post this on another thread... but It's much more approapriate here...

Even with all the hurt and anger that I feel...and even with all the unknowns about how this will end ... I have this strange feeling in the back of my head that my WW’s affair may end up being the best thing that has happened to me and my wife. (Is that strange? Do ya’ll feel that way sometimes?) In short ... I have this feeling (intuition maybe?) that when this is over my wife and I will be closer than we ever have been... (Again...Is that strange? Do ya’ll feel that way sometimes?) I have this feeling that no matter which way this turns out, It’s going to be a positive for me and I’ll be better off ... I have a confidence that I’ll be ok and everything will be alright... It’s like I have calmness about me... (Maybe that’s just me “being still”)

Is it strange for me to feel that way or is it normal?

Of course some days I'm more confident than others... Maybe this is just one of those days.

Honestly I've had that feeling, wish it would always stick around though. It's fleeting for me. Somedays ARE better than others.

This is an auto insurance question for anyone with knowledge or expiernce here.

OK...So I borrow my friends truck this weekend to pick up my son. I'm backing out of a parking space and bump into another vehicle.

Who's insurance covers it? Mine or my friends?

Yes it's been a long weekend... I've been stressing about it all weekend and feel like crap that this happened. My friend has been real nice about it so far but if it's her insurance then she might not be so cool about it.... and if there's no coverage at all because she's not in the vehicle... I'm gonna freak....I really don't need this right now...

your friends insurance covers it.

Thanks MEDC,

I got the same answer from my insurance company. I really don't want her insurance to go up. My friend said that she talked to her insurance company and if the damage is more than $750.00 then it's going to go up. I'm really bummed out about it...