Believer,

I was thinking about this a little today... My first wife is very irresposible and dependent...

My current wife seems to be at the opposite end... very independent ... and responsible... (Too independent for her own good if you ask me...LOL)

I've had counselors say that sometimes when you leave a bad relationship you look for qualities in your next mate that your former mate didn't have or was lacking in... sometimes to the extreme.

It kind of seems like that's what I did... went from one exteme to the other...Maybe... Maybe not... Just an observation...

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I have a feeling that something’s up with WW.... I’m not sure what ... Just intuition I guess.

I haven’t been keeping a real close eye on my wife like I was a month ago. But I have sensed a change in her routine lately. Last weekend I think she spent the whole weekend with her female friend. (The Cheating Bimbo that I can’t stand) The weekend before that... Same thing... WW, SD and the friend all went snow tubing on Saturday and then they spent the night at the female friend’s house... (I’m not absolutely sure... but about 95% percent sure that’s what happened. And I don’t know if the OM was with them at any time.)

The weekend before that... (February 16th & 17th) SD Spent the weekend at my house and WW was at the female friends house on Friday night and Saturday... Saturday night... she may have been with OM... Sunday morning I saw her car at his Apt...That’s the last time I know for a fact they were together... I haven’t caught his car at her apt in about 3 weeks. And I haven't seen her car at his place since the 17th.

I saw her car at an AA meeting that is right across the street from his apt about a week – 10 days ago... but she was parked in the AA parking lot and not his Apt parking lot like she usually is.

Recently she seems to be spending a lot of time with her female friend. And I’ve noticed she’s been getting home late in the evening... even on weekdays. I’m not sure if she’s still going to AA regularly... And I’m not sure she’s going to the Sunday Church service that is followed by and AA meeting. She might be but I’m not sure...

Plus she surprised me this week with a couple of nice gestures after she said she wanted a divorce 2 weeks ago.

Anyway... I’m wondering if she’s just being more discrete... She’s not seeing OM right now... she’s seeing another OM...

I just got a feeling something’s up...But I may be reading way too much into nothing...

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Anyone???

Amazin....

uhmmm...who cares??? what are you doing for YOU today???

Seriously though, I would wonder too much whether "they" are on or off...just keep up your Plan A.....

Hows everything else??? How's the transistion going with the son????

not2fun

Ya... I guess you're right... It doesn't do me any good obsessing about her or anything that I don't have control over... Maybe I'm just lonely...I dunno...

What am I doing for me?... well I've kind of put myself on the back burner since picking up my son and all... I haven't been to the gym in two weeks... (But you’re body needs a rest every now and then) I'm going to go today maybe ... and definitely next week. I need to write another letter to the wife. I’ve been kind of busy with my kids so I haven’t written the next one yet.

How’s the transition going? Great... Having my son move back in with me was definitely the right thing to do. I feel good about it. We went to register him for school on Tuesday. He’s such a good kid and really smart... We had to talk to the Vice Principal. She asked him a question about why he was moving in with me... He said he just needed some stability. (I was surprised at the maturity of his answer and that he “Gets It”.) When he transferred to his old school in December they didn’t accept all of his classes for graduation credit. He had to take 7 classes and pass all of them in order to graduate. He said none of the teachers or counselors at his old school thought he would graduate this year. .When we went to see the counselor on Tuesday she couldn’t understand why they did that... After she re-adjusted his credits ... he only has to take 2 classes to graduate.... I know he felt soooo much better after talking to the guidance counselor and being able to graduate this year. I’m sure he felt like that was hanging over his head before. Now he can start college next fall. I talked to him last night. He’s glad that he’s here... And it’s kind of funny... He actually said he’s getting use to his short hair and he’s probably going to leave it that way. (I’m so glad because he looks sooo much better)

Since I had to use my friends truck last weekend I started thinking I need a different vehicle... Something that I can get all my kids in, still haul and tow with ... an all purpose vehicle. Extended cab pickup...

My current car is just a cheep Junker that I bought to drive back and forth from work. 2 months after I bought it (with cash) I got in a hit and run accident. I never got the car fixed because I only had liability and they wanted $2500 to fix it. (I only paid 3000 for it) So now it has 166,000 miles on it. It’s a gas saver that’s paid for itself 3 times over.

So I start looking at trucks on the internet earlier this week. I happen to find one that’s got low miles, 4x4, extended cab, and cheap... (My kind of vehicle.) I looked at it yesterday... they make me a great offer... so last night I call my bank to see about a loan... It usually takes 28-48 business hours... They approve me over the phone...

So I get the check today and go by the dealership. The truck isn’t ready and they tell me to come back tomorrow. As I’m driving home I’m thinking to myself ....”Do I really want to buy a vehicle right now? It’s not too late to change my mind... I haven’t given them the check yet.” Then I think...”Well maybe I just need to let God show me what to do... Maybe he’ll give me a small sign if I ask him... I hope I see it... (My Faith is small and this goes back to the message about listening to God and his plan for us... I’m listening lord...)

About 5 minutes later guess what... my gas saving Junker gets an exhaust leak... It gets really loud... embarrassingly loud... People are staring at me it’s so loud... I got this big smile on my face... I’m just keep driving like it’s not even there...

I said a small sign lord...not a 2x4... LOL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

lol that even put a smile on my face! Good for you and good riddance to the cheep junker! I guess if nothing comes up between now and the time the truck is ready, it's probably got your name written on it!

Glad I could put a smile on your face...

As I was driving home I had this big grin on my face... I'd stop at a light.... rev the engine... look over at the car next to me... Smile... Wave... and act like nothing was wrong...Then take off with a ROAR... I just kept smiling...

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Amazin,

That cracks me up....Don't ya wish He was giving us CLEAR signs on what to do with our WS???

How's everything else going????

not2fun

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> the harder the head the harder the 'hit' I guess <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Funny you should say that.... My nickname should be lumpy... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I got lumps and bumps going all the way back to childhood...

Yes I have a hard head.... All of my family was born in Missouri... Have you ever heard of a Missurra Mule? I'm even worse... I'm so stubborn I refused to come out of the womb until my parents moved out of the state...LOL

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HEY NOW....I take exception to that comment..... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Thanks Not2....Exactly my point...LOL


See what kind of stubborn mules come from Missurra...

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I didn't know you were from MO Not2... Whar abouts?

My parents were originally from a little town in N.E. MO. The moved to IA right before I was born...

All of my siblings live in those two states...

Born and breed (but I ain't no mule....lol)

st. louis area.....

MIZ!!!

ZOU!!!


We bleed black and gold here, although bball season has been rough for a several years now. . .

What an interesting weekend!

My wife was supposed to let me know on Friday if my stepdaughter was going to come over for the weekend. She blew me off. I didn’t hear from her all weekend. Supposedly she had to go do her court ordered community service. I doubt she did.

It was my son’s 18th birthday on Saturday. I took him to the dentist Saturday morning and he got his first 2 fillings. They must have been really small because they didn’t even numb him up. After that we went and got the truck from the dealership. I had him drive it about an hour back home while I drove my gas saving Junker. I was kind of nervous because he’s only had his license for about 2 months, he’s not familiar with this area, and it was raining real badly on the way home. But we made it just fine. After we got home I decided to take him and his sisters out to eat. He said he loves Chinese food so I took him to a special restaurant about an hour away… It’s a big Chinese buffet that also has Mongolian BBQ and a sushi bar. It has all sorts of stuff there, all you can eat crab legs, crawfish, and salmon, etc… you name it they have it… We pigged out until our stomachs bulged…A good time was had by all…

There was a lot of rain and wind this weekend. So when we get home there was a 60 ft blue spruce that had blown over in my yard. It took out my phone line and was lying across my driveway. I have no phone or internet at home right now and the phone company isn’t going to fix it until Wednesday. And I was thinking the huge tree in my driveway is going to cost me $$$ to get it cut up and removed… Bummer…

So Sunday morning we go to church. It’s the first time I’ve been in about a month. The theme of the sermons for the next few weeks is “Open Doors.” I received several messages from the sermon and I’m glad I went.

The theme scripture is Revelation 3:8 “Behold, I have put before you an open door which no one can shut…”

Here are a couple of the scriptures that ministered to me…

Ephesians 4:17-19

“With the Lord’s authority let me say this: Live (walk) no longer as the ungodly do, for they are hopelessly confused. Their closed minds are full of darkness; they are far away from the life of God because they have shut their minds and hardened their hearts against him. They don’t care anymore about right and wrong, and they have given themselves over to immoral ways. Their lives are filled with all kinds of impurity and greed.”

Ephesians 5:25

“Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church – a love marked by giving, not getting.”

Ephesians 5:11-13

“Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. But everything exposed by the light becomes visible…

The Message:

On this side of the door you are saying… You don’t care about right and wrong:

On the other side of the door – God says you will --- walk circumspectly:
(Circumspect = watchful and discreet; cautious; prudent.)

Ephesians 5:15

“See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise.”

The preacher went on to say “When you walk through that door God doesn’t just bless you… his blessing spreads beyond you to others.”

Deuteronomy 28:2

“All these blessings will come down on you and spread out beyond you because you have responded to the Voice of God your God.”

At the end of the service the preacher asked if there was anyone who was ready to walk through that door.

I went forward and gave my life to Christ.

After Church we went home and guess what…. My neighbor had cut up the huge tree and removed it from my driveway.

Thank you for that Lord!

This is AWESOME Amazin! Welcome to the Kingdom! Life won't always be a bowl of cherries but when you live your life in devotion to the Lord, your perspective tends to change about things. I'll keep you and yours in my prayers.

Amazin.....

This is WONDERFUL news.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


Good for you....Now THAT, my friend, is a POWERFUL change for you....

not2fun

Hey Amazin, how ya doing? You slipped back to the 2nd page so I'm bumping you back to the first.