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geez...it is your running on about this that has resulted in identifying the poster. I had no idea who they were talking about. perhaps you will want to remove the name from your post. I will not reference it here.

I've been reading the whole thread.

It's not hard to tell who has been targeted.

And this isn't the first time it has happened to the same person.

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it's just a suggestion. Even if the person was targeted...which I don't have a clue what this is about...you are drawing the bulleye with your post.

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you might want to edit the post before that one too...I will delete my entries

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It's gone, Mimi & medc.

I have seen this happen to the same person more than once. I admire this person even if people want to hint there are feet of clay - because I know we all have feet of clay.

So, while some might not have picked up on the target, I would hazard a guess that the target was aware of the not-so-hidden threat.

My apologies. I frankly find it appalling.

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I can't say if I do or don't(find it appalling)...it all depends on the issue. Some things, IMHO, should be exposed here. others, not. If they are germane to the issues(marriage/infidelity) of the board, i think the topic should be handled honestly by all involved. If not..it is up to the poster to divulge whatever they choose. I don't think we all have feet of clay Graplin. Some people are just out there....others choose to be more guarded.

Whatever the issue is, i hope the person handles it in a manner consistent with their values.

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My apologies. I frankly find it appalling.

As do I. I am extremely sorry for any part I had, in inadvertently propagating unsubstantiated innuendoes.

Trying to change the subject to something humorous:

graplin, your sig grossed me out at first... until I realized you were talking about shoes! Hushpuppies are also things you eat, with barbecue or catfish. lol
There's a certain restaurant in NC with great hushpuppies, which happen to look a lot like cat turds. So you suggested peeing on them too...


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DS 8a think
DS 8b :crosseyedcrazy:
(Why is DS7b now a blockhead???)
(Ack! Now he's not even a blockhead, just a word! That's no fun!)
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Wow, jayne, we all do respond to things from our own filters!

LA, have you been on the boards less lately, or is that just my perception? Is it on purpose? I can only imagine how much more people are being blessed with time with you IRL. I think of how I keep hearing your words from others, like those ripples that you talk about. How's your family?

Have you been able to keep up the gym routine? I was out sick (from the gym) for two weeks, but I'm so excited to be starting back tomorrow. I'll be thinking of you.


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Rin,

I have been following your thread... you have a lot to be proud of yourself about.

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How are you doing with accepting that you are a whole, complete, and beautiful person these days?
It is a process for me I know that.

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It's been rough going for me from time to time but LIFE IS beautiful!!
I hear ya Rin... sometimes perspective is everything. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Good to hear from you. Keep taking care of you and your beautiful DS's.

Jilly


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Haven't seen an update in a while.

Did I miss it?

Or is it due?

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I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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Haven't seen an update in a while.

Did I miss it?

Or is it due?

SS

Wanted to answer...

:::pregnant pause:::

Awaiting in just two months birth of next granddaughter...

and no, you didn't miss an update.

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Hard to sneak anything by you, SS.

Been reading you, though...

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LOL........

Good one.

Along those lines... aren't grand children fun?

We are up to 9. Glad I married young.

I can still out run them. We are taking them on a "grand kids" over night hike in the mountains in June.


Not sure if you want to do an update, or if it would even be helpful. You seem to be doing well these days.

Just tell me all the important things are OK, and I'll be happy.

If they are not, then start talking. wink

I have been winding down here, but for some reason, I started posting again lately. We'll see if it helps.

Joy in the journey.

SS


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SS,

Nine for an overnight...oh, my! Of course, I remember that your original brood required tactical deployment for family enjoyment.

Nice to hear you laugh, SS.

I noticed your absence and your return...I think there's stalker blood in me...and I believe where God leads, you follow. In fact, I rely on that.

No updates here for now...I'm waiting for more changes on MB before going that far...just posting again took a bit...flexed my bravery muscles.

I will love up my DGD this weekend and think of you...multiplying her times nine...wait...eight more times? Darn...that kinda blew my circuit, I think. And I loved the movie Multiplicity...

I'm just gonna picture nine of her cloned. And love up on her for being just her (singular) for two days. Granny just doesn't have the math anymore.

(((((SS))))) As so many others here, MB is a great place with you in it.

LA

PS Okay, one story...my YS hurt his jaw when he fell Sunday while rock climbing. DH asks, "How far did you fall?" YS: "From my chin to the ground."

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LA:

I'm glad to see you posting again.

I think your contributions here are valuable to many people, and you have helped me learn a lot about myself.

No matter what other, more-frequent posters may write, you should know that you are the only poster here that I read regularly. I would bet that there are others as well.

Thanks,

LoBoy


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LoBoy! Great to see you again. Thank you for posting your opinion.

Great to know.

Thank you right back.

Does my repetition bother you at times? I ask, of course, because it bothers me.

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No updates here for now...I'm waiting for more changes on MB before going that far...just posting again took a bit...flexed my bravery muscles.


LA:

This doesn't sound like you..doesn't fit with how I've experienced you...

IMO, it's UNCARING of you to throw out tidbits about yourself to those of us who have grown attached to you...you are TEASING us with bits of information?

Seems to me that you are giving POWER to the BAD GUYS or whoever or whatever is bothering you...

What happened to your belief in OPENNESS and HONESTY?

What do you have TO FEAR?

I don't get it, LA.

I don't get it at all.

I'm disappointed.

You're giving POWER to MBers? You want MBers policies to determine YOUR CHOICES about posting?


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Mimi!!! I love seeing you on my thread...I swear, it's like seeing your beautiful face, smiling at me.

I appreciate knowing how you experienced me and how this is different...seems dishonest to you; my fear unreasonable.

I'm working on it...thank you for being here and sharing your growth and self consistently. Makes a difference in my life.

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SS,

Nine for an overnight...oh, my! Of course, I remember that your original brood required tactical deployment for family enjoyment.


Wow, a poet too. I'm impressed.
We won't have all 9 on the packpack portion of this. Only the ones who can walk a half mile by themselves. The others will stay in a cabin near the trail head.


No updates here for now...I'm waiting for more changes on MB before going that far...just posting again took a bit...flexed my bravery muscles.

I read what Mimi said. I know she is serious, but part of it made me smile.

LA, You get to do what YOU want !!

Sure we care, but I expect you to do what is best for YOU. Of course, I have learned that friends, if they are REAL friends, will call you on things when you need it. Perhaps that is what Mimi is doing. She has pretty good insight. (SS smiles and raises eyebrows - and hopes more facial expression helps you pick up on what's left unsaid.)

I will love up my DGD this weekend and think of you...multiplying her times nine...wait...eight more times? Darn...that kinda blew my circuit, I think. And I loved the movie Multiplicity...

With 8 kids, the grand kids start adding up fast. 5 of our children are married. Three are (single) and still at home. The twins turn 15 this week. They still spoil their dad. He loves it.

I'm glad you get to spend time with your GD. ISN'T IT FUN !!

I'm just gonna picture nine of her cloned. And love up on her for being just her (singular) for two days. Granny just doesn't have the math anymore.

I can't picture you as a Grandmother. I can't picture me as having grandchildren either, but the facts remain. <grin>
Yes, enjoy her. They grow up so fast.

(((((SS))))) As so many others here, MB is a great place with you in it.

The same goes for you LA.
I so hope you are able to continue the help for which many have long been thankful.



PS Okay, one story...my YS hurt his jaw when he fell Sunday while rock climbing. DH asks, "How far did you fall?" YS: "From my chin to the ground."

LOL.
It's all the more funny because my boys climb too. Thanks for sharing.

Just tell me if you are OK. Or mostly OK.
Prayers continue.

SS


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read what Mimi said. I know she is serious, but part of it made me smile.

LA, You get to do what YOU want !!

Sure we care, but I expect you to do what is best for YOU. Of course, I have learned that friends, if they are REAL friends, will call you on things when you need it. Perhaps that is what Mimi is doing. She has pretty good insight. (SS smiles and raises eyebrows - and hopes more facial expression helps you pick up on what's left unsaid.)

I'm not at all sure what you are saying here...

I don't REALLY know LA but she MEANS alot to ME...to the very bottom of MY HEART

She is a STRANGER who definitely CHANGED MY LIFE...like AN ANGEL here on earth...

I consider her more than JUST A FRIEND...

This is NO JOKE to ME...not to be taken at all LIGHTLY with "raised eyebrows" or whatever...I don't think I appreciate what you have said but, of course, you were not clear and hope LA will "pick up on what's left unsaid"...I certainly didn't get it...



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I know LA can do what she wants to do...and I support that...

But I was SPEAKING MY TRUTH as SHE has MENTORED me in doing...


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SS...yes, mostly okay.

Found out my weekend with DGD begins tomorrow night...earlier than expected...wish me energy, 'k? She loves the outdoors like you do...so we walk a lot. She points to my shoes and waits by the front door...again and again.

This passion only manifested after she began walking around the first of this year.

Funniest thing...she seems to feel the world through her feet. Seriously. She consciously walks on different textures...rock beds, sidewalk concrete, road pavement, different patio materials...her tiny little feet stepping over them first...then she backs up to pick up the texture...doesn't rub it...tests it for sound...she drops rocks to hear their different musical notes. Then I coax for her to return them to their beds.

She refused at first (like her father, she said "no" more than anything)...until I dropped the rock back and she heard it differently than when she dropped it on the sidewalk. We are earth movers, SS. And listeners.

She also likes to sit in raingutters...the concrete narrow strips beneath the gutter spout. Cracks me up because we stop for a sitting time in each. There are a lot in our complex.

She's crazy about dogs and cats...knows how to pet nice...and shriek with excitement to bust their eardrums from ten yards away. Talented.

It's like she's absorbing input...not seeing where she moves the world, but more on how the world moves into her. I can't stop watching her...never has a blessing felt so weighty and real to me in real time before.

Luckily, we'll have great walking weather for her visit. I don't know why I say walking...we really go for stopping...at everything...with small steps inbetween.

She can say "hey-whoa" if you hand her your cell phone. And thank you. And as of last week, "yes" had surpassed "no" for most probable response.

Don't get me started on her beauty, btw.

smile

LA

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