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Stellkat- Yes I work building wood furniture. I wouldnt come onto a marriage board for the hell of it to build a story. Got no time for that nor time for people thinking as such.

Sorry, bro, but you're wrong here.

We DO know your story. We have been there done that. We too have had similar thoughts about the advice received on these boards.

This was the only place telling me the right things to do.

I'm going on three years now of waiting to see if the fog will ever lift. Actually, it's more like I quit caring if it would.

The fog is there. It's going to be there for a looooong time and I too had thoughts of "she'll snap out of it" for a while.

It's called denial. And no, it's not a river in Egypt. It's what you're in right now. It happens. We've been there.

Time to get past that and do what is right for your kids.

"""""""""once she pulls her head outta his a$$""""""""'

buddy i thinkst you need to take your own advice and reach back between your knees as far as you can. grab your ears and with a big yank pull your head out of your behind.

you are in denial. it has been said that we all have been there. that is a fact

""""""""""""I don't believe he is physically harming my kids. My WW is still thinking that this doesnt effect the kids""""""""""

that statement pi$$e$ me off. son if you think this isn't hurting your kids. you my friend are a dips#!t. this is affecting them in more ways then you can imagine. and for you to sit back and not do anything right away.

i am thinking those kids would be better with both you and your ww out of their lives.

dude they are your kids. your ww allows you to see them whenever you want. right. you should be the one with custody and she should be asking you when she can see them.

go to your attorney on wednesday and let us know what he/she says. until then i will read and try and keep up but my advice has fallen on deaf ears. no need for any more typing.

wishing you all the luck, cause you definately need it.

Dagger, another poster just reminded me to ask you if you've had this guy checked out. You know you can check the sexual offenders database in your state for free, right? You've done this much right? A common ploy among SO is to hook up with a woman who has kids-- easy access to the kids.

Nevermind your WW allowing this man to sleep in the same bed with your child and what that says about her-- what does it say about HIM?????

Seriously, this is a DEADLY issue, not to be taken lightly. Find out who this man really is that you "don't know on a real personal level." If you find out he's a SO... CALL THE COPS!