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I'm in the early stages of a divorce and now that I'm alone I feel overwhelmed by thoughts of sex. Websites, bars and women at work. I feel like I just want to do all the things that I wouldn't do while I was married.
The problem is it doesn't make me feel good about myself. I just feel like I don't know what to do with these feelings right now.
I feel alone, rejected and my self-esteem has taken a hit from my wife's affair.
Has anyone else experienced this?
Hope, Love, and Faith
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I don't think you are alone at all. I can't say I had quite the same reaction since SF probably isn't as high for me, but I certainly wanted my ENs met. I was not myself at all the first month or two after separation.
If you're concerned about what you're going to do when left alone, then don't be alone. Have a friend checkup on you to help keep you accountable. Find a hobby or volunteer to help keep you busy and not thinking about these things.
Me 38
Divorced 8/09
DS 10,6
DD 4
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Sounds like you need some new hobbies.
Since you have no one there to police your choices, you are going to have to step up and take responsibility.
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I feel the EXACT same way man. Sex to me with my wife is more than just a feeling, and it tells me she wants to be with me and everything is ok. My self confidence is down so much because of what happened. I feel your pain, but what I do to get through it is hang out with my friends who do want to be around me. I know that I am loved by them and they enjoy my company.
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