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So ask her. Ask her what she's feeling. Don't put it down or contradict it. Just listen and acknowledge her feelings.
Give her a hug and tell her you know it's hard on her.
Kids hate divorce the most.
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I try very hard to talk to her, she say's at times it's hard to talk to me. I don't know if WW puts thoughts in her head that she has a hard time with or she just hates going back and forth as my house is so very differant than where my WW is now.
I listen, I don't judge her feelings, I just wish she would share more.
Me BS (41)
DD 10
DD 8
WW - The big D
"Don't say sorry, just don't do it again"
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>Don't think she liked it, but she has not called back.
She doesn't.
She prolly didn't call back.
She's VD with a job.
Everything she says, VD has said.
(BARF)
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Ok, so the phone rings, it the WW's number which is great as the kids are with her tonight, so it's them calling to say night dad.
No it's WW letting me know that her msn messanger is sending out a porn virus "so don't open anything that has my name on it" a friend of her's got hit by a message she sent.
What the heck is that?
I don't use msn, she should know that, I assume I would need to have an account for this to happen, so was this just her way of trying to chat with me?
It was over very fast, I aske of this had anything to do with the kids, she said no, I said goodbye.
Never understand her.
Me BS (41)
DD 10
DD 8
WW - The big D
"Don't say sorry, just don't do it again"
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...so was this just her way of trying to chat with me? Yes, it was.
Me/WS 32
H 32
M 6 years, together 12
D-Day 3/8/09
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...so was this just her way of trying to chat with me? Yes, it was. L2, yes it was. but not for the right reasons. I thought my WW was rally bad. I thought i had put up with a lot. I also married for hotness, and it makes up with a lot. But not nearly this much. She has cheated on you for practically your whole marriage hasn't she. Nothing will happen until you get rid of her. Maybe, maybe, one day she'll wake up, but I doubt it. If she does you prob won't want her back. I have to totally agree with BR here. Get your ducks in a row and file for D. Protect those kids. Stop worrying about why she is calling you. It isn't with your best interest in mind.
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So friday night without the kids was ok, saw a movie hung oput with some friends.
I was very happy when the kids came home.
Well me being me, I snooped on DD's facebook, and low and behold she had posted three pictures of the night with mom, and what do ya know, in one picture you can see a guy that I don't know.
Asked who he was, DD said he was a friend of mom's and he's nice. Well maybe he is, however she is not allowed to have men over when she has the DD's.
I don't know what to do.
Me BS (41)
DD 10
DD 8
WW - The big D
"Don't say sorry, just don't do it again"
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Save the picture and give it to your lawyer and file for contempt of court and for sole physical and legal custody of the kids.
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I have kept the picture and I will pass it on.
I guess in the end you can just never trust again.
Me BS (41)
DD 10
DD 8
WW - The big D
"Don't say sorry, just don't do it again"
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