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Due to lots of things, my profile is public, and I accept all friend requests. (There are 2 or 3 people in the world that I would turn down, but none of them have had the poor sense to ask me, lol.)
AJ & I have each other's passwords, very easy since they're the same, and we are wary of private messaging. Everything else is right there where AJ, my mom, sister, uncles, aunties, cousins, and good friends can see it.
I am now friends with a childhood nemesis, who grew up to be much less of a creep than I would have predicted, lololol, and my bestest friend from NURSERY SCHOOL if you can believe it, found me and got in touch. We have not seen each other since I was 4 or 5. We both still remember picking ripe strawberries together.
Agree with Cinders - it's all in how you use it.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb Neak's Story
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According to this info, 40% of affairs start with FB. I read somewhere else that 60% of affairs start in the workplace. There's the cure - we all stop working and stop using FB and there won't be any more affairs!  Aren't statistics great? :crosseyedcrazy:
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One more thing: "this audience" was once in "the population in general." Yep! 
Recovery began 10/07;
Meeting my wife's EN's is my "thank you" that refuses to be silenced.
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Slight threadjack....SW here. Big shout out to all my friends out there. I did as you suggested, found evidence IMMEDIATELY and will be filing for divorce tomorrow. There is an OW, lots of porn, evidence that he is still in contact with the cousin...oh and the OW has a H that she has left, maybe 'for' my H. I've contacted him (OW's H)...we are coordinating efforts so we break it to them similtaneously. I will be back with more info when I feel it is safe....but for now, know I'm ok. Thanks for all your help!
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Slight threadjack....SW here. Big shout out to all my friends out there. I did as you suggested, found evidence IMMEDIATELY and will be filing for divorce tomorrow. There is an OW, lots of porn, evidence that he is still in contact with the cousin...oh and the OW has a H that she has left, maybe 'for' my H. I've contacted him (OW's H)...we are coordinating efforts so we break it to them similtaneously. I will be back with more info when I feel it is safe....but for now, know I'm ok. Thanks for all your help! I am officially confused. 
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I've never had too much interest in FB or myspace but have given thought to enrolling since a few girlfriends have asked recently. I live thousand of miles away from just about everyone so no long lost lusts are going to be knocking on my door and I have no problem telling anyone to get lost if they start crossing boundaries.
BW - me
exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
--------Eleanor Roosevelt
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Smiley, thanks for checking in. Sorry to hear your news.
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Who's Smiley? 
BW - me
exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
--------Eleanor Roosevelt
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According to this info, 40% of affairs start with FB. I read somewhere else that 60% of affairs start in the workplace. There's the cure - we all stop working and stop using FB and there won't be any more affairs! Aren't statistics great? :crosseyedcrazy: Awesome! I'm typing my letter of resignation right now! Oh wait, I'm not married anymore! Seriously though, if you are so weak that you can't resist temptation offered from a website, what are you doing married in the first place?
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Who's Smiley?
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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so it kind puts you in instant contact with high school sweethearts. First time in my life I have ever been glad I didn't have any high school sweethearts. At least now I don't have to worry about them contacting me on FB! I am so vulnerable to an affair, that would be tough to resist. Luckily, not something I have to worry about.
When you can see it coming, duck!
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I think that today's technology in general makes having affairs "easier".
I mean when most of us grew up there were no such things as cell phones or FB or Myspace or any of them, yet we all managed to stay in touch with one another.
This is the only website that i am a part of, i do not own a cell phone, i do not own a pager, i do not IM or text or any technologically based anything and i get along just fine.
I call people and talk to them or i send them a card or letter with pictures (heck i do not even have a digital camera i still use a 35mm one).
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Thank you. 
BW - me
exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
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Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
--------Eleanor Roosevelt
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>I've never had too much interest in FB or myspace but have given thought to enrolling since a few girlfriends have asked recently.
I love it because my mom, aunts, uncles, sister, cousins and friends can no longer grumble that I never share the kids' photos with them....
I'm notorious for taking the pics and then never sharing them.
Eh. I've got a Wookie, 5 little Wookies, 2 dogs, 2 cats, 2 guiena pigs and a turtle...with FB I can upload photos directly from my cell phone camera by sending a text message...I don't even have to log in - and I usually don't!
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
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Er, Kimmy, I've looked for you and I see you posting on some of my friend's walls but you're so well hidden and private I CAN'T FIND YOU.
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Just yell MARCO really loud and see if you hear her say POLO.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
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I'm notorious for taking the pics and then never sharing them. Guilty! I registered at snapfish...never used it. I registered with kodakgallery...never used it. I might join although I do know POSOW is on FB too. I could always post a pick of me and H in a lip lock.
BW - me
exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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Ahem...Somebody is about to find themselves on the wrong end of the "de-friended stick"!!!  Mrs. W 
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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FB, and Bebo for that fact, didnt start the A, but certainly helped keep it hidden for a while. Cellphone was a tool as well. Fortunatly, they also were part of what helped kill it 
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